Good Table Manners..........

@saphrina (31740)
South Africa
November 1, 2010 10:56am CST
Okay everyone, let's hear how many of you have very good manners. Each household has there set of manners which is a must at the dinner table or where ever you all eat. Now, i can take a lot when eating with someone, but one thing that really gets my knickers in a knot is if you put your elbows on the table and eat with an open mouth. That is truely disgusting. I won't do it, so why in the hell will others do it. And if you dare say something about it, all hell brakes loose. Now tell me how good your table manners are. TATA.
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26 responses
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
1 Nov 10
Hi Saphrina, Long time no c? Hope you are having a great time... We do not have any dining table yet at our place. The one that was supposed to become one, is being used for my desktop! As of now, we have a buffet sort of arrangement as there are just the two of us but when we have guests or people visiting for lunch or dinner, Indian tradition holds up and we sit on floors.... with an altogether Indian set of mannerisms. But yes, when at my dads or even with anyone at a hotel, I do pay attention to those table manners... Rarely I pray and thank God before or after food... (I do the prayer part just once before bed at night for giving me one more day and everything). And yes, I dont like people who make too many noises while eating! That is the only thing that disgusts me while on the table. Cheers, theSids.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
1 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. Just a bit busy. I don't think eating dinner on the floor is such a bad idea. At least it's cooler in summer, ain't it? Noise making while eating, i won't finish dinner then. Thanx. TATA.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Nov 10
I never pick my nose at the dinner table.
@vandana7 (65081)
• India
1 Nov 10
- which means you normally do!
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Nov 10
I doesn't mean anything of the sort, other than "let's see how people interpret that"!
@vandana7 (65081)
• India
1 Nov 10
Ok - here is a second try - you pick others nose at the dinner table instead of yours.
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2 Nov 10
well i admit i do put my elbows on the table but i agree with the eating with mouth open
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
3 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. Okay, elbows off the table then. Good to know you agree on the open mouth chewing. Thanx. TATA.
3 Nov 10
will try my hardest
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
4 Nov 10
Thank you so kindly.
@topffer (34168)
• France
16 Oct 11
Like Veganbliss said, good manners varies with the country. I had some problems in UK to identify the spoons and forks on my cousins table, but they had also problems to identify oysters and snails forks in France. Beside these "local" good manners, I suppose that things like eating with an open mouth are not welcomed anywhere -- personally, I find also this disgusting --. My mother, who went to a school to learn good manners -- it was in another century -- tried to teach them to me, but I have to admit I had a very bad manner during several years : I was smoking during a dinner, and I was always amazed in good restaurants when waiters were trying to remove ash-trays from the table to teach me good manners.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
17 Oct 11
Hi sweetie. I still don't get why one have to use forks for different dishes. I personally think its stupid, just more damn dishes to wash. Anyway, smoking at any table in any house or restaurant is not done here. It is frowned upon as very bad manners.
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@topffer (34168)
• France
17 Oct 11
It is not easy to eat a snail without the good cutlery, especially in the part of France where I live now and where small snails are eaten. I have stopped smoking a few years ago, when law forbid it in restaurants. I was really guilty, because I knew it was bad manners, and I would not have done it at my parents home.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
2 Nov 10
Hey saphy! I am definitely with you! I am a pretty picky person to eat with! I get annoyed by alot of table habits. My mom clanks her fork with her teeth and always has! She is 80 now and hasn't changed! (at least she has her real teeth...My bf is a very loud eater and sucks his teeth which drives me totally insane! I would say "elbows on the table" is just another annoyance! Oh yeah, my best girlfriend doesn't know that she always has food all over her mouth and her nose running Even my bf noticed that! Please help me! This is why I prefer to eat alone~
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
2 Nov 10
Hi meluan! Nice to see you! I guess I am a bit crazy when it comes to eating habits!
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
2 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. There i am guilty. I play with my food and my mom can really hit the roof when i start playing with my fork on my teeth. She will just take my plate and let me leave the table. So nice to have such a manner to get out of dinner. I do not even want to see the runny nose part. Thanx. TATA.
