Whom you feel more easy to interact with- Mom or Dad ??

@roxyoo7 (246)
India
October 30, 2010 2:03pm CST
My dad is less judgmental than my mother. He is firm and disciplined me when necessary, yet there was a compassion there that just did not exist as much between my mother and me. My mom ( if she should ever read this ) would surely burst into tears to find this out, although I think a little part of her would realize that it was the truth. She is a great mom; she just didn't always understand me or accept me. I always feel more comfortable discussing things with my Dad. Maybe that's why Some of my best memories are conversations with my dad. Reading these words myself, I find it sounding like I hate my mom. Well I don't. I still know that she loves me and want what is best for me. But It is just easier to talk to dad. Communication between a father and child builds and becomes stronger as the child becomes older and is able to communicate back through words but it is that basic non verbal communication that builds the trust needed to affectively communicate with the parent as the child matures into teen and early adulthood. I know that choosing which parent is better is a misleading question to ask. I think children need both parents. There are some things you will learn from your dad that you can't learn from your mother and vice versa. Communication between parents and children is crucial regardless of who you choose. Children need to feel they can come to either parental unit to discuss their fears, joys, worries, etc. Communication period. Parents need to spend more time around the kitchen table with their children. Families need to take more time together. I understand some feel more comfortable with one parent over the other; I'm one of them. But we do need to remember to discuss our feelings to each of the parents and this in turn will build strong, healthy relationships which will last a lifetime. As i said above i feel more comfortable while interacting with my dad. Maybe because I'm a guy and do feet more comfortable while interacting with my dad although I love my mother more than i love my dad. What about you guys??
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@rene12 (798)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
I am not really comfortable in interacting with my parents. Although I see my mom once a year because of her work, it is quite enough unlike my father who only contacts me through internet. My Dad left us when I was little, probably 1 years old or so and just decided to find me about 2 years ago which irritates me but oh well, that is life. It is quite difficult long distance relationship with my parents but I am still happy that i lived a violent-free life which is not common for people with the same situation as mine. I became independent but a little too stubborn coz I don't want to be taught by them at times The situation today is my mom and dad are separated and reconciled but eventually had a problem which ended up on not communicating with each other. Although I tried to connect them in some ways, my mom doesn't want to anymore because of my dad's attitude. Frankly I don't know my father even a bit. All I know is his name and that is all so I can say that i love my mother way more than my dad like you do.
@roxyoo7 (246)
• India
30 Oct 10
Well I'm extremely sorry to hear this. I must say that you're quite unlucky buddy. I just wish that things get normal between your parent and you get something you must have got quite a long time ago Best of luck with your life and thanks for sharing bro.!!
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@rene12 (798)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
It is quite alright. Because of this, I became a better man :D
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• United States
30 Oct 10
I too feel more comfortable talking to my dad about pretty much anything. My mom is just annoying most of the time and thinks everything I do is so shocking or crazy. My dad is more understanding and doesn't judge and has actually done most of the things I have done. He knows we have to learn from our mistakes and he is always there for advice. He gets me better than my mom and I think that's because I am just like him and not her lol. :o)
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@roxyoo7 (246)
• India
30 Oct 10
Well one thing that I'd like to share with you is that no mother can hate her child. Mothers understand you best, in case you think that she hates you, although I'm sure that you didn't think so. Anyways, its good to read your response. I hope your relation with your dad remains same, in fact grow even more stronger and also improve a bit with your mom. :-) :-P Happy myloting. :-)
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• United States
30 Oct 10
Oh I wasn't saying that I didn't like me or understand me. She just doesn't understand me as well as my father does. I love my mom no matter what but there are just things that I can't talk to her about cuz she thinks everything I do is crazy lol. She i guess u could say is very conservative and a little naive to the world outside of the little town she lives in. And thank you :o)
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• India
30 Oct 10
as per the theory foretold and somewhat true in meny ways guys r close to there mom and girls r close to there dad ................. in easy word fathere intract better with there daughter not that they dont talk with there son but there is a barrier of male ego in between them sort of .................and guys r frank with there mothers in some topicks not all topicks they intrackt with there mother better as per me i intract with my mother better now that i work with my dad i do have a chat with him sometimes but i can talk to my mother easily think this is the case with most of the parants cant say its case with all the parants and children but this is what i c around me
@roxyoo7 (246)
• India
30 Oct 10
Well this foretold theory makes me feel abnormal, as I'm a guy and as i said I feel lot more comfortable while interacting with my Dad.:-) BTW thanks for your valuable response. Happy myloting. BTW you're Indian right ??
