Why men dump women?
By aaronfyzeon
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
Philippines
October 26, 2010 11:03am CST
For a woman being dumped by a man can be a total bummer not to mention embarrassing. We can't exactly pinpoint why men dump women because there can be several factors involved like incompatibility, beliefs, culture and many others. And these factors are given; you cannot force yourself into someone you are not compatible with, right? However, if you believe that you have done everything you could and yet still unable to let your man stay in the relationship then ask yourself if you are guilty of the common reasons why men dump women.
The "Me, myself and I" syndrome. It's all about you, you, you and you. You don't consider his feelings; you don't take care of him when he is sick. You don't help him carry the grocery bag, you don't listen to him and worst you don't wait for him to climax after you had yours.
Men cannot stand selfishness, Another reason that you will definitely get dumped by your man is if you cannot keep your word. You tell him this and yet do another. You are constantly tardy and you always keep him hanging. Worst, you give fallacious excuses. In other words, you cannot tell a simple truth. It doesn't matter if you look like Angelina Jolie; you will get dumped if you cannot get your story straight. Chronic or pathological liars drive men away like crazy. Another sure fire reason why men dump women is by being a control freak. and very dominating.
Spontaneity scares you. Men dump women if they are a complete nag and a complainer. I know that you want the best for your lover that is why you constantly correct him. Do you find yourself telling him this regularly? "Why can't you....?" or "Do you ever do this or that...?" If you do, then don't be surprise if your guy is becoming elusive by the minute.
This is because you make him feel that he cannot do anything right. A word of advice, woman, you cannot get your message across if you nag him, learn to boost his ego and he is all ears. The secret here is to try to be a little more comfortable with yourself, be a little happier.
Do you agree with all these guys? You can also add up some reasons why men dump women.
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6 responses
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
27 Oct 10
I think most important reason why men dump women is because they are made like that. They are like children who get excited when lots of beautiful toys are put before them and they don't know which one to choose. women for them are very irresistible beauty, and they just don't have control on their feelings.
Also, most men think that the grass on the other side of the fence is more green. They always feel that every other women beside his wife is more beautiful and better wife.In this case you cannot do anything...they will learn their lesson when they will cross the fence.
Some women have so many responsibilities of house and children that they cannot give the same attention to husbands as they use to give before, so men start feeling lonely and try to find other solutions. But that is very selfish of them.
Finally I agree that most men are really good, and it is nagging behavior of women that makes them change. But women are also tried. I think each one should be given some space in life, that will really change things.
This subject is very complicated, so we cannot really blame any one.....both men and women are equally guilty.
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@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
I absolutely agree. Both men and women are responsible to make their relationship or marriage work out. They should be the one who should also adjust in situations that they will encounter. Thank you for the nice response.
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@pogi253 (1586)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
Men are much more simplified than women are. Kind of like a pet, like a pet dog. They are satisfied if you scratch their backs, provide some sort of food, water and maybe let them out once in awhile to run around. Very simple creatures. Women make them appear much more complex than they are. Women discuss men with their girlfriends, their sisters, their mothers even the sales clerk at the shoe store. Let's face facts; men are bred to chase what they want. So if he is into you, he will chase you and treat you like he is into you . Stop worrying about whether he is into you or not, if you are having a good time go with it, if you are not dump him. Relax, have fun and enjoy your womanhood. At least we can make babies and get to sit to use the toilet. Love yourself first, other people will love you more for it and you won't have to worry about the signs, he will!
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@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
You are absolutely right pogi. We should love ourselves first before we think if others will also love us. Whatever our attitudes are if we just be ourselves, let the person love us for who and what we are. Everything will just come along. Thank you for the nice response.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Hmmm! This topic made me think for a moment. You are definitely right and agree on what you said. I do remember a time when an ex dumped me. It was hurting, but the reason was more hurting than the idea of being dumped. One reason perhaps is because they do not love the girl at all or used the girl. In short, he dumped the girl because he no longer needs her or found another girl to use for his own personal benefits. Guys tend not to take the idea to be alone. But they are self centered and selfish most of the time.
On the other hand, if a relationship is not working, say it is the girl who is always adjusting, there are guys, who thinks that it is not their obligation or having an ego to act as gentleman, waits for the girl to call it quit and they continue to use the girl. What I mean is that, this guy continue using the girl and waits for the girl to dump him. I think, that should not happen too.
There are guys who pretends to be gentleman that is why they wait for the girl to dump them, but hey, when the intention is to use the girl and you do not love her, never wait for the time that the girl will dump you. Girls are hopeful. We always, try to make things work. Because of our belief that the relationship will work out and because we try to understand you guys, then you have the right to dump us. Why? Because it is more hurting afterwards when we realize that all our efforts are useless and that you have been lying all along.
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@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Yes it is true. Guys have this ego all the time and sometimes being self centered too. If a guy has this then its big time being like that. Men also are liars not only girls does that. Everybody is capable of telling lies. Some men are not always contented of what they have. They always seem to be always in a constant search. Then if they they think they have found one or found another who is better than whoever they have then they will try to lure that girl again with their sweet words. And once they got what they wanted they will repetitively do what they have started just like that. Then these men will tell lies to their girlfriends about their whereabouts those time when they hooked up with another girl. It is like a chain. It will never stop unless the man wanted to stop doing this. And if this kind of guy had dumped you then you should be thankful and not regret what had just happened. Thank you so much for the great response! Go girl!
@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
26 Oct 10
yes i guess you are right^^ is true that if you try to control, are selfish, just think about your feelings, and never is happy with what he does he can get tired^^ if we want to keep a guy we need to show we care for him, we are there for him always, we understand him^^ and if we argue sometimes thats normal we should dont blame him for everything always. we should also say sorry to make things right^^ and feel it when say^^ also those girls that are always asking their bfs to buy this and buy that and always are wasting bf's money also can get dumped and with reason. we should be with a guy bcs of love and not bcs of his credit card^^
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@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Thank you so much. I think no stupid guy would ever let his credit fall down just being with a materialistic girl. Maybe if he is generous with the girl, it means he can really afford it or he might just using the girl as well as a trophy girlfriend. The prize for the night in some sayings. Do what you can to make your relationship work out. Even if you are a man or a woman. Both of us have to exert effort in making things right for our relationship to prosper. Thank you for the response.
@mhypie03 (683)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
I would admit I am like that right now for several reasons. Most of the time, my man is just fond of messing around the house (but of course not all of them, okay) and it's so intolerable when your family's hygiene is at risk. Women can't always do the round the clock cleaning that's when they are likely to be nagged because they don't take you seriously when you don't look and sound pissed off. I've tried the calm and non-provocative effect but didn't work out however he's improving now. Later on I'll be tamed again if he gets a lot better on not to mess around the house. =)
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
It's good that he is now improving. Anyway, we will be able to love our partner whoever he is. Even though he is grouchy, love is sometimes blind and we will sometimes do the things that we cannot do somehow.
@mhypie03 (683)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
Yep. Very much improving. At times it sounds like I'm a mother trying to discipline her kids and now he's doing things he's not used to. But he's not a very serious person so taking it like a little kid as well as they say, mothers know best. LOL!