@Jotomy (6354)
• India
1 Nov 10
Hi saphrina how are you? Well we like to have at least dinner with all the family members. We all like to sit on the floor comfortably have dinner while discussing all the matter what and all happened throughout the day. We don't have no such fast rules. Happily talk and have dinner. Have a nice day/night.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
1 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. Honestly i think the last time i sat on the floor having dinner was when i was small. Apparently i could always make a mess of the dinner table. I think i should have dinner on the floor again. Thanx. TATA.
@vandana7 (65081)
• India
2 Nov 10
Hi jo (By the way what is your avatar - I can't guess what it is). :)
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
Hello again, dear.:) Table manners are they still being observed nowadays? Some do not have even tables to dine with... Well, no cellphone please when you are eating with me and do not eat like a pig. Other than that I can very well handle and live with it. Except if you want to eat all the food and do not want to share it with me. Just do any of those to shoo me away from the table.LOL
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
26 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. Sorry for this late response. I am ssssoooo behind here. I still want to try that floor dining sweetie. I don't think it really matter where you have dinner or any of your meals as long as you have manners. I promise i will share my food with you. As for the phone, that is a really big NO NO here. Thanx. TATA.
@EKOBERNIE (264)
• United States
5 Nov 10
me I like to keep my mouth open, do not want to miss anything going in. How are we suppose to eat and keep our mouth closed. I am lost, lol
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
6 Nov 10
Sweetie of course you have to open that mouth to get the food in. I was talking about people who chew open mouthed and talking while thye have food in their mouths. Do you do that? Thanx. TATA.
@saqi78 (1405)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
Yeah, this is really disgusting when a person beside me put his elbow on table, I experienced this thing during my college dining hall, this thing really disturb me very much For me I dnot put my meal first, I ll always ask the person beside me to take first and I ll always ask my elders to do it first. I ll never make noise at my table as I have seen many people making noise when they are at table and disturb the surroundings. I ll not rush out when I finish my meal, I always wait for others to finish then leave along others... Their are a lot of things which should be taken into account Be happy and be the reason of happiness
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
3 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. Seems you do care about good table manners. Good keep it up then. I hate that elbow thing and i do not want to see your dinner while you chew it. Thanx. TATA.
@vicky30 (4777)
• India
3 Nov 10
I have not seen people putting elbows on the table and eating.My table manners are too not good.I sometimes spill a little food on the table while eating.I do not like people who keep bones on the table while eating.I also do not like people who talk too much while eating.The food will become cold and it will not be enjoyable for eating.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
3 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. I am sure a bit of spilling ain't that bad, just as long as you try to make it better then. And no one likes cold dinner. Thanx. TATA.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
3 Nov 10
Elbows on the table do not disgust me as much as eating with an open mouth or making unpleasant noises! I try my very best to practice as good table manners as possible and I do very well considering that I was never taught any from my mother! In fact she has the worst table manners I have ever seen and my sister and I have been embarrassed by her on many occasions. Good table etiquette is a basic thing we should all teach our children...
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
3 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. Good table manners is always a must even if you have to teach yourself then. I cannot think why most parents don't teach their children. Thanx. TATA.
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@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
3 Nov 10
I don't eat with elbows on the table, it's not really proper at all. And i don't talk when my mouth is full. I eat together with my family and so we talk when we eat to say how our days went, but we make sure that our mouth is not full of any food before we talk.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
3 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. Glad to hear that you do not put your elbows on the table and that you finish chewing and swallowing before you talk. Keep it up. Thanx. TAAT.
