Should I give her number?

@gloryacam (5546)
Philippines
November 8, 2010 4:01am CST
I have a friend from high school who knows my friend from college. I just don't have any idea how close they are. This high school friend is asking me to give him my college friend's number. At work, I usually don't give anyone's number without permission. But, these are my friends, not colleagues. Would it be alright to give away her number? If that were you and your friend gave your number to another person without asking or informing you, what would you feel?
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6 responses
@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
You should ask for permission first before giving away other's number to anybody, regardless if it is a friend or even a relative. Just imagine your friend giving away your number.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
Yup, I guess that's the polite thing to do. If that were me, I'd get offended, too. Thanks for the response!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
11 Nov 10
If it was me that was in this situation, I think that I would check with the friend whose number has been requested before I would give the number to the other friend. The reason that I would do that is because of the fact that I don't want to bee the one that would give a friend's number to someone that would possibly harrass them for some reason or another. I hope that everything works out between you and your friends.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
You're right. I guess that's the right thing to do. I believe they're both good people, but I don't exactly know the status of their relationship, so it's prudent to ask permission from the other first. Rather than give it outright and learn later on that she resents it, or that she had been harassed or something by the other person. Thanks.
@tkonlinevn (5784)
• Vietnam
9 Nov 10
What does make you to worry? If they're only friends, you can give him/her the phone number. I think it's no problem.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
They know each other, that's for sure, but I don't really know the extent of their friendship. Maybe I'll not give her number. I'll ask her permission first. Thanks for the response.
@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
8 Nov 10
It doesn't matter if it's your friend's number or your colleague's number. You shouldn't give out anybody's number without permission. You may not care if somebody gave your phone number out but your college friend might mind.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
Sometimes I don't mind, sometimes I do. But you're right saying that my friend might not appreciate my giving away her number. Thanks for the response.
• United States
8 Nov 10
The agree with the above poster that I would not also, what always works for me is to simply say I will ask my friend if it is okay to give you their number and in fact if you give me your number I will give it to my friend to call you if they wish. This way you are not impinging on anyone's privacy and since the person is asking for the number, surely they would not mind giving theirs for the person to call.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
Right. That is much better because at least you would know that both persons are okay that you can give his/her number to the other. If he person asking refuses to give his/her number, then it would really not be wise to give the other person's number to him/her as it sound a bit suspicious that he/she wants the other person's number but wouldn't give his/hers. Thanks for the response.
@arielbsn (199)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
You should not give him your college friend's number without your friend's permission, it doesn't matter whether he's your friend or colleague because your friend may get mad at you if you do without her permission. If I were your friend I would definitely feel bad if you give my number to anyone without my permission unless there's an important reason for giving my number.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
I guess you're right. I wouldn't mind my friend giving away my number if she had asked permission first. Thanks for the reply.