What are the things to consider before getting married?

@mayrah (1144)
United States
November 7, 2010 11:26am CST
You met different persons in you life, some of them love you, some hate you, some just used you and some remain forever. If you are destined for such a person you will end up in marriage. But Marriage is not the ending. It was just the beginning of real journey of lovers. Marriage is sacred and it makes love more powerful as being blessed by God. So once you decided to take your vows there should be no turning back. It's not like dress or anything you buy in store that if doesn't fit you well you can return and ask for an exchange.You must deliberately screen all the possible consequences and if you're one hundred percent sure that she or he is the one you want to be with the rest of your life,then go on. My friend once told me "once you get married you must double your patience, hard work, and every good aspect you have at this time. How about you? What can you advice me about getting married? Can you share us your opinion regarding this discussion?
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@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
There are certainly lots of things to consider before getting married-- like if you are mature enough to be parents, if you are financially stable, if you truly love each other and accept each other, and also if both families approve your marriage.. Marriage should be carefully though about because there is no going back....
@shuley (368)
8 Nov 10
What I can suggest you is to pray and pray to God, give you guidance and signs if he/she really the person for you for the rest of your life. Marriage is sacred. Me and my husband had eight years relationship before we got married, but I tell you the first months of being husband and wife still knowing each other, we disagree sometimes but maybe because we love each other we are still together.
• United Kingdom
8 Nov 10
Totally agree.I think marriage is sacred and made in heavens.While it is important to choose your partner wisely,it is even more important to stick to the one you eventually end up with.I am not saying marriages cannot be dissolved come what may.If you think you have tried your best to make a relationship work and still you are able to get rid of the problems appearing every now and then,then probably you can take a call and move on.But till then,hang on.So my take on this is while it is very important to be doubly sure before you choose a life partner,it is even more important to be willing to compromise and give your everything to a relationship once you have gotten into one...Cheers!!
@hanni711 (243)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
Marriage is a gift from GOD and it is sacred before HIM. When you enter into this kind of committment you have alot to sacrifice for the sake of your husband and your kids. I advise that before you get into marriage you have to be physically, emotionally, psychologically mature. It's really a tough decision and a choice. But I assure you if you will make GOD the center of your marriage you have nothing to fear.
• India
8 Nov 10
I will give you one hint only in which yo will get all your answers and hope many will, then you can draw the conclusion your partner is going to give you for the question I am going to write below. Just ask you partner this simple question at any point of time when you decide to test hi or her. Question: I want that we both should go for HIV test before marriage, are you ready for that? This question will solve many of your doubts, I am sure.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
Wow you know when I entering marriage life I'm not prepared financially, emotionally, physically but thanks God because from there God used my wife to become success my married life. I just advice to you make sure you are prepare first in your feeling, emotion, physical and have commitment.. to do that.. enjoy. see you around
• United States
8 Nov 10
I don't see marriage as a beginning or an end, just another continuation. I don't that marriage changes anything at all, it doesn't manifest commitment, it doesn't "make love stronger" and it doesn't validate the relationship. Nor is it necessarily always forever. Sometimes things change, people change and the relationship is no longer happy or healthy at which point I do not believe in living in misery.
7 Nov 10
I consider things like if i'm ready to settle down and if i'm marrying the person i want to be with for the rest of my life. I need to be able to commit to marriage and to the person i marry forever. I know there are things such as a divorce but if you don't think you are going to last.. you don't get married in my opinion. I am happily married and i considered all the things and all i've wanted to do is be with my wife forever as i love her now no less than i did when we met if not more.
• India
8 Nov 10
I think it may partially depend on the value system of the society you live in. For me I consider it to be very important that I am able to communicate well with the person I would be getting married to. Marriage involves lot of communication and without proper channel for that marriage can collapse. I also thought that it's important we share similar ideas of some fundamental issues of a relationship. For example, money we would like to use, importance we give to my/her siblings etc. As a Christian I would give tithe, but if she does not want to give even a bit there would be clash so I made it clear that I marry a Christian who would be willing to give money to the church. I also felt that she should welcome my family as much as I would welcome her family. These are some points I considered before going ahead with marriage.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
7 Nov 10
When you get married you are building a future with another person. you should be sure of your feelings for them when you plan to marry. You should also consider where you will live, employment and family planning. Marriage isn't just about a wedding night.
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
things to consider am i ready financially? do i have enough money for things that may come upon me? always try to secure your financial side first so that problems are lessened all throughout the relationship am i ready emotionally? am i going to be able to stay with one person for the rest of my life? will i be able to resist temptations along the way? will i be able to survive future stress? lotsa questions... you just have to deal with them one at a time a marriage survives on 1 percent love and 99 percent hardwork and sacrifice
• Philippines
7 Nov 10
If you are firm that you want to share with the man you presently love the "rest of your life" with... you are then ready. Like what you say, if you failed on this, it is difficult already to turn back. There is always an annulment or divorce though but if you made already that mistake... it is also up to you to correct it. So how we deal with marriage? Just think many times over... If you think you say you're ready "for better or for worst..." and your are old enough to get married, just go on. You are only the one who will go with your "husband-to be", to be staying together... so what counts the most is your life together. But if you ask me some for preparation, think on your way to marriage if you need any of these: parental advice, prenuptial agreement, religion requirements, papers and documents... such those little things. But then again, as for me, I think marriage ceremony is tough decision to make if only you feel less confident about it. If you are ready, you will feel oozing confidence and you will feel the "this is it" feeling. If you don't... well, I think you should bypass it and rethink for the decision in the next couple of months or years if indeed it is time to get married
• United States
7 Nov 10
I would say that everyone that was thinking of getting married should first live with thier partner.I thought I knew eveything about my partner but when we moved in with eachother it was a whole new story.I feel that you do not truley know someone until you have lived with that person and seen what they do in the privacy of thier own home.