He is annoying me...

Philippines
October 23, 2010 12:54pm CST
Hola, Mylotters.Buenas dias.:) I have this fb friend who works in a local radio station in the province.I don't know him personally but he added me as friend so I accepted thinking that he is a townsmate. For awhile, he is just posting messages in my wall, then sending me pm. I just read them but did not really pay so much attention. Lately, he is sending me messages via cp. Almost every hour keeping me posted of his activities as if he is my husband or something... saying mushy things to me... He is getting into my nerves... By the way, he got my number thru FB, too...
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@kjones505 (271)
• United States
23 Oct 10
Tell him to leave you alone and he will do so.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
24 Oct 10
How does one do that? If she writes on fb wall, he will take cudgels against her. Its easier said than done. I think she needs to take help - right now.
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
Kjones, yes, I can not just post that to his fb wall. I might trigger a negative reaction.Vandy is right, how to do that without really hurting his pride. He is an intelligent man. My continued unresponsiveness to his messages is a clear message that I don't want to do anything about him. He will eventually get tired of sending messages, hopefully.:) @Vandy again: This doesn't bother me that much yet. I am just annoyed because I don't like reading his messages. They give me sick feeling...Maybe because I don't really care about him and what he thinks or says or feels about me...
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Oct 10
hi eurekafemme he sounds like he may be stalking you now. that worries me as I had a bad experience with a stalker many years ago.that thing of keeping you posted of his activites seems a bit much for someone you really do not know and ther mushy things. I hope he does not know your actual address.oh lord through cell phone thats not good. I would not meet this guy in person if I were you. the man that stalked me was furious when I would not accept his engagement ring, we had never had a date, and lost his cool. He tried to choke me and would have succeeded had not two big waiters pulled him off me and called the police. I took a restraining order out on him but his weathy dad sent him E ast to New Jersey. Maybe you should try to get a restraining order on him too, but perhaps he would have t o attempt to actually see you. do not invite him to see you. sre wish he didnot have your cell phone number. take care.
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• Philippines
24 Oct 10
Hello, ladies.:) Nice to see you here, Hatley.It has been awhile , ages perhaps since the last time i interacted with you... :) I think you wrote something about that eventualities here? Or it must be someone else... I don't think he is in that stage already. What I see is that he is being too friendly with me and the mere fact that I am ignoring him makes him more persistent in making his presence felt... He has to do something offensive before I can do something like that, a TRO , but right now, he is just texting and sending me messages. So far, I don't think nor see it as too harmful. I'm just annoyed by it...:( @Vandy: Maybe, he is a psycho but not a harmful one. Just a lonely man needing of a little lovin' perhaps. But, of course, dear, i'll take your advice. I'll not do stupid things like seeing him or inviting him over to my place... I'm not texting him back so I am hoping that he will eventually get tired of sending messages and will leave me alone .... Be safe, too, Hatley. I appreciate your concern.
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
24 Oct 10
Experience speaks. :) You are right Hatley. He is a psycho. :)
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
25 Oct 10
Hi Eureka! What is the meaning of Buenas dias? I think, if he is getting on to your nerves, you can politely ask him not to disturb you. Adding someone as a friend on Facebook does not mean that s/he can invade your privacy, without your permission. I think, once you convey the message, he should follow it and if he does not, option of deletion is always there on the Facebook, provided you do not have a soft corner for him.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
26 Oct 10
Hi dear! It is always great fun to be part of your discussion. I love to be here with you and try not to miss your discussions, even if am busy. It is upto you whether you wish to convey your displeasure to him or not. If you keep deleting his messages it is fine and if you do not respond to either of his messages, one day, he might get fed up and stop sending. Your hubby may be giving you correct advice about him (that guy) and his personality, so listen to him.
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
Hi, dear.:) It is always my pleasure to see you .:) Well, my hubby wasn't giving me an advice, he was merely saying that he knew the guy so well and that the guy looks ugly. LOL. I told him I'm not interested to know the latter personally or even further. Despite of my ignoring him, he seems very patient sending me messages, asking me if I had my meal or how I had been, etc,etc.... I think I am the one feeling fed up frequently deleting messages from my inbox.LOL. I just hope he'd stop real soon before I become impatient with him.:(
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Hi, dear. Good to see you here.:) ASking someone to shut up and leave me alone, dear, is not my forte.... Sadly... I think I have to be a little patient to always chaeck and delete messages from him every now and then. I am ignoring him, though and it seems working because he only text either religious quotes or picture messages. LOL . I can sense that eventually, he'll stop sending messages. There's no need for me to say anything to him, yet. By the way, hubby knows about it and the guy.He told me all negative stuff about the guy. He said he is ugly,too.LOL
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• United States
23 Oct 10
I have a guy who I'm totally not or ever have been or ever will be attracted to, who comes by to have coffee, tells me he loves me and asks me to marry him. He comes whenever he knows I'm home after I've been gone a few days or so. I like him as a friend. Never anything else. I am actually nice to him because he's kind of a sad sort of person who has nothing going for him. He's in and out of nursing homes at an early age. He has emotional problems. Has to take B12 and all. He's supposed to be paranoid schitzophrenic and bi polar. Anyways, back to the point, I just answer him 'no thank you.' I have no intention of marrying right now and I can't see myself married again anyway. Just things like that. We've been doing this for 4 years probably, but the thing is he's not liking me that much. It's any girl who will spend a little quality time. I guess you'll just have to say things like I do. Be nice, but send emails or whatever back saying anything but agreeing with him.
