Are you the emotional or the tough and strong one?

@insulin (2483)
Philippines
October 23, 2010 7:32am CST
I know being emotional doesn't mean that your not strong but my fiancee thought me that world is so rude and rough that you need to learn not to cry with the problems and be strong and face it and find a solution.Our relationship is in crisis and sometimes I am getting emotional and not just with our relationship but my relationship between my family is fading because my dad and mom is not living anymore it's really complicated for me.My fiancee explained that if we both will be emotional then we can't survive to solve it and I thank him for making me strong...Are you emotional?Or tough?
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15 responses
@jan4ix (142)
• Latvia
23 Oct 10
Well emotional and tough arent oposites for starters ;)) Being though in the way mentioned means being emotional but being strong enough to hold it in. The opposite to emotional would be , feeling no emotions towards something and theres no toughnes in that because youre not withstanding nothing ;/ So the question should have been " Can you hold it in Or cant you in if youre emotional?! " or something like that. Now some advices. Being though isnt a way of deling with emotions, you just store them till they explode . The best way is actualy dealing with them and understanding .Let the whole process flow through you, live over it. All what will be left is nostalgic memories eiother likable or not .
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@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
That's sounds much more confusing with me though so I will stick to my own questions since that's what I want to ask around here.
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
i agree to what jan4ix said that being tough is being emotional but being strong enough to hold it in. well, i am both. i cry when i can't fight the tears back any more. you know, sometimes crying helps us so that we won't be more stressed out with our problems. it will affect our health if we don't let anger or sadness out. if you can't take it any longer, you can cry and after that straighten yourself up and say "i can do this!" that's all! be strong enough not to shed a single tear to your problems but when you feel like crying, don't hold back! i think you know that it relieves us.
• India
24 Oct 10
You can be a emotional idiot. no problems. only think you should not show it to others. A question will arise now how? You channelize your mind. Whenever you are getting emotion, you do the deep breath and think if i show my emotion is it worth it. If it is worthy then you can show or change the topic. It is my personal experience.
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
one can't always be tough and strong, sometimes situations in our life makes us vulnerable and emotional but with the help of people around us, with their support and love, we're turned into a strong soul ready to go through any difficult times in our life. It's nice you have an understanding boyfriend who'll stand by you and both your love will see you through.
@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
Yes I am so happy that he understands me a lot and give advices on how to handle those problems of mine.It's really like his always in my side when I have problems and it's the best feeling that you know that someone will be there for you if your in pain.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
23 Oct 10
I have never seen myself as being the tough one. I would like to think i am the strong one but that is not always the case. I am definitely one of the emotional ones. i always have been and will probably continue to be.
• Malaysia
23 Oct 10
remember a god... it will make us strong inside..
@goldeneagle (6776)
• United States
4 Nov 10
I have always had to be the tough and strong one, and I continue to be this way today. I don't have the luxury of being able to show my emotions, and even if I am in a situation that I CAN show them, I usually don't.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
25 Oct 10
I am both. At times, I am so tough that people think I do not care enough. At other times, I am just like a child, crying when I did not get what I want.
• China
24 Oct 10
i am a emotional person ,i like animals ,but i don't cry in my life . i know it's no use.i must strive if i want to have a good life in the future.i also feel sad when i see someone crying on the night, i learn to do my best to help them.
• China
24 Oct 10
i don't know who am i , i am an emothional or tough or strong one . but i just know that i must work harder and harder . so could you give me some advice please ? now i don't have any girlfriend in our country ,but i live well in our life. and i could deal with it well in my business. thank you for your advice if so . thanks .
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
For me sometimes emotional but mostly is brave or strong.
@jennbart (1333)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
I am a tough one. I am not a sensitive type who becomes too emotional over petty things.
@maezee (23647)
• United States
23 Oct 10
I kind of agree with this. While i myself am a mixture of the two, I am mainly the "supporter" rather than the cry-baby (lol..Just kidding on the terminology, but still). I am pretty no-nonsense and it takes a lot for me to empathize with people. I read once for a psychology class in high school that there ARE two kinds of thinkers: people who go by their feelings, and people who go by logic. And I think I fall into the second category (although I can't be certain, because it depends on the situation.)
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
I used to be a very emotional person and I feel that the world is lying in my shoulder too heavy for me to handle. But as years goes by I realized that problems never go away they just changed faces and continue to ravaged me so I kind of go stronger and consider them as part of life. Now I am much stronger than before.
• United States
23 Oct 10
I agree, just because you cry doesn't mean that you are weak, it just means that you are human...I am an emotional person myself, but I'm also very strong. Sometimes you got to let go and let the tears flow. That doesn't make you a weak person. It's healthy to cry sometimes, it releases stress. What makes you a weak person is staying down and being totally consumed by your problems.
@kerrina (104)
• Canada
23 Oct 10
i am super emotional, but i can be realy tough if its something i realy stand up for such as my rights. my boyfriend and I had a huge fight yesterday and i totally broke down because i was realy retarded and it was a fight over nothing and i always do that. i wish i could stop! lol
• United States
23 Oct 10
I'm not emotional like crying at all. As a matter of fact I just don't get the benefit. You can scream and cry and all that changes is you get a runny, snotty nose and a head ache. But the thing I'm crying about doesn't change at all... But I can be a very emotional person (just not with crying!)
@harry89 (2332)
• India
23 Oct 10
Well i am an emotinal person, and i think that's my biggest weakness, i am also shy so thats another weakness to add. I thing being emotiomal and innocent is crime in this world as other people won't live you peacefully and make you struggle in all your life. Regards, harry, :-)