would you like to work with your lover?^^

romantic walk^^ - boy and girl hanging out together^^
Portugal
October 29, 2010 9:52am CST
hi guys^^ would you like to work with your lover?^^ about me i wouldnt mind^^ but we are so far that is impossible. also things are not good right now between us so.. anyway i wouldnt mind but maybe we should have separate jobs^^ that way we would have more things to share and tell to each other^^ sometimes if work in same place can provoque discussions and boredom in relationship. so maybe better have different jobs^^ would be better^^ what about you guys?^^ would you like to work with your lover?^^ please share^^
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• United States
29 Oct 10
I have never worked with someone I was in a relationship with and would be a bit difficult I would think. I like the idea of not being able to see each for several hours in the day as it makes for great times when we meet back up again. I think we would be on each other nerves if we saw each other 24/7. LOL
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• Portugal
29 Oct 10
yes i think that you are right^^ being 24 hours with same person always would argue maybe^^ also you have more things to tell to each other when get back home^^ thats better that way^^ but for what you say your bf is sweet to you so maybe he wouldnt argue with you much^^ anyway if you have different jobs you can talk about how was your day and is better^^ if spend all day together is like the relationship can get bored
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• Portugal
30 Oct 10
yes i understand what you mean^^ yes sometimes maybe people feel that^^ but sometimes that happen when lover doesnt give enough attention right? or love can start to disappear also. in love we need constant care^^ also is true that we need to miss our lover but not so long away. or love feelings can change. we are human and need care. and if our lover doesnt give it or give it rarely is normal that our feelings start to decrease. so maybe thats what happened to your friend.
@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
i have worked with him, though that was only a few months and i resigned eventually. hehe well it was okay.. we have our lunches together and we are able to go home together too.
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• Portugal
16 Nov 10
im happy that with you and your bf it worked well ahah thats great really but why did you resign? you didnt like the job? and your bf is still in that company? is good that you had lunch together and went home together. i guess that you had different functions so was all ok. i guess is worse if you have a business and both work together. that is worse. but if both work in same place and different things to do i guess it can be fine^^
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
4 Nov 10
No, I would never do this again. I worked in the same restaurant with my wife for a while several years ago, and it didn't go very well. We are both good restaurant workers, but we each have our own styles of doing things, and they are in no way compatible. LOL
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• Portugal
4 Nov 10
oh i see^^ ahah is normal that you have different ways of doing things^^ girls and boys always have different ways of see things^^ also is good that you work in different places. that way are not always together and have your freedom also. that is important for you both have a good relation. if are always together arguements can start.
@calpro (933)
• India
3 Nov 10
I don't think so it suits me. At work I am so disturbed and try for betterment and perfection.In that process sometimes i will be rude and harsh to my co workers. I would definitely spoil my relation with her. smiles
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• Portugal
3 Nov 10
its ok^^ you dont need to work with her ^^ if you are like that is really better that you dont work together then^^ that way you can have a good relation with her^^ that would be good then^^ what matters is that you and her be happy together^^ also that way if you work in different places can share more things^^ that will be better than work in same one^^
@Karunvig (714)
• India
2 Nov 10
i cnt wear the same clothes for whole day :P i would not like to woe !!
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• Portugal
3 Nov 10
ahah i see^^ you wouldnt want to be always with same girl all day attached to you to everywhere you go right? ahah you would also want your freedom^^ yes you are right^^ we all need space for our own things also^^ i understand that you need to do things on your own also^^ without your gf be always around^^ anyway in what does she work?
@saqi78 (1405)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 10
I never been with a person at work with whom Im in relationship, I think it would be a great idea. I would love to work with my gf at my work place in this way I ll have more time with her, it ll not only relief me but it ll be better for the company, because I would like to have more time with her, and for more time, I would like to work for more hours...lolz but in fact I need my partner to be with under the same roof and even on the same table....:)
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• Portugal
29 Oct 10
ahah i see^^ thats not very usual in boys to want to spend so much time with their gfs^^ i see that you really love your gf much^^ want to spend much time with her always^^ in table and on the same roof ahah but if you want to work in same place like her why dont you try?^^ i dont know but maybe you already have a stable job so maybe isnt good idea to give it up to work with your gf. but if you think you would be happier^^
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
Me and my bf have the same profession and when we were still in college we have our OJT together and i was happy that we were in a duty together. That way he can help me do my job fast and i can help him do is fast. If there is a thing that it's hard for one to do then there will also be a ready helping hand to help the other. Although you have a point, it can cause boredom being with your lover sometimes almost 24hours a day..that will be somewhat a cause of break up..
