My rant for the day!
October 27, 2010 6:26pm CST
For the past month at least we've spent every free moment working on getting my FIL's house in shape enough for us to move in there... and it's been the biggest headache! Then, the last 2 Wednesdays hubby has had to drive to his Aunt's house, almost 2 hours away, to work on the exchanging of vehicles (Aunt bought a car for FIL so FIL gave us his). He left early and got home late both of those days.. worked the rest of the week, then on his only day off on the weekend we spend it at FIL's trying to fix and clean and organize. Today was the first Wednesday in a few weeks hubby has not had to drive to the Aunt's house.. so he spent it at FIL's fixing.. he got A LOT accomplished today (he's still there finishing up now). Basically all that's left after today is a lot of cleaning and some redecorating. However!!! Since hubby doesn't get out of work until after the kids are in bed on a typical work night.. the fact that he's so busy on his days off is making me crazy. Normally his days off work are days off for me from the kids. He does dinner on his nights off, and I can do whatever I want.. or we go out and do family outings. We haven't done any of this is the past month. We never went to a pumpkin patch this month because we've been so busy with FIL's house. Tonight, when hubby gets home, we're finally carving our pumpkins.. and the kids will stay up past their bedtime in order to do so. I'm just getting so stressed out over our recent schedule. I need a break but can't get one until that house is ready for us to live there. I just want to scream. I know it's all necessary and the hard work and sacrifice will pay off in the long run... but right now it's killing me! Anytime I try to tell hubby how much it's stressing me he asks if I want him to just stay home... well NO, that's not what I want. I want that house done and ready.. so obviously that means we have to make the sacrifice. I just want to vent and rant! What sort of sacrifices have you had to make recently?
28 Oct 10
Hello, Katsmeow.:) What you are experiencing is nothing compared to a lot of more serious things other people worry about, like no roof on their heads to protect them during rainy days or food to eat or good educations or money to buy meds so they can prolong their lives no matter how difficult it may be for them...:) Just be glad that your hubby is doing his sacrifices for your family and he isn't complaining right. He hasn't had day offs, too and he had spent less time with you because he has a goal to complete and that goal is also for you and your family. You said you wanted the house done so you can move in there soon. So be happy with it and don't get frustrated with your current schedule. It is just temporary, dear. :) I had made sacrifices.Sadly at the expense of my two children. I have to live with my hubby here in the city with my two other daughter because of the shaky relationship of which we are trying to fix and that one of my daughters is often sick that we need a better doctor to look up to her condition. I have no choice but to suffer the guilt feeling of leaving my two kids behind... It isn't easy and everytime I think about it, it makes my heart weep for my two other kids... Just like now...
28 Oct 10
I do understand how you feel Kat. But just keep telling yourself that this will not last forever. It is hard on your husband too and he is working very hard for you all. You do need a break but it will have to be on hod until you move. Moving is very stressful and I hated it. What I really hated was the unpacking of all the stuff as it seemed so overwhelming and it really was so depressing. you know that this is a good move so you have to grit your teeth for a while dear until it is over. I am making little sacrifices daily to save for my daughter's wedding. I said that I would take over the expenses for the Church. This includes paying the Church, Priest, organist and flowers plus bridal and bridesmaid's bouquets. It takes 85 of our dollars to buy one US dollar so each time I have enough JA dollars to buy 10 US$ then I buy and put it in my US$ account at my bank. The tellers think it is hilarious to see me buy so few dollars but it doesn't bother me. I am used to pinching pennies at various times of my life. So I aways bring lunch from home and now do not even buy a coffee or anything for myself. I am on a mission and also I have to buy my wedding outfit!!! Blessings
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28 Oct 10
You do have alot on your plate but like you said it will be well worth it when everything is said and done....I haven't had to make any sacrifices lately....and that's because my life is pretty much cut and dried! LOl.....no kids....no hubby....just get up and go to work then come home and work on my own little business!
• United States
27 Oct 10
I had to leave my old apartment to find a new school in a better neighborhood for our family. We left my mother there in the old neighborhood. She can't move because she is in low income housing. So,I can understand this as well. But,over all it had to be the best thing for us.