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• United States
30 Oct 10
Hi roxyoo7, I was always close to my dad when he was alive. I talked to him about almost everthing and he always listened. I miss him so much because sometimes I really need someone to talk to and he's not around anymore. I know he's in heaven now though. I do talk to my mom, but I'm not that close to her as I was with my dad. If I really need to talk to her it seems like she's always busy or when we are talking about something serious she all of a sudden needs to hang up.
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@lou_is (668)
• India
30 Oct 10
I feel more comfortable to interact with both Mom and Dad. Because some times there may be cases where if i told to my Dad then he won't believe then i need to convince him through my Mom. Visa versa in case of Mom. But whatever it is i will share my interest equally with my Dad and Mom. I never hide anything infront of them. Which ever the matter is, just i use to say infront of them and get the solution or suggestions from them. As for as my concern, Whatever they suggest will be a valuable one and it is acceptable one for me.
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• Philippines
30 Oct 10
I can say that I am more attached to my mom even during my childhood years I am sometimes clingy to my mom. As years passed I always ask for my mom's opinion on things that I need to her advice or opinion, I had a less interaction with my dad. My father is not always in our house due to his work, we do have our moments alone with my dad but then I say, its still different when it comes to my mother.
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
31 Oct 10
Both parents can be easy to interact with. Sometimes the females are more in tune with each other. Sometimes the male species are more at home with each other. it all depends on who you have more in common with.
@misterMR (797)
• Philippines
31 Oct 10
Both parents are essential to our physical, mental and spiritual growth. I must admit I am much more closer to my mom. My dad was more attached to my brother. It all depends on the person, but we need both parents in our lives. :D
@thaMARKER (3096)
• Philippines
31 Oct 10
it depends. i don't talk problems that much with my parents. i don't want them to worry.. unless i can no longer take it. i love talking about life with my father. he knows a lot and he's good at it. i love hangin out with my mother and talk about whatever. my mother is like a friend.
• Philippines
31 Oct 10
i am a woman and i am more comfortable interacting with my mom. she understands me well and everytime i have a problem she understands me and give her advice. i also have a good relationship with my father but i sometimes it feels hard to interact with him. but when i want to go out, he's the easiest person to talk to. :))
@louie847 (351)
• Philippines
31 Oct 10
I think i am more comfortable to interact with my mom. I can share most of everything to my mom other than my dad. Also, I can play jokes to my mom and she doesn't get mad. But with my dad, he does not respond to any of it. He is more serious than my mom.
• Philippines
31 Oct 10
I went through a phase where I prefer talking to my dad than my mom. I felt like my mom is so strict and uptight and my father is easier to get along with. But after I was diagnosed with a heart condition 5years ago, I learned to appreciate my mom more. We became closer and we became buddies. I understand her now more than ever because I am a mother myself. I'm close with both my mom and dad and I think in our case, it was just a misunderstanding and lack of communication.
@lady1993 (14049)
• Philippines
31 Oct 10
It's not really because of their attitude..my dad is certainly much more nicer than my mom . But he was working abroad most of the time that's why I always spend my time with my mother; which means I'm closer to her. She's like a best friend whom I can tell anything to..and she gives good advice too- most of the times.
• Philippines
31 Oct 10
None of them. I would talk and discuss things but never talk about anything deep or personal. I am not likely to tell them how I feel and what I want or anything like that. I don't feel like talking about it with any of them. I just don't like the idea of getting personal to them. ^_^