Getting over

@vangie26 (449)
Philippines
November 7, 2010 5:43pm CST
Relationships, in reality, do not give a 100% assurance of lasting. Many expectations yet still gives us frustrations and heartaches. Alright, we are always ready to fall in love. That's where we focus. But once it ended, are we ready? Many cases that because of wanting to end the relationship, one can kill. Others can hurt the partner or one's self. As for me, i prayed a lot and find outlets on how to overcome heartaches. How about you? Are you ready to handle broken relationships? Are you already thinking on how to overcome it?
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10 responses
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
when i am in a relationship, i do not think of how i will be able to cope up when we break up.because there is no point in being in a relationship and then thinking of how u will be able to protect yourself and not get hurt when time comes you will separate. i do not think of us since that would mean i am not giving what i could give best in a relationship. heartaches...heart breaks are part of what we experience in a relationship, you will know how to handle it, well or not when time comes that you will break up..it is a matter of how strong you are.. plus heartaches and the pain that will be experience will make one strong. when i am in a relationship, i give it all, even though there were times i did had break ups and pain, i still got through it, it is part of life to experience such and it made me stronger and i am in a stronger relationship now.
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@vangie26 (449)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
We should always pick up what we could learn from those heart aches,right? thank you for your comment. Have a good day!
• United States
7 Nov 10
I have been through a couple break ups and found it very difficult to handle at the time. I think as time went by I was able to deal with it much better. I use to kid myself all the time and say well, two tears in a bucket.. but at the end of the day I really felt lousy. I have been in a relationship now for 5 years with my boyfriend and I have to say things are so great I cannot even imagine a break up as I love him more and more each day and he shows me the love in return, so for now I do not even want to surmise a break up especially after being together for so long. So I am going to think positively with him as much as possible.
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@vangie26 (449)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
I agree with you. Think positive so that only positive things will happen . Thank you for your comment
• Indonesia
7 Nov 10
No, I'm not, tough I must. Who is on earth want to be separated from his lover? I even don't have any gut to imagine that. Ended love is always hurt. I just don't wanna that happen to me. And the most stabbing thing is when I see she was also sad to our separation. I just think, so why we couldn't make it simple? Why we separate if we know that separation is hurt?
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@vangie26 (449)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
Separation always leads to negative feelings. But face the reality that some of it has to come to an end. Good thing that you think positive that you don't want to separate but just in case, of course, we should also recognize the feeling. Thank you for you comment :-)
@saqi78 (1405)
• Malaysia
8 Nov 10
No, Never, I really never ever think about that, and why I should think about it if I am in a very good relationship. Such thought are really hard to accept. Yeah, I agree with your this point that there are certain times when some misunderstandings happens between lovers but this does not mean that the end would be separation, how can you separate from a person who loved you a lot in your life and who was the center of your thought in some days, it is OK that on certain points you both cannot agree but look at those point that are in agreement between you...:) I can never think of it and I want to remain with my Love till the end Be happy and be the reason of Happiness...
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
8 Nov 10
Hi, In this world,nothing can be 100 % assurance of lasting. But for love, there is a possibility can last forever if both parties love each other so much and wanna spent the rest of their life together. For me, I have found my soul mate and I wanna spent my life with him till I leave this world. Of course, when we just find our loved one...everything seem wonderful and always looking to meet with our loved one. But then when come to arguments which may lead to break-up issue,then heartpain and more obstacles are coming, but we have to handle it firmly and stand at the right position to handle the case well. Always think positively and trust yourself that there is no point to end your life just because of a failure in relationship.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
8 Nov 10
i think we are never ready and to think too much of it could cause fear, and fear attracts exactly what we don't want i got over some relationships even if I was the one who broked up just because I knew it couldn't end in marriage so I wouldn't waste my time and his, but I always got over that's life, we have some natural power of healing our selves :D thank god!
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 10
I once fell in love so hard, then I fell out of love. It was hard and it took me hard to stand up again and got ready to love again. But then I learnt one thing that important. That we should never push ourselves to the extreme limits. We better not love someone too much. In this case, what I am saying is, you can love someone with all your heart, but you must be ready as well for that someone to leave you. When you do that, you will surely not hurt yourself too much when you fall out of love. ^^
@hushi22 (4940)
8 Nov 10
i have been extremely broken hearted once and i was able to overcome because of my good family member and friends who were there for me.
@dante_off (607)
• India
8 Nov 10
Relationship is very simple if you want and also very complicated if you want... I sometimes feel it as so confusing, recently I have been through terrible things in my relation, broke all hopes, all faith. I had left having food for 7 days, no friends, was totally isolated. Now I am alive with a hope that, "Whatever happens, happens for a greater cause, for good". As for getting over with a relationship, its tough but one should definitely try to do that without hurting anyone. Self confidence, self motivation all is needed during this phase of life...
@beeh13u (1040)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
No matter how much everlasting promises they made, it's still broken. It's been almost a month since we broke up. During the first 5 days, I felt lost and lonely. But after that, I'm OK. I joined myLot and writing helped ease the pain. But when I don't write, the feeling comes back. So how do I get it over with again? I just think that I am independent and I can live without him. I just recall the accomplishments I've made and what I can do even without him. There are still times I cried and wish he's still here. The more I do that, the more I feel relaxed then not shed a tear after that. I let it all out so in the future, I'll just laugh about it.:D