How do you react when you are in anger...?
By chayapathys
@chayapathys (2111)
India
October 23, 2010 2:46am CST
Some time or the other all of us get anger at some one's remarks.If any one irritates me by his remark I suddenly loose temper and shout aloud.With experience I found I created more enemies than friends. I later realize that I should not have shouted.It is too late.I have come across some people who react in a different way.When they are irritated by remarks of others they simply smile away the situation or keep mum.They remember the incident and take vengence at an appropriate time.Though in fact it is not correct yet I found such people are very successful in their lives. i am trying to learn but it seems I have to go a long way...How about you all...?
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5 responses
@sophia18 (106)
• China
24 Oct 10
If I am angry at someone's remarks, I will first take a deep breath and tell myself to calm down. Then I will try to make clear why he/she would say that to me.If he/she just wants to make me angry, I won't be angry at all.If I have done something wrong and he/she wants me to correct my doings, I would frankly admit my false and try to remedy it.
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@chayapathys (2111)
• India
27 Oct 10
What you do is one of the best ways of managing anger.By taking deep breath your mind gets relaxed and you will think better and can reason the cause of your anger.Then you can deal according to the situation.Your attitude is also correct by admiting your mistake.Very few people do it. All the best..
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
23 Oct 10
As a lady you are right in crying.Generally that is what ladies do when in angry or worried.You can keep mum also without reacting violently.No one understands feelings of others generally.But they can easily hurt others by their remarks. I used to react violently and of late I realized that it does not pay...
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
We all get angry and even rage when something goes wrong that really makes us feel that way.
It is just a matter of management.
It's not also easy to control our anger,there are times that we can't really hold it even if we are in public.
One worst event happen that i can still remember is when my nephew was scared by young guys and was coming home crying and looks very pale.
My nephew have a heart problem and thinking his condition raised my anger that upon knowing who scares him i run outside and look for those people and at the moment i saw one of them i give him a big punch right directly on his face.
His nose bleed and was so fierce also and wanted to punch me back but he was held back by his buddies.
After that incident i never did such thing again.
I realized that i can be a criminal if i won't be able to manage my anger.
Now i can control my feelings easily,just take a deep breath,and leave the place soon i feel angry.
Have a great weekend
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
23 Oct 10
I agree anger is really bad. Science says it reduces your age.Blood boils and we easily get BP.All these untoward things happen because of anger. Here What I want to know is if some one makes a remark at you and if you get annoyed and hurt, how do you react.Do you shout at him or do not react at all.In such a situation some people manage to be calm at that moment but bear grouse against and him take vengence later.How about you...?
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
I don't bear grudge,it's not good.
I want a peaceful life,mind and heart..so i don't entertain annoying people.
When someone tells me something or rude words,i just smiled and say "can you please look at yourself before pointing your fingers at me? " and i will leave the place.
Then,when i can sense that, that person is already calm,i will talk to him/her and clear the things.
Well,i am not a troublesome person and i don't attend parties or occasions and events that is not necessary ,so meeting strangers or unknown people is not possible for me.
I know my friends,and i chose who i want to be friend with.
And there is no event in my life that i was in such situation that someone shout at me.
Avoiding rude people is much better than having a small talk with them.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
25 Oct 10
You have a very thinking about life.We should never hate others.That not only spoils our health but also our peace of mind.Just laugh away the situation and avoid further communication.That is the best thing we can do.We cannot change others but we can change ourselves which is in our hands.all the best.
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@rautrahul (267)
• India
23 Oct 10
An angry person can be difficult to deal with. When dealing with angry person, it is important to deescalate the anger.
Wehn I'm angry I don't become offensive. I try to become understanding. I try to keep my head cool when I'm in anger & if possible I try to avoid talking & keep silence.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
23 Oct 10
You are right.It is difficult to manage angry person, So far you are concerned you seem to be very wise.It is very good that you don't become offensive when you are angry.You should keep cool and avoid further tuscle.Better to keep silence.You have correct attitude towards life..
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@chayapathys (2111)
• India
30 Oct 10
What you are doing is correct and that is what many doctors advise you to do.When you leave the plaace immediaately fifty percent of your anger is gone and the other fifty percent will gradully disapper when you wash your face with water.though so many people know this technic very few follow them and you are one of them.Many continue to argue or fight with the result you loose health and reputation.All the best..
