How many times a partner can be forgiven,if he/she has done several big mistakes

@vangie26 (449)
Philippines
October 25, 2010 6:13am CST
Commiting big mistakes in a relationship oftentimes makes us feel numb already, not knowing if we are still wanting the relationship to go on or not? After several big mistakes, such as unfaithfulness,disrespect etc, can you still forgive your partner and let the relationship continue? Or is it much easier to forgive then let go?
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@RONDOLAWE (776)
• Indonesia
25 Oct 10
if our partner make some big mistake and make we are lose big money i never forgive what she or he done cause search for money is not easy but until i get my profit again i will forgive he or she cause if we let she or he go make some fortune nothing lose forgiven he or she again but not use anymore
• India
25 Oct 10
so it actually means that you care more for the money than your relation ! Do you really think that anyone would be that careless to make a "big mistake" to lose "big money" ?
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@vangie26 (449)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
It could be taken a big mistake by someone but thinking that money though hard to search is still can be earned. When it comes to money matter, i think a very good open communication is just what is needed.
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Based on my experience: Before my current boyfriend, I had a guy who always lie to me, he's unfaithful, and when we go argue he would say bad words against me which is very disrespectful for me as a woman...So I've decided.....it's better to let go, forgive and move on. I'm glad I did that decision. I am very happy with my boyfriend now and we're together longer than the past relationship.
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Let me add..I had given my ex many chances hoping that he would keep his promise not to do all those mistakes again but then he wasted all of it..He became abusive maybe because he knows i love him that time and that I would still give him another chance. So that's it, I proved him wrong. He's not the last guy here on Earth... I go for..LET GO, FORGIVE, and MOVE ON..
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@vangie26 (449)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
well said. I'm going to take that...Let go, Forgive and Move on :-) Thank you
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
25 Oct 10
Well vangie It depends on person to person ,as how much is the tolerence power that person holds,Some times its the circumsteances which compels a person to do such things.But before taking any harsh decsion, One has to look into the matter compeletly.
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@vangie26 (449)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Yup, i also agree on that one that before going into a major decision, we have to look at every angle of the situation. Thank you jagjit273 :-)
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
i think it dpends on the person's sincerity and the fact that you forgvae him once.. should let him know and understand not to do the same mistake again... if the mistake is just the same.. i guess he will never learn and only is just using you or is laughing at you behind your back - obvioulsy he knows we can be fooled and will forgive him over and over again so he is never learning and is not giving us the respect due to us.
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@vangie26 (449)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
forgiving them once, twice and thrice without giving them an ultimatum will just lead them to think that they can just play around. Thank you :-)
• India
25 Oct 10
It depends on the mistake and also the frequency of the mistake. From my side I wont continue the relationship after mistakes such as unfaithfulness, disrespect etc. It better to suffer now rather than suffering more later on in the relationship.
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@vangie26 (449)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
I agree with you. I believe that in love and relationships , there are sacrifices but not sufferings. Thank you
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
26 Oct 10
I cannot let go of my boyfriend and keep forgiving him after every fight.But of course he has not till now committed any really unforgivable mistake as far as my knowledge goes.But even if he does I am not sure that I will ever be able to live without him.So I will forgive him for my own sake.
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@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
25 Oct 10
No one can truly know what they would do until they are in such a situation. I have always thought I would be one to never forgive. But circumstances don't always allow us to just walk away from a relationship. Sometimes it is easier to stay because of finances or other factors. I know that sounds like a terrible reason to try to forgive and work on a relationship but it happens sometimes. And maybe even then the relationship can get better and the mistakes will never be made again.
@vangie26 (449)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
We forgive because we can see the sincerity in one's heart. That could be possible to restore the relationship :-) thank you
@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
27 Oct 10
I agree. Seeing how sincere the other person is can be the reason we stay and try to make things better. Love isn't as simple as yes and no. Sometimes you have to change your way of thinking.
@dawnald (84156)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Oct 10
Everybody is different, but when you feel you can no longer forgive the person, when you are done, when there is no trust or respect any more, you will know.