How to find love.

India
October 24, 2010 11:55pm CST
Hey friends I am 25 now and I still don't have a girlfreind. I just don't how how to find a girlfriend. I mean I can talk to girls without hesitating. But I dont know why I am not able to find a girl friend whom I would be in love. Can you tell me some thing on this.
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@eelennah (82)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
hi there. well, there is this statement that don't search for love for it will come to you. maybe it's still not the right time for you to find the right girl for you. some people find their true love late and some too early. in your case, you might find a lover late. all you have to do is wait. but if you feel like you are getting too old, then you can ask for your friends help to find you one. or why not go into random dating. or maybe you could go to the bars. i know there are lot of single ladies there. you can search everywhere your heart desires. don't be too anxious, you will find her sooner or later. just be patient. just continue doing what you are doing. good luck to you. and you can also pray for that. have a nice day.
• India
25 Oct 10
I agree with one of your statements that may be it is not the right time. But when when the statement goes like this, love will come to you I do not agree this in general. When you say don't search for love, it is applicable for me as well as the love who was about to find me. In this way this becomes applicable for all the human beings and there would be no love.
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
oh you're right there but what i really mean with love will come to you is that there will come a time that you will meet this lady just by coincidence. i have many friends who stopped searching for love and miraculously, they just meet a certain person and they get to love each other. that happens. and sometimes, it's just that your true love is just around you and it would take you a longer time to realize that she is the one. even my boyfriend, he was my classmate and at first i never thought that we would be lovers. that's just it.
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
hi kartiknaiduk...well, let me ask, are you looking for a specific type of girl? Cause sometimes guys or even girls don't have their partner because they can be so specific of what they want to have that they don't get to see other people that could be a possible gf/bf.
• India
25 Oct 10
I am not actually very specific. Just the girl should be simple, caring and understanding. It is OK with me even if she is not very beautiful. This is all, nothing more than this.
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
I see...well try attending parties and joining stuff like a club perhaps so that you could meet a lot of women. I'm sure you'll find her...everyone is meant for someone. Good luck!
• China
25 Oct 10
I have the same situation when I am 22 years old , I was very shy when I meet the girl , I hope you can find a girl friend
@lxho99 (74)
• Malaysia
26 Oct 10
hey, dude. You are still young. I think you should concentrate on your study first. Don't think of finding lover first, otherwise, you may waste a lot of time for your past.
@tkonlinevn (5784)
• Vietnam
25 Oct 10
You can find your lover until any times when you don't think about it. Stop to find and living natural with yourself. The love will be with you.
• India
25 Oct 10
Ya Ya I would do that. Moreover a ship cannot keep on sailing without destination.
• United States
25 Oct 10
Well, bars and clubs aren't always the best place to meet women, you might be able to meet the love of your life there, but sometimes it doesn't happen that way. You can try speed dating, you can try hobby groups (book clubs, interest clubs, sports groups, and things like that), have your friends hook you up with someone... I met my boyfriend in college. We met at a club meeting, and we also had a class together. I wasn't trying to look for anyone, but it all just happened. It was love at first sight for the both of us. My boyfriend and I had given up on love before we met each other. Keep yourself busy, find things to do, and who knows?
• India
25 Oct 10
That sounds really cool. But I most of the above stuff you said. I am not aware of. For example, Speed Dating. In fact I am getting familiar to this word or the first time in my life. Can you, please, be a bit more elaborative. Thanksss.
@lxho99 (74)
• Malaysia
25 Oct 10
hey, dude, Talking to the girls doesn't means anything, because you just treat them as friend. Whereas, if you feel something unusual while you are talking to a girl, that means you may fall into love to that girl. If you really got feeling to that girl, you may wish to see her everyday, you may miss her and wish to get know about her in deep. However, this is not use if you never let her know. What I means is that it is not use if you never take action to show love to that girl. At least, you need to tell that girl you love her. It is impossible to wait for that girl come to tell you that she love you. This won't be happen. You must be brave and automatically approach that girl and tell her everything. Try your best, don't guess, never try, never know. However, if she reject you, never-mind, don't give up if you really love her. Otherwise, you have to find the next one.
• India
25 Oct 10
Ya I talk to many girls every now and then and many of those are beautiful and attractive too. But never felt in that way, as you are saying. About one girl I felt like that and many days are past to that event. Even I expressed my feeling to that girl, but it didn't actually work. Let's hope for the best and see I find someone.
