BLAST SHIELDS UP!!!! And some teenagers are really dumb...

@dawnald (84131)
Shingle Springs, California
November 10, 2010 10:45am CST
So I'm reading Dear Abby this morning. A teenage girl is writing that her boyfriend wants her to take his cell phone into the girl's gym at school and take some pictures for him of the other girls in their underwear and so on. She doesn't want to, but he's giving her the "it will make me so happy and prove that you love me" crapola. He's (not so) subtly hinted that he can get somebody else to do it, and she's afraid to lose him. I decided to read this to the girls. Dearra stands up and shouts, "he doesn't love you, you moron, just say NO!!!" Naomi backs up a few inches with this look on her face, and I shout, "blast shields up!" Another Dearra rant shakes the windows. She may be loud, but she has a good head on her shoulders. And on another topic, Dearra is being harassed by these two boys in science class. They keep throwing bits of paper at her. The teacher manages to catch everybody who ever misbehaved in that class, except those two boys. Today, if they do it again, she is going to go right up to them and tell them to stop. I hope they do. She doesn't want to deal with the teacher or the school counselor, but she may have to. If she looks half as fierce as she did this morning, those boys will be quaking, and that will be the end of it...
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
10 Nov 10
The crap of being a teenager. Love really sits in the wrong place at that age. Tell Dearra, no better yet, give her the spatula. If they throw paper at her again. She can whack the hell out of them. no need for the teacher to do that then. DON'T YOU THINK? TATA.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Nov 10
Yeah except I don't really want her to get expelled when she is the one who is being harassed.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
10 Nov 10
Okay, let her wait for them after school then. OUTSIDE THE GROUNDS.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Nov 10
She's like 98 lbs soaking wet....
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10 Nov 10
As for the teenage girls boyfriend asking her to do that he obviously has no respect for her or the other girls privacy, she is best rid of him and quickly. Shows what kind of a person he could be when or if he grows up. As for the 2 boys picking on the girl in science, this happens a lot, they find a target and cause problems, it will carry on unless something is done and so i hope she does speak out and this gets sorted quickly, otherwise they will just continue to do what they are doing.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Nov 10
Yeah, she needs to realize that the guy is just using her. No doubt if she did take those pictures, he would be showing all his friends or posting them all over the internet or something.
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@patgalca (14257)
• Orangeville, Ontario
11 Nov 10
And if she gets caught doing it, SHE will be the one getting in trouble.
11 Nov 10
exactly, if she gets caught he will deny it all, if she doesn't get caught then he gets waht he wants. He would show them around, eventually it will all come down to her and him in trouble.
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• United States
11 Nov 10
Bravo for you and your terrific girls. If more parents discussed things like this with their children, maybe more children would be like your Dearra. When we moved into a new neighborhood, my son was being harrassed by two boys and a girl from the same family. He wouldn't tell me anything about what was going on. I found out when the mother called me at work to complain about my beastly son hitting her pure as the driven snow boy. She demanded he be horsewhipped! I told her I would call her back AFTER talking to David. When I got home and asked him what had happened, he told me they had been tossing his books and papers all over the place every day after school or punching him in the arm, even after he asked them to stop. That day they went too far. One of them got on all fours behind David while the other pushed him backward. He fell, hitting asphalt since they were walking home from the bus. David had had enough. He leaped up, hit the bigger boy with his fist. At the time, the fist contained a small metal car and it cut the boy above his eye. He and his siblings went home boohooing to Mama. Well, I did call the woman back and let her know, in no uncertain terms, if she couldn't make her own children behave, that she shouldn't come to me when mine has had enough of their bullying. I let her know they had torn up an apple tree David planted and that they broke into our travel trailer. She knew nothing of what they were doing because after she worked all week, she did not want them bothering her at home. From that day on, the children were David's best friends. They spent almost every Saturday at our house playing Monopoly because their Mama didn't want them in hers. The older boy was best man at my son's wedding. Go, Dearra! Tell them to cut it out and tell them in a voice they can understand means business. You go, girl!
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Nov 10
Wow, talk about a happy ending!
@Wizzywig (7859)
10 Nov 10
Its good that your daughters have been brought up to value themselves more than the Dear Abby girl and that they are never going to be caught up in such a position. There are always a couple of kids who never get caught for anything. Sometimes they are just too sly &, other times, the teacher just doesnt want to confront them for whatever reason.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Nov 10
This teacher doesn't seem to have a problem with confronting students, these guys are just sneakier than the rest...
