Longest relationship

United States
November 11, 2010 12:58pm CST
What was your longest relationship and why did it end? My longest relationship was 3 years. I was married to this guy for three years and I have two wonderful children out of it. The reason why this relationship ended was because the guy that I married back them hit me all the time for no reason at all. I took three whole years of abuse, which I think back and I wish the first time he hit me I would have left. I do regret meeting him, but I will never regret my two wonderful babies.
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@trisha27 (3505)
• United States
14 Nov 10
My longest relationship is actually the one I am in right now. I am still married to my husband and we have been together for 6 years already and still going strong. We may have our ups and our downs but we manage to work through them. Besides this relationship that I am already in, the next longest relationship that I was in was for 3 years. That relationship was a off and on relationship and the relationship finally ended once I left for bible school. I totally thought the relationship was going to work out and even we had mentioned that we would be getting married. During the whole time that I was at bible school, I sent him many of letters and well, he never responded back. Once graduating from bible school, I thought that we were still in relationship, only to find out that he had cheated on me and had even asked out my best friend at the time. So that's how the relationship ended and it had come to find out that he was already married and had a baby with some other girl. That was really hurtful and hard to find out, once coming home from school.
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• Mauritius
12 Nov 10
My longest relationship so far is 6years.. 3 years dating and 3years wedding.. it ended because of lack of communication..At first i thought he was cheating on me (which he still denies) and then, he started accusing me of things i didn't do and often screamed at me to leave his house which i eventually did.. I regret having married him, because now, i don't have the money to pay a lawyer for divorce
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11 Nov 10
I have 16 years of my life married for I married young and unexpected but years does counts the year I wasted waiting for a change for he cheats on me and lied from me so emotional stress is the main reasons I left him with my kids with me for I cannot bare it.For its rather he hit me for pains will heal but not the emotional torture so sad but am okay now.
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@jambi462 (4598)
• United States
11 Nov 10
My longest relationship is the one I currently am in. I've been with my lovely lady for about two years and two months now and I've never been so in love. I hope someday that she would enjoy having kids with me because I would love to see the person or people that we could form together. I'm glad to hear that you are joyous for your children, it's unfortunate that some people get so stressed out the point where they can't control themselves from lashing out at others. The good thing is that you had the strength and courage to get yourself out of a bad relationship. I've been in one of those before where there was a lot of abuse both physically and verbally and it was hard to leave it because of how unpredictable that partner was. But it really is something you have to do for the sake of your own health and free will. I hope that you and your children can continue to have a happy and joyous life together.
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• United States
11 Nov 10
The longest relationship I had was my high school sweet heart. We got all messed up when he went in the army and he cheated on me. I was at his house sleeping in his bed everynight. One day I was in the kitchen at his house and everyone was passing around thesre pictures in a photo book. No one passed them to me. So,one day I was down stairs in the basment and saw the book. I asked his brother what it was and he picked it up and passed it to me. I saw my ex sitting with a woman on his lap and she was holding a huge balloon that said I love you. The day was valentines days. I was sitting on the phone with him while he cried to me telling me how much he missed me. So this not only ruined my relationship. It ruined my trust in men when they are not in my eye sight.
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@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
11 Nov 10
My longest relationship that ended was a year and a half. I'm not entirely sure why it ended... I guess we grew apart? I transferred to a school that was further away, so I guess the distance put a real strain on our relationship. Plus we were both young and not really ready to settle down. My longest relationship ever was 4 1/2 years. And it hasn't ended yet! We're still together and very much in love!
• Canada
11 Nov 10
My longest relationship to date has been with my daughters' father. A total of 18 years between dating and marriage. It ended for so many reasons... most of which were about growing up and growing apart... also about becoming parents and forgetting to be friends and lovers, too. Many lessons learned over that amount of time but certainly no regrets.
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@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
22 Nov 10
Was with my first "love" for almost 10 years including marriage. Ended because he was passive aggressive and being married to him gave me a mental breakdown.
@shaggin (36924)
• United States
21 Nov 10
I feel the same way about my ex. He and I were together for almost 9 years and married for 6 when we split up. He wasent physcially abusive but he treated me terrible. He was the worst mistake I've ever made. I have two kids and they are my whole world I just wish they werent his lol. I'm glad you got out of the abusive relationship no one should have to be put through that.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
19 Nov 10
That would be the one I'm in now. We have been together nearly 15 years. Of that, married 9. luckily, he is a wonderful man. He's not abusive. I am glad you left. I hope you are happy now.
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
Mine was 4 years, he became my husband eventually. Long engagement matters a lot..
@banisa (5)
• China
12 Nov 10
my longest relationship is on going ,and I hope that it can last as long as possible .maybe i am afraid of pain it will cause and I am not ready to take it whenever it happen
• India
12 Nov 10
We can hate a relation but the not the wonderful babies. Babies are always good because they are our blood. Dont believe a person who always hits you.
• India
11 Nov 10
mine was six days coz i cant stick to a person for too long or i have not found any one which i can stick to for more time then taht