• Oman
25 Oct 10
As most of the comments here said, you're at a young age of 25, and there's no need to rush things. You have a lot more ahead of you, so why not try focusing on self-development first or enhancing a skill/talent you have? Instead of fretting over your lack of a girl-friend, turn your attention to developing yourself for your future life, your future gf/wife? We women like accomplished guys-- those who are independent and can stand up on their own. But as I said, you have to be patient. You can't keep looking for true love all your life, because it will only come at the right time.
• India
25 Oct 10
Yes I guess you are right. I need to focus on my studies and my job. But when I was reading your comment I realized that I was not actually looking for a girl and this was the main reason why I couldn't find my love. I work all day till dawn the get back to home and after dinner I get in to my books. I do not actually get time for the same. And I have no regrets regarding the same. Anyways thanks for commenting and guiding me.
• Canada
25 Oct 10
Buddy your still young you don't need to rush things.lol When the right girl comes along you will know it trust me. She will make you feel like you never have before, you will have things in common that will blow your mind but patients is a virtue my friend. Again your only 25 and just because some people around you have already gotten married or have girlfriends doesn't mean you won't find one. You just haven't found the right one yet. So get out and hit up those clubs, bars and parties playa!lol Good luck buddy
• India
25 Oct 10
Am I really still young. I don't think so. Dude, I have live more than 1/4th of life and you feel I am still young. But but I do agree, find girlfriend is not like finding vegetables. I need to be patient. I understand this. But the thing is how long should be the waiting time. This is the question which makes me pull my hair.
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
28 Oct 10
Love is easy to come by if one is not faithful. For u, maybe u are talking to too many girls and u have too many female friends around u, making others think that u are not faithful. The number of female friends might have scared off any potential girls whom really likes u. Just think if the situation is reversed, the girl u like always has got many guys surrounding her, would u dare to approach her?
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
26 Oct 10
How do girls make you feel? Do they make you feel shy or do you feel annoyed? Do you want a girlfriend or just find love? Why? I think relationships take a lot of time and effort and it can be a distraction if you are aiming towards a profession.
@beeh13u (1040)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Don't find love. Let love find you. Let the natural flow of life do its part. Don't force someone to love you. But let time make its way for your hearts to string into one. Have you watched Serendipity? It is a nice movie.
@zenvovn (38)
• Vietnam
25 Oct 10
OH, marridge kills love. Anyway, I wish you will have your true love. Good luck.
@lynnemg (4540)
• United States
25 Oct 10
I can honestly tell you that in my experience, once you become happy with yourself, I mean really happy with yourself and comfortable in life just being yourself, and you stop looking for love, love will find you. I remember being a single mother with three young kids, working my tail off just to make ends meet, and feeling lonely all of the time because I just couldn't seem to find Mister Right. Someone gave me the same advice I have just given you, and I really out forth the effort in becoming happy with myself and the situation I was in. I began spending a lot less time worrying about finding the right man and a lot more time concentrating on myself and my kids, and then, out of the blue one day, the man I fell in love with and eventually married, literally walked onto my doorstep. So, as discouraged as you may feel right now, don't be. I am a firm believer that God will see to it that we are always right where we are supposed to be in life.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
A simple word of advice my friend. "STOP SEARCHING!" Once you're ready she'll find you! for now just enjoy your life being single, have fun! It's maybe God is still preparing both you and your partner. Once both of you are ready for a commitment then you'll meet her. all in gods time..
• India
25 Oct 10
well see love is not something.....u can look for or find at a particular place!..neither its something......like u can make urself fall for someone.....! its a natural feeling....which u get on looking at someone peculiar......the person who just makes u go crazy!........ well.....just get along with a girl.....who meets ur requirements....or seems to be interesting or of ur type!...most of all.....the girl u feel like getting along with.....or spending ur life!!
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
I don't think that there's such thing as finding love. Love will find you. Maybe you're too busy with your work and friends that you were not able to recognized it around you. Look around you... if it's not there yet, just be patient, if you're really meant to have one... It will come at the right time.
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
its really hard to find true love nowadays cos ppl are just busy fooling around without sense of commitment...
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Do you know what really love is? Love is a magic, Only Love will find you, not you to find love. It's a feeling when both couple fell in love in the same way, and mind you, you're young and you can meet many girls ahead of you, and you'll never know one of them may let your heart beat faster, and thats her. Don't be too worried about love, if you are lovable and a good man, your destiny will soon arrive.
@hushi22 (4941)
25 Oct 10
oh....dont find the girl. just hang out with girls and wait for your emotions to be awakened. i dont think you need to find a girlfriend. =)
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Do not find and chase love. Let Love find you. Maybe it is not yet your time to have that love. Continue acquainting with people, friendships is a good start for love to exist. It is never too late. Do not rush.