• United States
23 Oct 10
Excuse me, but that last sentence should translate (my comment above), anythng except agreeing with him.
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• Philippines
23 Oct 10
Hi, Chrystaltears.:) Good to see you dropping a line here.:) I don't think he needs further clarification since it is clear in my fb account that i already got kids.Meaning I also have a hubby(?) . Well, it is given, of course, even if I did not disclose my relationship status. Good for you that you have the courage to turn that man down. But, hey, 4 years, wow, you've been very patient with him... :) I'll have to find the right words or I'll just keep on ignoring him. Maybe, he will get tired of bugging me....
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• Philippines
24 Oct 10
It must be a joke, he's doing this trying to see if you're going to take the bait. Ask him what's up, what's with all the texting of the mushy stuff and the updates as if FB weren't enough to keep tabs on him. He'll have to answer you with something. If he tells you something like, "Oh, nothing I just want to let you know how my day's going," or something as vague as that, then tell him something like, "Oh, okay. I was getting worried that my phone is getting filled up with your texts, and i'm not even getting around to replying back to you." Something like that. If he gives you something direct like, then tell him "sorry, I didn't really see that we were on that kind of level" in hopes that he quits texting. And if he's really irritating you, just tell him outright that you don't feel comfortable being updated through your phone about these kind of things. Best to take your number off FB as well to avoid any future mishaps just like this one. After all, if your true friends really wanted your number they can just send you a message any time right? Hope this helps!
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• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Hello, Apoljuice.:) You must love apple juice so much, ei?:) Anyways, thank you for giving me this kind of idea. But the problem is I don't have the guts to tell him that. Why? Because he isn't texting lewd and malicious messages even if they are so often... OI think, i should settle to ignoring him first hoping he'd feel fed up of texting... I agree with you, he is just somehow luring me with a bait and see if i'll take a bite... Sorry for him, it isn't working and it will never going to work on me... Have a wonderful day.:)
• United States
23 Oct 10
I guess he's either lonely, or he just likes you... A LOT. He might've saw a picture of you that he thought you were pretty attractive to hit on. Best thing to do if he keeps annoying you, delete him off of Facebook. Hopefully you didn't put your address on Facebook or anything.
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• Philippines
23 Oct 10
well, that is flattering enough if I am still single ... but I'm not anymore. here's what I think about un- befriending fb friends, it doesn't make sense. Even if I will delete them or even blocked them, they still have my other info and they can also email me. So, must I change my mobile number, too, because of them? I don't think it is possible and practical... I did not put my address. At least, I'm safe on that one. He will be here in the city where I am currently located sometime in November, he told me and he said he is planning to pay me a visit... sigh.... Thanks for voicing your opinion, Initialsgas.:)
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
25 Oct 10
eurekafemme, I do not think he is stalking you but I just have a feeling that he is taking a chance with you. Like any opportunists with their personal vendettas and agendas, I am sure they will just retire once they see that their ploys are being ignored. So, just ignore and most of all, refrain from answering or respond to his posts. I am sure a fire will just extinguish when there's no more fuel to burn. Just be firm and ignore whatever whims at his end. Take care and have a nice day.
• Singapore
26 Oct 10
eurekafemme, Thank you for asking and the BR here. Well, I am fine but just could not get around with much posting as much as I would like due to my work which takes me around the globe as it spins its course day to day. Just attended the opening of the Commonwealth Games and some sporting events in India. I am presently in China and would be here for a week before traveling again to Taiwan which is having very bad weather. I hope that it will clear up soon, at least when I arrive. Anyway, I hope that all's well with your family and you. I have to say that I find your down to earth attitude to be both admirable and praiseworthy. So, keep it up for you are really doing the right thing here. I hope to see more of you posts but I must apologize if I had not been forthcoming lately. So, take care and stay motivated.