@pupupd (1516)
• India
30 Oct 10
You are right. If you see too much of each other then you are bound to get bored and that will lead to frustration. You must have your own bunch of friends as well with whom you must spend time and the rest can be spent with your lover. Boys are most likely to get bored while being with his girl for 24 hours Girls are more mushy and never get bored of such things. They just love being with their partner and are attached emotionally,where as boys are more practical and want to do something independently as well. So, we girls must understand our boys and let them be free for sometime
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• Portugal
31 Oct 10
gaiza thats great that you and your bf spent so much time together before^^ and sure was awesome that you worked together bcs that way could help each other^^ that way work was faster, easier and more cute^^ bcs you could be near him always^^ but sure be 24 hours with same person could get boring^^ so is good that you and your bf dont work together anymore^^ pupu yes thats true that guys like their freedom more than girls^^ i dont think that girls get so tired as boys^^ i say that also bcs for me me and my bf could talk everyday^^ but for him sometimes doesnt talk for one or two days bcs is always busy. i understand that one day is ok but two days? i dont. if we love someone we need at least everyday say something. even a lil message. so i dont understand him sometimes. even more in our case that we are so far away. we should talk everyday really.
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@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
1 Nov 10
pupupd and sweetloveforeve both of you are right, thanks for getting my point. It sure is a little boring to be with your lover 24/7. So i think if possible, if you have the same profession, try at least not to work in the same company or try to be assigned in a different field so as both of you have to share something by the end of the day and even learn from each others experiences for that day. Happy myLotting :)
29 Oct 10
sometimes it can be too much especially if you live with them also. It can also cause problems if you clash at work, especially if one is in a higher position. But you could keep more of an eye on your partner and it could be good if the relationship is so strong. Although you would have more to talk about if you both had two different jobs.
• Portugal
29 Oct 10
yes craigy i agree that maybe is too much^^ but it depends if you go along well in work or not^^ about is good bcs spend more time together thats true yes^^ the relationship can become stronger^^ thats right^^ but i dont know if i would want that^^ im not so sure^^ but yes would be cute but maybe couldnt focus so much ahah^^ about have more to talk about depends^^ if you work in same company for example but in different parts maybe you still have things to tell^^
29 Oct 10
always best to communicate about different parts of your day, i just think that it could be too much when working together
• Portugal
30 Oct 10
yes craigy maybe^^ if you spend long time together is normal that if you also work in same place thinbs get different. maybe argue more. but sure i dont plan if i ever meet my bf near to work in the same place^^ unless we created a business together like he wants. but that takes some money. also is a big responsability so i wouldnt like. i rather work for other person than have a business with my bf.
@pupupd (1516)
• India
30 Oct 10
I have my conditions in which one is I want to work with my lover and other is I dont want to work Ok, so the first ondition is that I want to work with my partner only if we are in seperate projects, I do not want to be with him in same project, same desk/bay/workplace as that will distract me from my work. I will concentrate more on what he is doing rather than focussing on my own work. So, he better be in his own seperate project and floor and I will be some where else. There are two advantages of this, one is he can help me get into some other project in same company if I want to change and also I can help him with his carier as we will make seperate contacts in the company. Second advantage is (if possible) we both can go home together lol So, the second condition does not need any explaination as I have already mentioned, I am ready to work if we are on seperate floors or else strict no no. Earlier even I used to hope that my partner and I should work together, but later I realised if this happens it will only isolate us from the rest of my team. We both will always be together and others will obviously ignore us which will prevent usfrom making new friends.
• Portugal
31 Oct 10
yes pupu i agree with you^^ you and your bf were just getting distracted on each other^^ and i think you are right when you see that you would always be together if worked in same floor but about dont make new friends i guess you could^^ people would see how good lovers you are and maybe would come closer^^ anyway sure would be good that you could go home together^^ and spend more time^^ but sure is ok if you dont do that and have separate jobs^^ you need also time for your own things^^
@pupupd (1516)
• India
1 Nov 10
We always used to be together in our college days. So, we used to be so busy with each other that we forgot our other friends completely and they also started ignoring us. They didn't use to invite us in any party or gathering, they didn't use to involve us in their daily jokes and fun, we both were always kept seperate from the rest of our group. I do not know the reason but this has happened with us so I will prefer not being together at any working place.
