in need of some advice/opinions
@captainmorgan (773)
Canada
November 2, 2010 3:14am CST
I've been wondering...is it possible to be in love with another without them loving you back? I have been seeing someone for a while now and I am in love with him. I can pinpoint the moment it happened and I can feel it when we kiss, etc. I feel this bonding connection, like our souls connect, like we can communicate without words. Is it possible for me to feel this without him feeling it too, or is something like this a mutual thing? I like to believe he feels it too, how on earth could he not feel the same way that I am feeling. It feels like its an input/output energy between us, like he is sending the feeling to me and I'm sending it right back. But I am too scared to tell him how I feel to find this out, as I could be wrong. So I would like to hear your experiences and opinions on how emotions like these work. Are these feelings caused by a connection between the 2 of us, that the 2 of us feel? Or is it possible for someone to feel a connection with someone who does not feel it back?
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
3 Nov 10
We don't choose who we will fall in love with. We also have no choice in who loves us in return. I think it's more than possible to love someone and not have that love returned to us.
@Laurelle11 (409)
• Australia
2 Nov 10
Anything is possible and it is not unusual for ones feelings to be a one way thing but with enough time if he doesn't love you now, he will possibly grow to love you too.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
2 Nov 10
You are saying that you feel he does too as you can feel after a passionate kiss. Just wondering though have you both spoken and proclaimed your love for one another. Or have you been the only one to say I Love You.
Maybe your guy is a bit on shy side and well if you bring it up causally you may find he indeed does so go ahead and let him know how you feel. This way you will know if he is just keeping you around or truly has some feelings for you.
I wish you luck but to answer your post I believe I have had this situation at one time or another and it is not a great feeling especially when they lie to you but fortunately I have great boyfriend now.
@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
2 Nov 10
if you feel that he loves you back then you are right^^ a kiss can tell a lot of things^^ also is a guy and if is dating you for awhile is bcs he loves you^^ but maybe you should let things continue like this for awhile^^ let him tell you how he feels first. that way you be sure that he really loves you^^ and wont doubt. also will be very romantic right? ahah 
but if after some time he doesnt say something say you^^ but you should wait a bit more^^ guys to fall in love take more time than we girls normally^^ so maybe he wants to be more close to you first^^ and just then be your bf^^ but if you feel that special connection he loves you for sure^^ trust me^^ 
but if after some time he doesnt say something say you^^ but you should wait a bit more^^ guys to fall in love take more time than we girls normally^^ so maybe he wants to be more close to you first^^ and just then be your bf^^ but if you feel that special connection he loves you for sure^^ trust me^^ 
@annawen86 (545)
• Indonesia
2 Nov 10
hello captain morgan,
i dont how you met him, and how is your relation untill you can kiss each other. because, i only do kissing if he is already my boyfriend and i know that he is serious to me. i never kiss a man if i dont how he feel about me.
there are a lot of different characteristic man, a man that is shy to show you how he feel. but usually if he shy to show you how he feel, he wont dare to kiss you. i can tell you this because my boyfriend has loved me for 14 years but he never dare to tell me, so he only support me in everything i do. untill 2 years ago, i find out that i love him, and i try to find away so he confess his feeling to me. after he confess to me bravely, he never dare to kiss me for few months eventhough he is my boyfriend. because he try to respect me, and only do kissing if i said that i'm ready to kiss him. that is the kind of shy boy. dont dare to said that he's in love with you, but respect you full, and dont dare to kiss you if you are not ready.
the other kind of man, is a man who likes to have relation without bonding. this kind of man, will leave you, if he finds a perfect girl for him, but because right now he doesnt have any other girl to be played, so he enjoy to kissing and anything without saying i love you, or i care about you. only physical thing to do. you have to be careful for this type of man.
third, a man who is rigid. this is type of man that is difficult to say i love you to someone he loves. he thought that doing physical thing with you, has already reflect his feeling for you. so he doesnt have to say i love you.
and i think there are still a lot of man type that i dont explain. but i think the points are those three types.
just remember my friend, women are sensitive. but sometimes we blind and forget everything when we are in love with someone. once, i found out, that my ex boyfriend is my soulmate. just like what you said, we know each other even though there are no words to said. he trully understand me and my wishes without i'm saying it.but fate, dont tell me that he is my destiny. and we have to break up.
so, you cant say that you two understand each other. you have to know how he feels bout you. and you have to confess your love to him. if he doesnt love you. than it is good for you, because you can leave him before your love for him growing stronger. but if he loves you too, it is good for you too, because you dont have to worry anymore about your future with him.
so the choices are in your hand, m friend. good luck for you
