What is the real trick to a lasting relationship?
By freymind
@freymind (1351)
Philippines
November 4, 2010 12:14pm CST
"The real trick is putting yourself around people you admire. That's why I married my wife. I locked in the brightest light in the room. My wife and I have an agreement in our marriage, and part of that contract is that we are going to shine our lights on each other." - Ashton Kutcher
When I read this from an article in the web I was really shocked and amazed and actually admired Ashton. To say this regarding Demi Moore and how they can be a source of positive energy to each other really made me admire their relationship.
I am also in a relationship right now and just waiting for us to be both stable in all the aspects in life. We also encourage each other on whatever plans the other has. For me the trick to a lasting relationship is through communication.
This is important as there will always be misunderstanding one way or another. If you can talk to your partner as a lover, a friend, a confidant and as an advisor in your whole life together then all the things that are messed up will be okay.
What about you My Lotters? I know its not only Love and sometimes Lust that makes the relationship longer. Do you have tricks in mind? Or your own tricks in your relationship. 
When I read this from an article in the web I was really shocked and amazed and actually admired Ashton. To say this regarding Demi Moore and how they can be a source of positive energy to each other really made me admire their relationship.
I am also in a relationship right now and just waiting for us to be both stable in all the aspects in life. We also encourage each other on whatever plans the other has. For me the trick to a lasting relationship is through communication.
This is important as there will always be misunderstanding one way or another. If you can talk to your partner as a lover, a friend, a confidant and as an advisor in your whole life together then all the things that are messed up will be okay.
What about you My Lotters? I know its not only Love and sometimes Lust that makes the relationship longer. Do you have tricks in mind? Or your own tricks in your relationship. 2 people like this
13 responses
@calebknox (149)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
There is only one trick for a lasting relationship, and that is to treat your partner as You, that's right,, treat them as if if they were You..
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
9 Dec 10
Hiya frey,
Could be a good many tricks to a lasting relationship it all depends on many things really.
No one relationship can be compared to another really.
You sound like you are in a good relationship though. It´s good to encourage each other in various things that they are doing.
I have learned that sometimes in that aspect it´s better to keep my Nose dry and out but to keep asking questions only every so often.
It does not apply to everything with us though just the serious things like his work and so on all the rest is trivial stuff that does not matter too much.
Takes time a long long time to learn all that sometimes.
Good luck with yours.
Oh yes I have tricks but they are secret and known to me alone. That is the way they work better for me and not against me.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Nov 10
Tom and I have been married for six and a half years and we've been together for going on to nine years now. In that time, we've only had a couple of fights. However, I think that the main reason that our relationship is so strong is because of the fact that we never go to bed angry. If there is something that we are having a disagreement about, we will talk it out before either of us is allowed to go to bed.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
6 Nov 10
Yes, communication is the key to a lasting relationship and marriage. There should be trust in one another. Any forms of miscommunication will lead to misunderstanding. When misunderstanding are not being cleared, doubts will arise and trust will be gone. By time they realise it, it's too late because problems are coming in fast over very little issues.
While communication need not be spoken, actions can be a form of communication too. Because that's what love is about, actions, not plain talking.
@Jiabsa (511)
• India
5 Nov 10
The best medicine for an everlasting relationship among couples are forgiveness. No one is perfect in this world. Everybody is having some weaknesses. Don't take it as a big issue. You can directly tell it to your partner and make a solution. It is not good to discuss your problems with a third party. If you think that your problem is complicated and can't find out a suitable solution yourself, you can discuss it with others who are very close to you. You have to love your partner with open heart. Love cures people - both the ones who give it and the one who receive it.
@crimiloilo123 (77)
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
If you want an advice on how to have a lasting relationship,maybe I can only suggest is loyalty and understanding.This two words maybe simple but it is like an antidote.An antidote to those relationships suffering of any problems and turmoil.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
Hello , Freymind.:)
Sigh... I wish I can share with you some tricks to make a relationship lasting or sustainable. But I think differently.... For me, there's no guarantee that a relationship would last long, lie everything else. Everything is just temporary...
Nor there's an effective motivational book that can laid down the tricks and requisites for such...
Communication is important, true. Love is equally, important. As well as trust, respect, loyalty , faithfulness and even lust like you said. Name it and they all contribute to a rlationship. but these things do not give us guarantee but at least we can try if it will do the trick...
I'm not much of a religious person but ewverything you said, I have painstakingly did except for one. And, that is to put God in the middle of my relationship with whoever (family, husband, kids, friends, etc).
it is imposssible to make a relationship works and lasts if we all rely on our own strength and knowledge. Wihout God in the center, such relationship will still crumble.
If both couple know, believe and fear God, they will honor each other and their relationship just like they honor Him.:)
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
4 Nov 10
A lasting relationship needs, love, caring, trust and commitment. You have to be willing to take the pain along with the joy. Wanting more for your partner than for yourself can only add to the happiness you can find together.
@hanni711 (243)
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
We don't need tricks or magic to establish a relationship. If you want it to last you have to put GOD first at the center of your relationship.In every relationships there will always be problems that we will encounter and some unexpected circumstances that cannot be avoided. If you only rely on your own effort you won't be able to overcome. You have to be committed first to your partner and nurture that relationship. There's no such thing as tricks or magic for a lasting relationship.
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
I think space is also important. A breathing space for the person. Do not always be clingy as this will result to boredom. Do not be too dependent on the guy or to the girl. Let each other hang out with their friends without you with them. They will appreciate you more.
@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
thats cute what he said^^ i also didnt imagine was him that said that when you put that here =) anyway they are already together since some years and i guess it will last. anyway im happy that you and your bf are trying to make things work seeing your plans together. yes i agree that talk helps much in a relation^^ talk honestly, understanding, trust and show love and care are the most important things in a relation^^ and that is what i do when i love a guy 
@calebknox (149)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
and more thing, i forgot to mention.. you listen to Christian Pastor
named Mark Gungor, all his advices are biblical based and not to mention
he's is hilariously crazy.
