I lend my best friend money and after a month can't contact her

Philippines
October 23, 2010 8:29am CST
I lend my best friend money last month cause she said her dad was hospitalized and badly needed the money. she promised that she'll return it in 2 months time. Now a month has passed and I can't contact her, I called her 2 number but no answer, I even message her on FB and on yahoo messenger still no answer. I'm getting desperate as I only borrowed the money from a previous coworker. I'm actually asking for your advice what should I do?
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11 responses
@tyra005 (152)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
Oh that was surprising and it will be very hard for you to get it back the money that you had lend your best friend. Anyway next time you have to be careful in lending money to someone or to a friend that you really don't trust. If you will see her somehow you will be lucky but if not just say to yourself that it will be a tuition fee for me to learn a new lesson.
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• Philippines
23 Oct 10
I know, actually I was hesitant at first cause I'm already thinking that this may happen. But we've been best of friends since High School.. I just never thought she has the capability of doing this to me..
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@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
well, she promised you that shewill return the money after two months. it is not yet after two months. probably, she is still working on how to repay you. the reason why she is not responding to your advances is that she may be embarrased that she does not have the money yet. if she is truly your friend, she will deliver on her words. just hope for that.
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
actually the plan was to pay me a partial amount by Oct 15. .. I never got any update from the time that she got the money. The problem is, it's not my money.. I only asked one of my previous co worker to lend me and my best friend knows that it isn't mine...
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• South Korea
23 Oct 10
I also did the same but never get an answer to my bestfriend too..lol guess sometimes you can see the real character of a person when it comes to money.. well if it is only a bit money then just pay for your friend..but if it is really big and hes not answering maybe you should go to his house and talk to him...its better to see him in person..or maybe hes just really in a rough times... so its better to see
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• Philippines
23 Oct 10
thanks for the advice princess.. Im actually thinking if I should still give her time or should I go to her place now
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@urbandekay (18312)
23 Oct 10
Say goodbye to your money and hello to wisdom all the best
@urbandekay (18312)
23 Oct 10
Thank you all the best urban
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
Ouch! I'm still hoping she'd return the money to me.. :(
@blesila (92)
24 Oct 10
i also experienced that. i lend her the money and she promised to pay before we graduated. but it's been a year now since i graduated, still no money received even partial. before we graduated, i always remind her personally and through text but she's refusing every now and then and begging for extension. i allowed then. i forgot that already and upon reading that discussion, you remind me. i can't chase her now since i don't know where she live and it's been a year. i learned from my experience. assess first if the person needing the money can really pay you after lending it.
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
maybe your friend is very worried with her father and thats why didnt contact you yet. maybe something happened to her father. why dont you go to her house and talk with her? say that you are sorry but that you really need the money. and dont let her without she gives you the money. when i worked a girl asked me money and lied and i lend her bcs felt sorry for her. and she never gave me the money back. so be careful ok? wish she gives you the money back^^
• United States
23 Oct 10
I don't think that there is much you can do. You've tried contacting her and she had made a promise to return the money in two months. The only thing I could think of that you could do is wait. Maybe her father is in critical condition and she is too busy caring for him to contact you. If you consider her to be your best friend then she probably also value the frienship more than the money you lend her. Still, it is complicated when close friends and family ask to borrow money.
• United States
23 Oct 10
WEll, first of all she said she'd return it in 2 months and you said it's only been one month. Secondly, he dad could have gotten worse. There is always the chance you got scammed too! I would wait until the two months is up and then ask her about it. But ask her about her dad first...if he's really sick of course!
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
You said that she is your best friend so why not trust her STILL? As of this time, if you really don't get any reply from her, maybe that's the time to think that she only fooled you. I've read a reply above that you can see the personality of a person when it comes to money. And indeed, it's very true. I hope that you'll get that money as soon as possible, considering that she's your BEST friend. Have trust STILL.
• Singapore
23 Oct 10
I am in the same situation as you. Last time, I posted a discussion here in Mylot, about me lending money to a so called friend, which I got acquainted with in about 5 months or so. He called me to borrow money to pay off his electricity bills. I lent him $231 for that and he promised to pay me back some time later that month. However, he broke his promise and went to china for a study trip for a month! I was like a loan shark, calling him now and then and finally when he came back, he told me he would return the money to me, and that money was actually my father's. However, this so called friend, who, by now I've called a foe and parasite, somehow or rather, "forgot" about returning the money again. I called him, messaged him but no reply. I guess in this world, a person will change in the face of money.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
That's too bad my dear. How long that you knew her? Don't you know where she lives? If you can not reach her phone,you can try visiting her. Or asks her friends about her. It's better that you should do some acts now before it is too late. Besides,maybe she is in much trouble,maybe she sold her mobile phones. Be positive for now and don't think as bad. Know her whereabouts and her condition,she might need you more now. I hope you will find a positive result then. Have a great weekend