@academic2 (7010)
• Uganda
2 Nov 10
Growing up then in my little village, my father alone decided what good manners at table was-roughly it was something like this- Firstly,he alone was required to bite a bone aloud during a meal, the rest of the kids were supposed to keep the pieces of meat, eat the soup and then later pick their pieces of meat and dash out of the room to chew it in peace in the compounds-in this case, they could be free to bite their bones as loudly as they wished. Secondly, talking while eating was totally prohibited to children especially. Thirdly, no child was supposed to drink water during a meal because it would water down food and affect food absorption. Fourthly, it was considered bad manners to leave a visitor on table and on the part of the visitor, he/she would easily be branded a glutton if he/she/ ate all the food in his/her plate. The reason the children are expected to wait on the visitors is that once they finally are done, the children should carry the dishes with something left over which they later would continue to enjoy off the table.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
2 Nov 10
Okay wait a bit here. Let me get this straight. You are not suppose to do what adults do and you have to wait till everyone has eaten and you all get what is left? I'm sorry, this might sound rude, but what the hell do you call that? This is really bad, you know. TATA.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
2 Nov 10
I think it'ss important to have good table manners. Etiquette during dining shows that we are not savages at the dinner table. It is a much more pleasant dining experience when you show off your good table manners.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
2 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. I think some people like to behave like savages when eating. Hope they will at least think to try some table manners, though. Thanx. TATA.
@primeaque86 (8112)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
Okay I guess I have to challenge myself then to behave in the table hahahahaha, nice table manners you know...
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
2 Nov 10
I guess you should challenge yourself then, prime. I want superb table manners from you. Think you can handle that? TATA.
@AmbiePam (49114)
• United States
2 Nov 10
My mom taught me well. No elbows on the table, napkin in the lap, close your mouth when you chew...I hate it when people chew with their mouth open, and essentially "smack" their food. It's disgusting. My late great grandfather used to do that, and it grossed me out so badly I often had to leave the table. I mean, he did it really really loudly.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
2 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. Yes that freaking smacking can really turn one;s stomach. I don't mind all the table manners, but i hate that napkin thing. Some use it for a tissue. Maybe that is why i despise them so much. Thanx. TATA.
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
2 Nov 10
Hi Sweetie that is also one of my pet hates, the other one is when someone has to chew really loud it just puts me of my food and it rakes on my Nerves The worse one is though and believe me I have experienced this is when People pass wind and burp loud when they are eating it is the most disgusting thing
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
2 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. I wonder why people do that. I can understand when someone really enjoy his dinner, but to make that awefull noises is enough to make me flee from the table. Burbing and farting will get them a slap or two. That is totally rude and uncalled for. Thanx. TATA.
• United States
2 Nov 10
I have excellent table manners, I'm with you. I hate sloppy people, how do they not know that they are eating like a pig. Worse, who lets them keep doing it? I would tell them that they need some manners, if it makes them mad then they have the problem with it. Parents don't teach manners, they need to toss the television because that's where half the snots get their information. My kids have okay manners, I have to correct them but they don't backlash me, they just do it because I'm the authority and one day they will have to go into the big bad world, I want them to know some form of humanity. Let the pigs eat with the pigs I say.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
2 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. Yes i have to say that a lot of parents tend to skip that part when it comes to manners. Hope it will change though. To behave like that is enough to make anyone mad. Yip, let the pigs it the pigs. They definately deserve that. Thanx. TATA.
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
hello saphrina! i don't like looking at a person, especially if he's eating in my table, with his elbows in the table as if he would like to spread his wings and fly while eating, lol. However, i can tolerate him if i have to but not someone who munch at his food like his crunching rocks (one who eats and chew so loud, like a bleating goat). More so with people who eat noisily while using spoon and fork. That will really ire me, all that grating noise gets on my nerves. i also hate it when people eat and then talk, and they spew out food bits. That's really bad manners in the extreme.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
2 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. All that is enough to drive me up a wall. That is people with no manners. Thanx. TATA.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
2 Nov 10
Hi Saphrina, I know all the proper table manners having had a grandmother who was very proper and demanded it when we went to dinners at her home. I also learned very young how to properly set a table. These are things that I taught all of my girls. When they were younger they loved taking turns setting the dinner table and we'd all sit down together at a formally set table, complete with candles and have dinner together. As they got older and schedules got more hectic those times became less frequent. Even though things are more relaxed now, we still use the basic manners when sitting down to eat whether with each other or elsewhere. Now the elbows on the table don't bother me so much but eating with the mouth open is a big NO-NO! Also talking about gross things and arguing is not allowed.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
2 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. You should have met my grandma. Now that was a feisty old lady, when it came to table manners. Open mouth and talking about gross things will get you a good hiding, though. Thanx. TATA.