Screaming (not crying) toddler and baby

Canada
November 10, 2010 10:30pm CST
For the life of me i cannot handle the screaming!! The pitches they get to ( Jack-2, Billee 14months)i swear marinelife can hear!! Whales probably think its missing family! Billee starts it, and she just stands there screaming, then Jack starts in! it makes me want to peel the skin off my face! and its everywhere, Walmart, restaurants... Please any suggestions on how to make this stop?? I can only drink so much wine ya know?
6 responses
@susanana (126)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
Sometimes babies and toddler just need to cry but when they start screaming we tend to become impatient and throw tantrums ourself. I don't have a toddler yet but I have experienced taking care of nephews and nieces who throw tantrums and become whiney and start screaming on the top of their lungs. based from my babysitting experiences, I noticed that my niece or nephew starts screaming if she/he doesn't get what they want. Or sometimes they are exhausted and too sleepy but doesn't want to be put to bed. I get crazy sometimes and usually become impatient. My patience was too short before but Now that I have a baby myself I noticed that my patience became longer. I have read from parenting books that you can help them stop is by distracting them. You can give them toys, food, an activity to do or sometimes our best friend..TV works also. If it happens in public areas such as the mall, grocery or wherever, My Sister usually talks to her daughter in a soft voice like: "please use your indoor voice please" or sometime she says "lower down your voice please" It usually works with my niece but I don't know with other babies. You can try this trick. Another experience I encountered is when my cousin was shouting and throwing tantrums, my aunt gave him a time out. He was not allowed to play with his toys and stand in the corner for 2 minutes. It actually worked. I hope I was able to help.
• Canada
11 Nov 10
Thank you Susanna! I wish it was for attention or a tantrum. Its just the 2 of them being funny. They laugh hysterically while doing it. Sometimes, for about 1 second its cute. Its their way of communicating, howver annoying it is! I will plug away.
@susanana (126)
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
Oh I see, its their way of entertaining themselves. I hope this stage will pass soon. I can imagine you driving the car and your two babies in the car seat at the back trying to entertain themselves and scream. I would probably put on earplugs or ipod and turn the music loudly. If it is their way of playong then i do not recommend you give them something sweet or else they might become hyperactive. I hope you have more patience.
@pastigger (618)
• United States
11 Nov 10
You need a sound proof bubble, it only they made one and a travel one two wouldn't that be great. I feel you pain I have a home daycare and they have all decided it is time to be as loud as they can while inside outside whenever they are awake. I have tried many different things and nothing has worked sometimes I really have to leave the room for a minute. I can go upstairs and still see them but I really think that I am going deaf and I am not sure how they aren't. This is usually a problem by the end of winter when we can't get outside as much but it is already starting and we are still able to go out almost everyday for a bit. It is going to be a long winter. I am starting to think I should drink LOL. I would say ear plugs for a while and hope that it is a phase or try to make it sound really fun to scream into a pillow or something you still get noise and you get to retain some hearing. Good luck and I hope you have a quiet home sooner rather than later.
• Canada
11 Nov 10
OMG!! So true! Most days I hear ringing in my ears. I'll pray for them to find something to occupy to communication skills!
• United States
11 Nov 10
When at home do not get up set. Calmly tell then it isn't how someone should act. Put them in their rooms/cribs and let the scream it out. If attention is not given it will stop. Know though that the first few times they will scream longer thinking you will give in. Don't. If you are in a store simply leave your cart by the sales counter ( they will understand) take them to car and let them scream it out. All the while speak slow, calm and in soothing tone. It will not stop after one try but it wll stop when they don't get the attention they want. Oh and 14 months is not too young to understand I get what I want if I scream. Good luck.
• Canada
11 Nov 10
Oh for sure. I know she understands what I'm saying to her, probably better than my 13 year old! Well, I have tried and done all of these things. So we shall hope and pray its a phase. I will, however keep staying calm and disiplining them. Thank you for your response
• United States
11 Nov 10
Maybe try giving them a teething ring or a lollipop? Sugar free, of course.
• Canada
11 Nov 10
Unfortunatly its has nothing to do with teething, they do it for fun! they giggle at each other while theyre doing it. I hsve two older boys as well 11,13 and they never did this! Jack and Billee feed off eachother. I'm hoping its a phase
@maximax8 (27943)
• United Kingdom
13 Nov 10
I have got a three year old son. He is disabled and as a result of that he is unable to walk. He is frustrated seeing his baby sister walking. Sometimes he simply screams really loudly indeed. The noise of his scream is so loud that it hurts my ears. I am trying to ask him to use his words instead of scream. I don't want my 17 month old baby daughter to learn to scream. To stop my dogs barking I ring a bell. So I am thinking of how to make sure my son stops screaming. Good luck with getting Billee and Jack to stop screaming too.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
13 Nov 10
Hi, It can be pretty stress when our kids are screaming at home. I also can't take such pressures as I like to have a lonely home ,so that I can rest well at home. But you have to stay calm and told your kids to well behaved. I know that they are still too young to really understand your words,but your patience is need in handling them.