ur best friend loves a boy/girl. you love him/her also. what do you do?^^

sweety cutie love^^ - boy is holding girl he loves tight^^
Portugal
October 25, 2010 7:25am CST
hi guys^^ imagine that your best friend and you love the same boy/girl. what do you do?^^ about me i would still love him but wouldnt try nothing. if my best friend loves him i wouldnt do nothing. but if the guy said that he loves me to me i would talk with my best friend and tell her that i love him and he loves me also so that we would be together. i would be honest with her. wouldnt make sense if i left him for her if he was in love with me. if i loved a guy and he loved my best friend i would let him for her too. isnt fair that both people that are in love dont be together bcs of a friendship. even more that if he didnt love her how could they be happy? what about you guys?^^ what would you do?^^ please share^^
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• United States
25 Oct 10
if me and my best friend were in love with the same person... well... uh.. and that person loved me... i would be honest as well. i would let her know that we likes me. if she is dumb enough to get upset about it and not wanna be my friend, then its a friend worth letting go. if he liked her, then good for her and him. but i wouldnt try to mess up our friendship over it.
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• Philippines
25 Oct 10
It depends on the situation. when i was in college, i had this real good crush on some one. but she has a boyfriend and i feel i didn't stand a chance on her. then, she had group with my classmate guy who is more hand some than i am. she like him better even though i like her too. but i chose my studies. now, seeing them with their complications, i was happy that i let him have her because i wanted to be free all along. now, he has no choice but to work because of their child. i happen to be a god father
• India
25 Oct 10
don't mind my words literally please... but you being the GOD father sounds really cheap !
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• Portugal
25 Oct 10
letran but if the girl liked the guy anyway you would have to let her be with him^^ if she liked you too then could be with you but if she liked him you did right thing by stepping back^^ thats a good friend^^ anyway they have a kid now?^^ thats good^^ but you being the godfather seems more like a joke ahah^^ it could bother you to see the girl you liked before with your friend right?^^ and did he know you liked her? anyway you let her for him so maybe thats why he respected you anyway^^ you were a good friend so thats good that he invited you to be the godfather^^ no hard feelings ahah lion ahah is cheap that he was the godfather? ahah is funny your expression really^^ im sure he didnt get angry^^ at least me what you said made me laugh ahah
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• Philippines
26 Oct 10
the bottom line is I DON'T LIKE or LOVE HER anymore, that was a few months since they started dating. and that made it a beauty. i don't mind, even if i had feelings for her, i don't wanna look like it as a joke because we were trusted in that group.
• India
25 Oct 10
Well it has happened to me as my best friend was in a relationship with a girl and he didn't knew my girlfriend properly and then me and my girlfriend were in a relationship and my best friend got a break up and then my girlfriend and my best friend became good friends and then my best friend fell in love with my girlfriend and after some time even my girlfriend started liking him as a friend and then my best friend wrote her letters and gave my girlfriend gifts and still that guy loves my girlfriend and sends her letters and all stuff and I don't mind till something is serious between them and I trust my girlfriend she would never leave me and like me even he is popular and has many girls behind him but unfortunately he loves my girlfriend and I can't do anything about that because my girlfriend cares for him and if something happens to my girlfriend I going to like separate his hands legs fingers from his body and throw it in all 4 directions....
• India
25 Oct 10
well buddy .. trust me , you really needn't do anything to your friend only if he is your best friend ! Simply because there is always something called as mutual understanding in Friendship, and once you have that , we won't even think of all this bloodshed.
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
hmmhhm for me.,.,.,.,.i always love him,, but i think i will give the boy to my friend ,,.,m,,even though if i love him,,,,, i will forgive my best friend.,.,and i will give the chance to my friend.,.,
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
I think i would be doing the same thing you would do. I would wait for the guy to say if he loves my bestfriend or me.Whomever he chooses then i would respect that. I will have to have a heart to heart talk with my best friend first to make a deal with her that whomever the guy chooses, our friendship will still remain strong and we have to respect the guy's choice.
26 Oct 10
Chances are, both you and the friend would be more than willing to step down to let the other one have a chance. If I loved this person I wouldn't generally make the move, even if my friend didn't like them too. - I'm not that great at relationships as yet. Also my best friend is a little bit fickle, so if he was 'in love' with someone I also was quite fond of, I would imagine he would quickly move on without too much hesitation.
• China
26 Oct 10
go ahead , maybe the time can tell you how will you do
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Nothing wrong with a little confrontation... I guess telling your best friend the truth about having the same feeling with somebody he or she is longing, is true honesty and deserves true friendship... If the friend doesn't understand then it's not our problem anymore... truth will set us free happy mylotting!!
@shaggin (36845)
• United States
26 Oct 10
How can you both be in love with the same person though. You can both have a crush on the same guy but to truly love someone you really have to ge to know them a lot in a relationship. Without that its just crushing or lusting so its unlikely you will both love the same person unless you are both having a relationship with him.
@Karunvig (714)
• India
25 Oct 10
well.. I will give prefrence to my girl rather thn giving to my friends because i want..what I want. :)
• United States
25 Oct 10
well i always let the person i like pick. if they pick the other person then they like them more its not always about what i want but it should be what makes the most people happy.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
25 Oct 10
Nothing can ruin a relationship quicker than too many people being involved. We can't choose who we fall in love with. all we can do is love with our hearts. If a person is loved by two friends, it is up to that person to choose and destroy a friendship in the process.
• India
25 Oct 10
Well... its simple ... we are guys and our DNA's are always the same . If my best buddy and me are in love with the same girl , i would understand the girl's feeling first and then take the next step. If the girl has feelings for me , and thinks my best buddy as HER buddy (only) , i would speak to my buddy and let him know my feelings for the girl and talk things out . Its simple . Unless and until we guys talk straight we don't get things straight ...! However, if we don't talk ... chances are we might be each others greatest enemies for life !