• Portugal
1 Nov 10
im sorry for that pupu yes you better really work in separate places^^ that way you can also have different friends and are not always together. when you have a bf you also need time for your own things. dont need to be just you and him all the time. so im happy that your bf cares much for you^^ and you care much for him^^ but also need your own things so is great that you work in different places^^ that way can also meet more friends if you meet his and he meet yours =)
@tonyllenium (6262)
• Italy
29 Oct 10
i think yes in general even if i never worked with someone i was in relationship before but i think it would be a problem from this point of view...may eb my lover should not ask me all the time to finish the work for her if not it can be boring eheh..
• Portugal
30 Oct 10
yes maybe would be a problem^^ it depends if you would work in same section or not^^ anyway if your gf asked you to finish her job always sure would be bad ahah^^ you need to have your responsabilities and her hers^^ she shouldnt ask you for you to do yours and hers ahah that would be too much^^ anyway i dont think she would do that^^ im sure she wouldnt ^^
• Italy
30 Oct 10
yes is true probably she wouldn't ask this...and you know even if she asks things like that you will do it because you know there is love so normally you become mad in general..
• Portugal
31 Oct 10
ahah yes maybe ahah^^ so you would do what she asks ^^ thats cute of you^^ sweet guy huh? ahah any girl would like to have a bf like you that do all what we need ahah^^ i like your expression when you say we all get mad ahah yes i guess that sometimes we get too blind to see the reality^^ so yes for sure you would do what she asks ahah and maybe she would also do what you asked also^^ if she loves you she will want to help you also^^
@llbo1981 (1242)
• China
31 Oct 10
The answer is yes.I would like to work with my lover.But the fact is that many companies can not accept this kind of working styles.They think that the working styles may affect the efficient of working.
• Portugal
31 Oct 10
yes i think that you are right^^ in some companies i think that they dont want that husband and wife or lovers work together bcs their work^^ they think that they will get distracted or something^^ yes you are right^^ anyway i guess would be cool to try to work with your lover once to see how things would go^^ but maybe thats not possible always^^
@pupupd (1516)
• India
1 Nov 10
Yes, same happens in my company as well. Those who have joined as couples and have later become couples have always been seperated and put in different projects. Also, the location of their workspace is kept as far as possible *now this is too much to do* At least one can keep the lovers/couples near to each other. If they have work pressure they will obviously not do time pass, if they do so then you cn take further actions. But why seperate them before allowing them to show their behaviour towards work culture??
• Portugal
1 Nov 10
ahah yes pupu ^^ but if lovers work together maybe they really shouldnt be together or can get distracted with other things that are not work ahah^^ and both could get fired ahah so really is better maybe they work in different areas^^ that way at least dont lose their jobs^^ and maybe they can have lunch together anyway^^ and go out home at same time^^
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
yes i would love to work with him but not for lifetime.working together will improve stronger relationships but you are right it will lead to boredom too so i think its better if you can work together for moths or years and finally find separate jobs so you can only meet at free day so you will be more excited to see and be with each other.well if you are married then you can only see each other home too.
• Portugal
30 Oct 10
yes you are right^^ you would like to work with him only for monthes or years^^ but sure then go in separate jobs so you can share more things together^^ anyway if you always have a different job is ok^^ we all need time for our own things also^^ isnt wrong if you dont work with your bf^^ but sure maybe some people like to to spend more time together^^
• China
30 Oct 10
hello dear friend. i ever you some questions like this. i find that your questions are so interesting . ok . i don't like to work with my lover together. that will be so hard to live with one's lover all the time. all the day. that will be so tired. so i hope we all should not do it .best wishes.
