Spending Time With Kids

November 7, 2010 8:13am CST
I am having problem with my bonding time with my daughter. AS a mom I have lots of work that needs to be done and spending with her is not that much. I feel so guilty seeing my daughter playing alone while I am doing the household chores. I'm not a superwoman who has lots of energy and can do multitasking. I once did multitasking but the result is not as good as doing one chores at a time. By the time i am finish with the chores I am already tired and wanted to relax.So, spending time with my daughter is quite impossible. Have you every felt this way before? Is your bonding time with you kids enough?
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@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
9 Nov 10
Do you only have one child to took after? As for cleaning house, doing chores... does this really take all day? I have 2 kids, one who has a disability & I always find that time to bond with each child together & even one on one time. Sure there are days where as a mother I'm tired & I just sit back on the couch & relax, but I always find at least a small amount of time during the day to do bonding. Cleaning house shouldn't take that long.. if it does then take small breaks & make a time to bond with your child. Don't stress to much over the small things, whats important is your child. Remember bonding can be many different things.... stop, take 5 mins to read a small book, then ask her to read you a story back... that could take 10 mins & then back to cleaning... Just find the time.
• India
8 Nov 10
See, I had the same problem. I felt my kids are going away from me just because I was not spending much time to them. Then I did following things to bring them closer to me and I succeeded : 1. After coming from my office, I started asking what happened in their school today and listened to their talks with high interest 2. Changed my TV taste and starting watching the programs with them - like Cartoon Network, Pogo and all 3. After dinner, going for a walk with them and telling them sweet fairy stories I am now very happy with my increased interaction with my kids
@zhpshql (693)
• China
8 Nov 10
Hi,though I don't have a kid,I think bonding with the kids is very funny..Suggestion,,since you are so busy,you can do the household chores with your kid( if your kid are old enough),,give him/her some little tasks,and teach him.her how to do it...Then he/she can learn a lot and you can spend some time with him/her....and the most important thing is that be careful and keep your kid far away from the dangerous things.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
For me I haven't experience it because I don't have a kid yet but it is more important that you need time them in dinner time breakfast and lunch so that they feel they have one who can talked too there problem.
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
Just a suggestion. I understand the full load of a mom, it's a herculean task. I think you just have to find creative ways on how to bond with your child inspite of all the workload. Why not involve your child in times you are doing light household chores and make it like playtime for both of you? For instance, when you are watering the plants, give your child a small bucket and tell her you'd be playing a game called 'give the plants a bath'. While doing this, make it a fun, playful moment. Sing, laugh, dance...so that your child would feel that she's playing and you're enjoying it immensely. Also, explain to your child that she actually helped you in this household chore -- praise and reward her with hugs and kisses. In this way, she enjoyed your time together, gave her confidence, and you also taught her the value of helping others.
@Jiabsa (511)
• India
8 Nov 10
It is one of the main duty of a parent to spend time with their children. All the children want special care and attention especially from their parents. It is very essential for their mental growth. We have to find out time to spend with our kids. Spending at least an hour is sufficient for them. The role of personal care is very important for children's overall development.
7 Nov 10
My bonding time with my children is mainly when i finish work as my wife looks after our kids full time along with being a housewife... so we are both busy but when i get back from work i play with my kids for abit and then have some time to myself. I'm proud of my wife for being able to do all the cleaning and tidying around the house and look after the kids but all mums do it don't they so it must be mothers instinct.