What do I always feel like I am an outcast
November 3, 2010 6:19pm CST
Is it me. Is there something wrong with me. Even as a child I always get a feeling that people are indifferent towards me. I hate this feeling. I feel like they can't relate to me or Im just too neurotic that they are uncomfortable approaching me. I am not kind I know, I am not bad I know.. I am not rude,not any of that. I am just me and I say what I want to say.. I dont gossip I dont make up stories, I dont lie (well, uhmmm) I am simply being myself and trying my best not to hurt anyone along the way. I am a diciplinarian and tend to be serious on different topics. I am not too conservative, I just speak my mind... I just hate it.. probably that's the reason why I don't have many friends... Hayszzzz
4 Nov 10
dont talk like that^^ maybe they dont see how you are inside^^ maybe they just look at you and you are shy and they dont approach. that doesnt mean that they dont like you or dont want to be your friends. anyway try to smile to people^^ that way for sure they will approach you :) like people in your work or in your school^^ try to smile to them and try to talk with them. even if ask only something related with work and then you can start to talk more and find friends^^ anyway dont think bad about yourself ok?^^ if you need a friend im here for you :)
4 Nov 10
i know how you feel but just think about this for a moment: we live in a world that most of the people don't think by their selves, they want to follow and they repeat what others says without giving a second thought. I feel you are original and if the world is like this it's clearly many are not gonna relate to you and this is good, you are right on being your self and most of who is their selves will feel alone in life, I feel the same way, I speak my mind, I wear my own fashion, I'm very different and sometimes there are girls who give the look or worst: copy me. I wouldn't give all this away to be like everybody else cause I think most of the people have not the courage to be their selves. That's why there is fashion and so many people get long very well, they are all the same.
4 Nov 10
You are probably suffering from depression. When you are depressed, you do not smile much and that gives others the wrong impression. Also are you ultra sensitive and were you shy as a child. I suppose you did try to smile but to you it seemed forced, am I correct abour\t that? Another thing is that you may be too straight forward when you talk with others, so maybe when you tell others what they need to hear be a little softer in your words. I know its hard, but can be done.
4 Nov 10
Speaking your mind and say what you want even it is not a gossip might be the reason of being isolated or why you feel people are aloof. It might be your manner of saying things, though you're not intention to offend anybody for it is the truth, sorry to say the word but seems you're being tactless. Just to speak your mind you're not considering what others might think or feel. Maybe it's the truth in your opinion, and you're just being frank as well as true to yourself, but sometimes, there is always the right time to say things. But don't worry, there are still people who knows you as you and they for sure will understand you. Don't feel isolated, just try to be considerate and have a self control on saying things. You will sooon to get used to it and will gain more friends. Just a little self adjustments doesn't mean changing the real you.
4 Nov 10
There's a very thin line separating frankness and rudeness. You say you speak your mind, were those unsolicited opinions? Were you close to the person with whom you were sharing your thoughts/opinions/ideas with? You can be frank and still be tactful. Taking care that every word you say are well thought of. If the person you are relating your opinions/thoughts were indeed your friend, they would understand and accept your tact or lack thereof. It is better to keep a few friends close than have numerous of them, but never really knowing which ones are for real. You can't really please everyone.
4 Nov 10
Hi clouds! I'm so sorry. I apologize if what I'm going to say may hurt you. Just take it as a pinch of salt which I hope may improve your outlook in future. While we cannot change the world I think the best person to change is ourselves. I'm sure when we do our world changes. The least we should be a lot happier. Good luck to you.
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4 Nov 10
I would say that if you do not feel that you are intentionally hurting any one with your frank comments and or discussions amongst your peers than there is nothing to worry about. As then it is their problem and yours as you can't always be expected to please the world. However, if you have a too sensitive acquaintance that you value then perhaps tone down a bit.