Falling In Love to A Married Man?

Philippines
October 25, 2010 8:54am CST
I was asked by a friend "what will you do if you fall in love with a married man?" Instead of answering her, I asked her "are you ready to face all the consequences?" There was a long silence. I told her think it over you know my answer I will never tolerate you become the other woman. Don't ruin his family. You can still find the right man who is single. Do you fall in love with a married man?
10 responses
@mandy8611 (154)
• China
26 Oct 10
I think you should persuade your friend to stop her love the married man, she loves man, but maybe the man's wife loves him more, if your friend ruin the man's family, she will feel guilty, she won't feel real happiness. if the man don't love his wife any more then fall in love with your friend, I think one day he will fall in love with the third women again in the future.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Thank goodness I've never been in that situation. I'm married and I have crushes once in a while, but for anything else I tell myself I can't. I can't, I can't, I can't. I've heard about people falling in love with other married people, and I think it's something I wouldn't want to get involved with. I don't want to be the one who fell in love with, or the one who's being fallen for. It's something I don't want to happen in my married life, to me or to my husband. I've seen hot married guys, and are friends with them, and there is always a wall for me especially if I know he's married. It's like my qualifier for having a crush: is he married? Then all I'm going to say is, his wife must be lucky to have him. Does he have a girlfriend? OH, well that's fine. He's legally single, so I can still have a crush on him. And then when I want to get out of the crush, I remind myself that I'm in a situation where I'm actually blessed and having fun. And that's the end of that crush.
@beeh13u (1040)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
I will never fall in love with a married man because I don't want to hurt the people that loves him. I may be attracted to him, but I will make a barrier between him and me. We are sometimes tempted and challenged to stuff like that. But keep in mind, the world is big and there are a lot of opportunities out there. We should ask ourselves if we are doing the right thing and why are we doing it.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Sigh... You are very right rebuking your friend early. Yes, she can find love without ruining a family. There are lots of fishes in the ocean, as the saying goes. I couldn't help feeling a bit annoyed to the fact that others do not care of other people's feelings as long as their own selfish feelings are satisfied....Sometimes, I'd ask what happened to this world.? where is morality and decency now? I hope your friend has a brain to do what is right...I admire your being a good friend. :)
25 Oct 10
Honestly, I had fallen once in love to a married man. It is the worse relationship that I ever had. I never meant to hurt his family. I suffered the consequences and LEARNED from it. I was the one who ended the relationship and from that day my life changed for the better :) believe in KARMA... I do....
• United States
25 Oct 10
wow. how do you know that she was asking that because she was in that situation. she could have felt very offended. maybe she was talking about her self though in a way. i dont know. but i know several people that have fallen in love with married people. its wrong, well, i think it is. i have never fallen in love with a married person but i want to say to people who do, that you are in the wrong.
• India
25 Oct 10
Love is something which happens naturally. We cant prevent love from happening. Sometimes one may have a soft corner for a married man or a woman.We can fall in love but then it depends on us how to control our emotions. I don't think that we have the right to ruin someones happy family by revealing this fact. But at the same time I also want to say the no one can deny that we may fall in love with a married man or woman. But as a responsible person we have to hold ourselves and try to forget this and love will find a way.
• India
25 Oct 10
Well if its just a one sided love.....then its better if u move ahead in life and find someone single.....but if it seems like....that married person is not happy....and he/she loves u as well.......then for a moment u can ask from the person what he/she wants...!....but asking for a married person can have certain bad impacts as well!!
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
there are two possibilities the guy would choose you or his family. it happen sometimes that a man leaves his family for another woman esp. if he isnt happy. but if i were u, dont settle for anything less. find someone whos single and available. someone who wont bring shame to yourself and ur family.
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Well since I'm a guy, it was a married woman that I've fallen in love with. I guess it's just the same thing. I just remembered the whole thing when I read your post. You're right, you're friend could only make things worse for everyone. Maybe indeed they're in love but everything's wrong from the start and love could never make things right. They can't live on a fairy tale forever, I did and others like me did. Eventually, the guy would choose his family over your friend and that would break her heart even more especially if she had given everything for that guy. What you did was the best, friends like you make people like me look better and live a happier life. God bless you Jasmine.