• Portugal
30 Oct 10
yes i understand that you wouldnt like to work with her^^ you also need time for your own things^^ and spend all day with her would be tiring^^ i agree with you^^ anyway you dont need to do that^^ you and your gf can have different jobs and see at home only^^ thats better bcs can share how was your day and laugh together^^ that way become closer^^ thanks for like my discussions^^ im happy that you answer it too^^
• Mexico
29 Oct 10
Hi sweet love foreve: I'd definetly would like to work with my lover, because when you can work together with your couple this would make your relationship stronger because you both need to think as a whole and to understand that, even with you have problems you have to work together. I think it's all about empathy, maybe if you work together you'll have more things to share and this would probably be a nice way to value your lover as a worker. Thanks for asking us this question. ALVARO
• Portugal
30 Oct 10
yes i understand^^ that way you could know your lover better^^ by seeing how she works right?^^ but about me i wouldnt like to work with my bf i guess^^ but i dont know^^ we are very far right now so i have no idea how he is when he is working^^ anyway maybe would be good if he had a job and could find for me also^^ maybe would be easier for me to go to his country^^
@karsted (240)
• Canada
29 Oct 10
I would never work with my hubby because I know we would never get any work done together, haha. We are total opposites in job styles;it would never work.Other things besides work would get in the way.I think it would be trouble. It is better to have different jobs, and then to have different experiences to share with each other.
• Portugal
30 Oct 10
ahah would never make any work done? ahah maybe would get distracted with each other right?^^ ahah anyway sure if you have different working styles thats normal that things wouldnt go well^^ and sure that way have more things to share^^ me and my bf also i prefer that when we are together we have different jobs too^^
• United States
29 Oct 10
This is a really good question. I used to work with my husband for 2 months at the job that he's still working at. I won't do it again because we always saw each other then we would get tired of each other when we got home. I know that sounds kind of mean, but we love each other with all our hearts. I just could never work with him ever again. I enjoy when he's at work and I'm home waiting for him. Sorry to hear things aren't good between you two I really hope things get a lot better for you two.
• Portugal
30 Oct 10
no you are not mean^^ just you didnt like to be always with him^^ thats normal^^ everyone would feel the same than you^^ everyone needs space in relationships^^ you did right thing stopping to work with him^^ so you have a new job now?^^ about me and my bf things are too bad. he needs to find space in his life for me or else cant be. i understand him always but there are things i cant understand really. i understood too much already and now its him that needs to understand me. thanks for like my discussion^^ wish you the best for you and your hubby too^^
• United States
29 Oct 10
Going off what you said I would not like to work with soembody I've been in a relationship nor I have ever. Also, besides what you said I think getting away from a lover would be best so people keep the space and not get all up in eachothers lives. Seperate jobs would give two people to talk about something. Overall I would not want to work with a lover.
• Portugal
30 Oct 10
yes i understand^^ you also need space right?^^ its normal that you prefer to have separate jobs^^ that way have more things to share^^ also doesnt need to spend all the time together to be sure that you love someone^^ but is important to be everyday in contact but not all the time^^ i understand that you also need to do your own things^^
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
29 Oct 10
Some people say that it effects a relationship a bit negatively as you would be spending too much time together. However i always wished to have that opportunity to be honest.
• Portugal
29 Oct 10
yes thats true^^ i heard that it can effect negatively a relationship too^^ bcs of arguements and also bcs you know all what you doing during day. is like have less things to share. but i guess that it maybe isnt always like that^^ it depends^^ maybe if you work in same place but with different functions thats different^^ also if you would like to try why dont you?^^ maybe goes well for you and your lover^^
@insulin (2481)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Well I think I can't handle to work with my lover since his the 2nd master of the company and let just say I will work there as a secretary,We both decided not to work in one company since it will create gap between us due to work problems.
• Portugal
29 Oct 10
yes if he is the 2nd master of a company thats a big status. so sure is normal that you wouldnt feel too ok. you are secretary?^^ thats good^^ is a great job really^^ anyway im happy that you prefer to work in different companies so dont argue with each other^^ that way your relationship gets better^^ if avoid arguements^^ maybe you wouldnt argue much but is better to avoid^^
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
29 Oct 10
Working with someone you have an intimate relationship can be exciting at first. Being together constantly can put a strain on the relationship. sometimes it is wiser to separate your job or career from your personal life. there is usually less drama this way.
• Portugal
29 Oct 10
yes i guess that at first the idea seems great bcs can spend much time together^^ but then maybe isnt bcs that way is like you have less things to talk about right? but i guess it depends^^ but sure sometimes if you work with your bf maybe can argue i dont know. anyway i wouldnt mind to work with my bf in the same place^^ but im not sure if would be a good idea or not.