no social life for my kid

United States
October 22, 2010 9:35pm CST
My son is 1 year old. and he hasnt been around other kids. I feel like once i put him in daycare he wont know how to act around other kids. How do i give my son a social life when i stay at home all day with him?
7 responses
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
6 Nov 10
Check on meetup and see if there are any playgroups in your area. That is what I did for my children just after my son was born and it has been very beneficial for both of them. Not only do they have the opportunity to play with other children, they also have the opportunity go on field trips that they wouldn't be able to go on either. I also know that when my son starts school in a year or two, it is going to be great for him because he already knows how to play with other children.
• United States
25 Oct 10
You don't know anyone with kids who can have a play date with your child. Your child is only one he has a few more years to go before school. Your family has no kids that you can take him to or invite over your place?
@minnie15 (146)
• United States
25 Oct 10
Take him to the local play area at a mall or park. Being with other kids is the best way to socialize him. When my daughter was about a year, our AC broke and we spent a lot of time at the play area of the local mall...mainly because it was cool and it was going to take 4 weeks to install our new AC. She sat by my leggs and obseved the other kids for a long time. Eventually she crawled around and started checking things out. Before I new it she was chasing them around. You just have to watch your little one closely to make sure non of the bigger kids step on them as they are running around.
@pastigger (618)
• United States
23 Oct 10
I would say check your local library and see if the have a story time you could take him to. Maybe you could meet some kids for him to play with. Also you can look online for local play groups you could join. I have a home daycare and I can tell you it takes every child some time to adjust to daycare even if the have been in daycare before, children adapt very quickly usually take a week or so to get the flow and they are fine. No child shares well for a while it is a skill that takes lots and lots of practice. He will figure it out and I bet he will have a blast. I know that my daughter gets bored on the weekends because it is just us, she loves to go places and play with other children. We have actually put her in gymnastics so that she can be around other children and so someone other than me is in charge. She loves it and looks forward to it every Saturday.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
23 Oct 10
Hi, I am also a housewife who taking care of my son myself. I can say most of the time, my son will stay indoor as there is no small kids around my neighbourhood. When I first sent him to nursery, I was so nervous that he would cry and make noises. To my suprise,his reaction is not that over and slowly he adapted well there and now I do not have any difficulty to ask him wakeup and go school every morning. Not to worry too much, bring your son out at least once a week to playground or shopping mall. Let him explore more on the outside world and when it is time for him to go school,he will slowly adapt to it. It may take times,some kids may take few months to adapt well in daycare centre or school,but it is phase that every kid will go through and we as parents,need to encourage them and give them support.
• Canada
23 Oct 10
It is good for children to learn a few things before being thrown in with other kids. For example, at the age of one, many children do not have a great idea of object permanence and ownership yet. This means that, to them, as long as they are holding something it is theirs, and if someone else has it, then it no longer belongs to them, and they don't understand that they can get it back. Until a child understands this, it is impossible to understand sharing at all, since they assume that giving up their toy for a few minutes means it is no longer "theirs." Of course socialization is important, but don't feel like your kids don't "get it" just because they won't share and be nice right away. Kids are the centre of their own universe until 2-3 years old, because they need to figure out themselves before they can figure out other people. So your kids are not behind because they haven't been in daycare :) To answer the question though :) you can try parent and tot classes of any type. It's good social time for you, as well!
• United States
23 Oct 10
Contact your local community park districts as they have many free toddler programs and your local libraries. This way your child and you can be around other children and mothers in the similar situation. You will be amazed to find that you are not alone with this. In fact you and your son will make friends and later exchange play days. Good luck.