How Can You Say You are a Responsible Parent?

Philippines
October 31, 2010 10:57pm CST
Many people think that if they work hard and provide the needs of their children like good quality of life, clothing, food, education, a good home, allowing them to buy the things they want will make their children happy. Are you one of those parents? Although it is really crucial to give children those things, your kid wants something more than that. Your TIME. But why do most people don't have time for their children? Many people grow up so irresponsible, rebellious, and a headache to others. I believe parents play a major factor in this thing. Though not all people that have bad traits are raised by not so good parents, many are. But this, too, does not mean that all children raised in a not so good parenting style are bad. What do you think? Is there a way how parents could spend more time with their children? Could parents teach their children the sense of being a good member of the society? As a parent, what personally do you do that you can share to others that worked well for you?
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6 responses
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
I am a believer of good parenthood likewise results on a good and harmonious relationship among family members. Kids raised with love, sincerity and kindness are less likely to rebel and go astray. But the other way around -- well you know what I mean. I was actually raised like this, they thought that money is all that matters. Though I did not rebel and had never been a headache at all, our family never felt that happy being together because all our differences were not put aside since our parents didn't pay much attention to this. Whenever I initiate for a good sit and talk, it seems no one cares and listens. So sad actually, so sad.
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
Sad to hear that.. There are many people like you whose parents really just think if they give their children money they become happy. Anyways, good you've not been like many other who have thrown their lives because of this way of growing up. I think also it's one lesson for us. If we become parents, let's treat our children the way we wanted our parents to treat us when we're young.. Thanks a lot for sharing your story.
@Ajajejo (21)
• Philippines
1 Nov 10
Hi Bannybanzie being responsible parents is not about providing all the basic needs of your children and family. The best thing is to earn their respect, let them feel that they are involved of some decisions of the house and acknowledge them when they do good things. they should be guided in all times.
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
That's one good point, too. Children are also affected by their parents' decisions and listening to their point of view regarding family matters can help the parents to make decisions that their children won't rebel against.
• Philippines
1 Nov 10
if you will ask me as long as you love your children you are responsible enough... actually buying cloths, food, education, a good home,and work for all there needs. it is called your duties and responsibilities as a parents. there are differents ways to show our love in our children, sometimes we are over protected and very strict.. it depends how you handle your responsibilities to your children.. if you love them, just guide there path in the right way.. for me it is one of the kind of a good parents
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
I believe in what you said. Leading children the right path they should walk is the best way to help them be successful in life and be happy. Thank you!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
1 Nov 10
As long as you are taking the best care of your child that you possibly can, then you can call yourself a responsible parent. if more people could pride in this, children could live a much happier life.
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
Yes you're right. It is every child's happiness to feel that they are loved by their parents no matter what the situation is.
@Sreekala (18142)
• India
1 Nov 10
Hi Banny, I think I am a responsible parent but I am not sure that how much I am successive on this aspect. Regarding the time, I really felt sorry many times then also I am trying my best to give enough time for them. If I didn’t spent time then it may be due the situations, may be I am much busy in home or office. This may be the situation of most working parents. In the evening I sit with them at least with their studies. If I spend more time with them then their dinner may get late. I am doing work for their betterment as the education is very costly now. If I have enough earning through other ways to meet all expenses then I love to spend my whole time with my kids.
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
That's really the situation of most parents. Of course, loving them means parents should provide the best they can for their children and I know that that's what you're doing. I hope you succeed with raising your children! When children grew up and they see how much sacrifice their parents have done for them, I know they would be eager to pay back to their parents when they are old and need their help.
• Singapore
1 Nov 10
Hi Bannybanzie! To answer your question is a matter of time to answer too. It is a long time process, and you must wait for the result to come from the behaviour of your kids as they grow old. But you are right that TIME plays an important factor for us to shape our kids the way we wanted them to be. We as parents only wanted the best for our them. And so no matter how diffiult it may seem, we want to make it sure that all the best will be given to them. More importantly I believed, we should not forget the best things in life comes from small and simple things we do each day. So no matter how busy our life everyday is, we should not forget to let them feel how important they are to us. Make each and everyday special, hug them, kiss them, feel them, talk to them, play with them. Always communicate and ask them about their activities the whole day. That may sound routinary, but I think everything out of it counts a lot. Because once a child learns and feels that he or she is appreciated inspite and despite of being who really is, he will also learn how to appreiciate life that is given to him or her. From then, the motiviation of being positive in all aspect wil begin to grow and will lead him towards a better future. And that is the best gift we can give to our children.
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
You're really right with what you said. Many parents nowadays forget the importance of showing their love to their children. Kids appreciate even the simplest things in life because it helps them build their personalities in the future. Feeling that they are loved is the best way to raise children. Thank you very much for sharing your opinion with me!