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
You are my very first respondent of whom I gave the BR.:) Wow, You got a fabuluous job! How lucky you are to be always on the go and see the other parts of the globe. You must be enjoying and loving your work so much.:) Always take care, then, Sky.:) Anyways, I feel flattered with your words. . What can I say to return the compliment? Thank you isn't enough... We'll see each other around when we see each other around, Sky. Don't worry, this won't be our last talk.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Hi, Sky. I'm happy to see you here.How are you?:) Very well said, dear. May be that is his intention, taking chances with me. But, poor guy, it is kind of late already because I am married and already got kids to love even if my marriage will turned sour... :) I have no plans not even imagining of getting involve with another guy while I am still very much tied to my husband, physically, spiritually and emotionally speaking. I am ignoring him but did respond once but that was before he keeps on texting me non stop....
@shibham (16977)
• India
24 Oct 10
hi eureka... let me laugh first loudly... hahaha. very interesting to meet someone who cares you a lot. lucky girl. you have not share your views here. what do you think about him?
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
Hello, Shibham. :) Am I lucky? Oh, c'mon,dear... if he is my husband or my lover I'd be very ecstatic seeing my inbox flooded with messages from him but he is a complete stranger! I am annoyed, perhaps, it is because I don't have the privilege to enjoy such attention form another guy anymore... :( He is intelligent, got a bedroom voice (he works as a dj and broadcaster) , nice smile (my weakness). Though he is chubby but he got the looks.:) Despite of these qualities, I'm not attracted to him (or maybe, I am forcing myself not to get attracted to him). If I'm single, why not? I'll be interested to know him more. Seems a yummy person.
@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
eurekafemme, I believe that you have no recourse but to delete him as friend. Anything annoying is not worthy of our attention nor our time.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Hi there, Eileen. How are you? Yup, I deleted him already, even blocked him. Though I still receive messages from him thru cp but they are more of a religious quotes. I think I can live with that.:) Thanks for dropping a line ,dear.:)
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
24 Oct 10
Hi, I can see that this guy is so irritating and in order to stop his crazy attitude,you may consider change your contact number,for your own safetyness. In the first place, you should not put your address and contact number in your facebook account ,it is very dangerous.And also make sure you really know well the person before accepting as your friend. Faster get it solved or else you may not have a peace life.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
I must admit that I have been foolish to write my contact number where everyone can see it... I have learned my lessons now. I will surely delete it (which reminds me that I haven't yet!!!) I thought it was harmless and no fuss to accept his friendship since we are of the same province and he is quite a famous personality there.I was wrong... Have a wonderful day, Shia.:)
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
24 Oct 10
That is a psycho. Keep away sweetie. And he got your number? :( May be you need to approach the authorities.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
May be, dear, he has psychological or emotional issues. It is too early to do such because his messages are not even lewd or malicious. Besides, the authorities will not take it seriously.... I am hoping he will stop texting by ignoring his messages (FB or mails). Thanks, Vandy. Have a pleasant day ahead, dear.:)
• Indonesia
24 Oct 10
may be you should not respond him.so,he not distrub you every hours
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Yeah. That's what exactly what I'm doing, totally ignoring him, Lanan.:) Welcome aboard to MYlot. Have a pleasant day.:)
@beeh13u (1038)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
Maybe he likes you. Those are signs that someone admires you. That's why I don't add people in my account that I do not know. I don't put my number, address or real name because I don't want my web life interfere with my personal life. Be careful! Tell him you are annoyed and what is his purpose of bothering your life. You can block him if you want. Be careful! There are a lot of stalkers now.
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
Yes, there's no doubt that he likes me. He will not spend times as much as he does if he doesn't like me.:) I can not tell him that I am annoyed. His messages are mushy but they are not lewd nor derogatory so there's no reason for me to be rude. I'm just annoyed . I don't know why. I am ignoring his messages hoping it will stop coming eventually. Yup, I am being careful, though. I did not give him further info about me. THank you for reminding me.:) Have a wonderful day.:)
@blesila (92)
24 Oct 10
hello eureka. he is really annoying you so much. if i were you, remove him in your list. edit your information in fb. if possible change your sim. but if you have the guts to talk with him, then do so. open up your feelings. i mean, he is somewhat annoying you.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Hi, Blesila.:) I deleted him already but the messages keep coming. Only this time, it is more of a religious quotes. I don't think I need to be rude to this guy. I'll just keep on ignoring him. Eventually he'll lost interest and gets tired of texting, hopefully...
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
That is so true, Blesila. I don't feel the need to be rude but I am clearly giving him a signal that I'm not just interested in him.:)
26 Oct 10
hello eureka. good thing that the messages he sent were about religious quotes. ignoring him will eventually get tired and lost interest. by ignoring him, he will soon realize that you don't like him or will give him an idea that you are not interested.