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@fannitia (2170)
• Bulgaria
10 Nov 10
Hi, Dawny, don't you think that maybe one of those boys just likes Dearra. This harassment could be a sign of some kind of love. I still remember three boys from my class who chased me one day from the school to my home. I was so scared, my father saw this accidentally and yelled from the window :))
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Nov 10
yes, it occurred to me that one of them might like her, but she doesn't care, she is just MAD...
@fannitia (2170)
• Bulgaria
10 Nov 10
Maybe being mad is better than being too shy...
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Nov 10
I agree. Funny thing is, she has no problem telling these boys off, but she won't talk to the teacher. First thing Naomi said was, "I would tell the teacher."
• United States
12 Nov 10
Wow! So she has a " Don't F@ck with me!" stare? I must have one too. A guy in highschool was bothering me and i gave him one look and I never saw he again. I always thought I should have said something , but my mom said my eyes must said plenty. As for the teen, it is sad that she thinks she Has to do this to keep the guy.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Nov 10
She did tell somebody off yesterday for making an annoying noise right in her ear. I think she'll be OK.
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• United States
12 Nov 10
I fear for the other kids! She doesn't take any stupidity! Tell Her she is my hero!
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@RachelleNH (1408)
• United States
11 Nov 10
That girl obviously is considering it if she's writing to Abby..My God..I'd have never done that for a boy..that kid is a total perv! Tell her to give those boys "the look."
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Nov 10
yeah, something is telling her not to do it, but there's that wanting to be loved, with somebody, whatever that is fighting with that....
@cicisnana (776)
• United States
11 Nov 10
Teenagers!! Is Dearra your daughter? It does sound as if she has a good head on her shoulders...hopefully all of this will be resolved soon. As for the other girl whose boyfriend wants her to take pictures, someone needs to tell her the trouble she could get into with the school system and even court system for taking revealing photos of the other girls without their permission and then distributing them, because this is what she will be considered doing.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Nov 10
Dearra is my daughter, yes. And Dear Abby did tell the other girl that. I hope she listens.
@pschenck (100)
• Canada
10 Nov 10
Good for her! Hope it all works out in her favour! You must be proud that she is a sensible young women with a good head on her shoulders and knows what is right from wrong!
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Nov 10
Sensible but LOUD. lol
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@GardenGerty (96668)
• Marion, Kansas
11 Nov 10
That would be a felony, if he were caught with such pictures. It is his phone, after all and the pictures would be taken without permission. Dearra does have a good head on her shoulders and she also has a good mom backing her up. The paper wad bit is just another form of bullying, unless of course it is a form of flirting. A million years ago when I was a bus driver we had to undergo "harassment training we learned that flirtation is actually harassment, if the person being flirted with perceives it that way.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
24 Nov 10
Hey, she is definitely a smart girl to realize that the teenage girl's boyfriend doesn't really care about her. I remember the years when I was a teenager and I remember the array of emotions that I went through during that time. It really is a difficult time in one's life. However, knowing that she does have that good head on her shoulders is going to be a great benefit to her in the long run. So, did the boys pick on her again?
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Nov 10
yeah, see the comment above yours. The school counselor knows all about him, knew about him even before, that is...
@rowantree (1190)
• United States
26 Nov 10
It's good that the school counselor knows about him from previously, I hate it when school officials try to give the misbehaving kid the benefit of the doubt when everyone except them knows the kid is a trouble maker.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Nov 10
First time, OK give him the benefit of the doubt, but at some point you have to believe that if everybody's calling him a troublemaker, he's a troublemaker!
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
10 Nov 10
WoW! What a girl! Your daughters are sensible and have learned good values. They will be be fine in later life. She is brave to confront the obnoxious boys. Tell her that when she sees them passing by she is to look at their private parts and laugh and giggle with her girl friends. That might work. A male once told me that a girl did this to him when he was a teen and it took him years to get over it Alternatively she can whisper to these hormonal idiots that she has a connection with certain people in JA and she only has to make a phone call to summon up a yardie or a member of the Shower Posse. Yep - she has to do whatever it takes
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Nov 10
I think she will be too embarrassed to do either of those things, but I like how you think!
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
10 Nov 10
I am a mild person but when it comes to children I turn into a Rotweiler. Possibly because of my childhood experiences. I cannot bear to see an unhappy or suffering child.Seriously I do hope that it works out okay for her.She sounds like a wonderful well adjusted girl. Kids can be so horrible to each other can't they? It makes me so cross.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Nov 10
Yeah, these idiots probably think they're being funny. But Dearra is not amused!
