Do you have a childhood friend that you lost contact with?
By redmaryjane
@redmaryjane (891)
United States
October 29, 2010 8:06am CST
I'm wondering if any of you have had friends when you were very little but lost contact.
I had a friend when I was about 4. We were neighbors at a naval base in Adak, Alaska. We'd always play out but there were days when we'd fight like little normally do. Our family moved away from Adak when I was 4 and we didn't even have a chance to say goodbye. I'm not exactly looking for her, but I am wondering how she is, and we'd stay friends if we didn't move away.
Do you have a childhood friend that you lost contact with? Have you found them and do you still maintain contact?
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9 responses
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
27 Feb 11
Well, I had lost contact with some of my childhood friends who some I had not talked with in over 30 yrs. Personally I thought most of them would have forgotten about me and would never want to talk again if we ever did find each other, but a couple of months ago even, I learned that this was wrong. Thanks to Facebook I was able to track down a few of them, and what a wonderful thing this has been. We have had the chance to talk and reconnect, and maybe in the future sometime get a chance to meet again as adults as well. (If you are a member of Facebook and remember her name, maybe that is a way for you two to reconnect again as well.)
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@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
13 Jun 11
Thank you for your reply! I'm sorry I wasn't able to respond earlier :(
I know that Facebook is a powerful way to connect with people however, I only know my childhood friend's first name. All I know is that my dad was stationed in Adak, Alaska in the early 80's and we shared a duplex with her family.
It would be great if we meet again but it's not like I need to meet her so badly or anything. It would just be interesting to see how she is seeing as we were neighbors and did a lot together as toddlers. I sure hope she's on Facebook though :)
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
29 Oct 10
The sad thing is in life people do drift away. Life tends to take two people who were close as children, friends, in different direction. Often to different places in the world. Perhaps you might run across them again but likely, someone who is lost is going to be not be nothing but a distinct memory of a time that was long ago.
I think that the Internet is a place that has allowed me to reconnect. However, a lot of the times, these friends are out of my life forever, at least for the moment. So I have reconnected a few times with people I have not seen for years. As for other people, well who knows what really happened, other then the fact that people do in fact drift apart. Still the Internet is great for maintaining some contact.
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@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
31 Oct 10
My old friend and I didn't drift away. Our family decided to move and they didn't think to explain things to me about where we were going. I was too young to realize immediately that I wasn't going to see Darla anymore (that was name). Our moving away happened so quickly.
I do hope that the Internet turns up with information about her. Thanks for responding! :)
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@greenline (14838)
• Canada
31 Oct 10
Oh yes, many, many. When I think of those childhood years, many friends come back to my mind. We were so happy together playing together and sharing things we had as kids. I miss them so much, and I am sure thsy would be thinking of me once in a while. We have no contacts at all, and there is no way we can get back the contacts. But, I always wish them well and happiness in life.
@swtpareek (650)
• United States
29 Oct 10
I moved to a city from the town where I used to live and lost contact with all my friends then. I didn't really feel the pain of separation until after sometime. After a while I really started missing them all and wished and prayed to be in contact with them soon. After a period of 7 years one of them contacted me and I was really glad that he did. Now we are in touch but I still miss one of my best friends whose where abouts I don't know yet. But I am glad that I am now in contact with most of my childhood pals. 
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@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
31 Oct 10
It's great that you were able to find them! I hope you get to meet your other childhood friend soon! :)
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@soccerbai123 (274)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
yes, i did have one. she was like my best friend when i was in elementary and after third grade, my paretns decided to transfer me to another school, since then, we have not seen each other not heard any stories about her.
@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
26 Jun 11
Moving away is something that kids do not have control over. It's like our parents don't care. They do and their intentions are always for our good. I had hoped that my parents would give me an opportunity to at least say good bye to my childhood friend or at least a way to contact her or write to her. But life has to move on. Thanks for your reply! :)
@2Xbaby (1)
• United States
19 Oct 11
redmaryjane, It makes me happy to hear someone say that they wish they had been able to contact their childhood friend after moving away. It's cool that you actually cared about this girl. I had a best friend that had to move after 8th grade, and his mom didn't really seem to think it important to share what the new address or phone number would be. I gave him mine, but he never once wrote or called. I waited to hear from him all during that summer AND my freshman year of high school. Nothing. He forgot me. I was sooo devastated! Not just because he was my childhood best friend but he was also my childhood crush. I don't think he knew that though. I browse FB every now again for him, but I don't think he's on it. It was a long time ago though....11 years. So he probably wouldn't remember me anyways. Like you said..life has to move on, right?
Anyhoo, I see you last posted 4 months ago. Did you ever find her?
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
I have so many childhood friends whom I lost contact with. It's sad to think about them because I really miss them. My friends when I was younger in my elementary school and my friends in the province (when I was young I usually play with them every summer).
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Yes, exactly! I miss my childhood summer friends the most.
@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
23 Jun 11
It's the childhood friends that we make in the summer that are most intriguing. You don't meet them at school when it starts and you don't know when you're going to see them again. Then when you're an adult or in college, you wonder where they are, what they look like or if they'll still be close to you as you were that summer. :)
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
26 Nov 11
I wonder sometimes about my neighbor as a child too. We were best friends and I used to play with her and her brother everyday. When we were too little to be allowed at each others house, we would stand at the fence and call for each other until the other came out. We would play through that fence for hours..LOL. As we got older, our grown ups finally allowed us to play together for real. I often wonder what happened to them. I have tried looking them up but to no avail. Maybe one day we'll run across each other again.
@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
26 Jun 11
That is so cool! You guys meet on a set date once a year? I want to have something like that as well. A few friends and I have lunch every 28th of December but I moved away from home. I still look forward to resurrecting that tradition when the time comes! :)
