is it okay to keep a secret?

Philippines
October 27, 2010 12:27am CST
do you always tell everything to you wife/husband? is it okay to keep a little secret? will it ruin a relationship if you do such thing? or is it always better to be 100% honest with your partner?
3 responses
@meipan (719)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
It depend upon the situation.. if you think that he/she should not know by this time.. then keep it a secret but don't keep it long.. and i believe that it is better to discuss the things with your partner than asking a second opinion with other people.. communication is the key to keep your relationship strong and long..
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• Philippines
27 Oct 10
agree with you. having an open communication with one another will truly have everything sorted out. though at first, there could be conflicts arising from telling that particular secret, when you talk about it and allow yourself to explain, then, it would be cleared out.
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@aeisle (377)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
I'm not married yet but being as a boyfriend, I wanted to know everything from my girlfriend and of course I would do the same to her. It just feels sometimes like if she's keeping a secret to herself, I felt like she doesn't trust me enough to keep a secret from me. At first, I was nothing to me because I'm also considering her past relationship that might made trust no one anymore plus having zodiac sign of Pisces which is believe to have a secretive character. Thank goodness I was able to earn her trust she does tell me everything now honestly and so do I to her. -) Before, when she's keeping a secret with her friend, I tend to felt jealous. I felt like her friend was more trustworthy than me. I could also feel envious to that friend of hers that I could even say "Why does her friend know something about my girlfriend that she doesn't tell me." But of course, there are also exceptions that are acceptable for keeping a secret with a friend. Things like giving surprises which you definitely can't let your partner know about it yet. For almost everything about yourself and about both of you, it would still be better to always be transparent to each other. Besides, you probably don't want your partner to keep a secret from you, so don't do it too. -)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
well, as a girl, there are really things that we talk with our grilfriends, probably because, girls can relate to them better..or that..we wait for the right time to tell the guys. you don't have to worry....just make your girlfriend feel that you are open to talking about her secrets...
@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
27 Oct 10
If it is something that you have to keep secret then there is probably something wrong. I believe in being completely honest with my husband. I also want him to do the same for me. It is ok to keep a secret when you are planning a surprise for them. But it soon will no longer be a secret.