@bunnybon7 (35525)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Nov 10
terrible how much some other kids get away with. she sounds like my oldest daughter tho that wasnt to be messed with. when she got her mad up people stepped aside and if they didnt they saw why the others did.
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@bunnybon7 (35525)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Nov 10
and yes she was a smart cookie like yours also. once a bf of hers was walking behind her and reached up and snapped her bra strap. she smacked him and quit him. she was 14yrs and not even really dateing yet. the boy came by the house begging her back so much and apologising, that i felt sorry for him. but that was end of it.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Nov 10
Dearra would whack the crap out of him...
@hofferp (4739)
• United States
10 Nov 10
Dearra has got it figured out. Go, Dearra! Now, let's see if she can get the two boys under control by herself. If not, it may be time to step in and help. But let's see how she does on her own.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Nov 10
Hopefully she will manage on her own. Otherwise, the teacher is going to get a "mommy gram"...
@hofferp (4739)
• United States
11 Nov 10
Good plan...
@rowantree (1190)
• United States
22 Nov 10
How awful that this girl writing to Dear Abby even has to THINK about her decision! What does that say about this girl's self esteem - she has NONE. My daughter is also too shy to speak up in school. She didn't want to go to the teacher but didn't want to continue being picked on either. So I told her to stand up at her desk and very loudly tell the boy "stop it". One day she finally did and the teacher took notice and the problem stopped. She did have a more serious problem with 3 boys at school back in 7th grade where she had to take a more stronger approach. She went to the teacher before class started and told him what was going on and then told him that she wanted him to talk to these boys and make them stop. She had practiced her speech the night before and the teacher called me to let me know how proud he was of the way she handled herself regarding this situation and that he had talked to the boys and hoped there wouldn't be any more problems. There weren't! Good luck to your daughter, I hope she gets through to those boys in her science class that they're messing with the wrong girl! It's very important to be strong, especially during their teenage years.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Nov 10
Stupid idiot ended up breaking up his pens and throwing the parts at my daughter. Her friends talked to her at recess and she started crying, so they went and talked to the school counselor.
@MsTickle (24991)
• Australia
22 Nov 10
Wouldn't you think that parents would wise up and educate their kids as to what is really going on. Forget dumb teens...some parents are totally dumb.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Nov 10
Probably true, but then some kids turn out to have no common sense whatsoever despite the best efforts of the parents.
• United States
15 Nov 10
i read that in the paper.i couldn't believe that girl actually had to write dear abby about it.her boy is a junior perv in training.and the lil bast*rd will probably upload those poor girls pix somewhere. if she has a cell,tell her to just film them doing it. sometimes the only way to get a school to act is to shove it right in their face. back in pre-columbine days,my school's only answer to any harrassment was "you must be doing something to encourge it" or "he has to do something first". needless to say,my school was run by a-holes.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Nov 10
Ooh, not a bad idea. Except she'd probably get in trouble for having the phone on at school.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
12 Nov 10
I know I was pretty stupid too when I was young. So a prank like this sounds like something I would think of when I was in school. Except of course I'd have to have a girlfriend in the first place. And that would be a stretch because I know I was pretty dorky then. Maybe they just like her. Isn't that supposed to be the reason why boys tease a particular girl?
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Nov 10
Could be, but she doesn't want to hear that they like her.
@shaggin (36279)
• United States
12 Nov 10
Thats bad thats shes even considering it. Young girls really can be so dumb. If she takes pictures of the girls in the gym changing room without them noticing and the guy shows anyone and its found that shes the one who took the pictures she can get expelled or sued. Its just a really stupid idea. I hope she tells the guy that he can go to h3ll if hes going to treat her like that. As for your daughter I'm glad that shes brave enough to stand up for herself!
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Nov 10
yeah it is bad, I'm glad she listened to herself enough to write though, and hopefully she'll isten!
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
11 Nov 10
Good for her. I hope that is the end of it. I remember bullying alive and well back in the 60s. People had one basic concept of it... Boys will be boys and sometimes girls are mean too. It helps children sharpen their skills (teeth). It was basically ignored and therefore fueled, giving us what we have to deal with today! I had to raise my kids next door to a bully, the neighbor's daughter! Her mother had the "kids will be kids", lazy, stupid, parenting attitude. That led to a life of crime. She learned to respect nothing
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Nov 10
Kids will be kids is OK to a point, but at some point you have to draw the line and get involved, or yeah they don't learn to respect other people or anything...