Hate the comparison with my sister

China
November 11, 2010 9:19pm CST
Recently, my younger sister brought her mystery boyfriend to our whole family including my aunts and uncles. Considering the man is mystery just because she didn't mentioned this man any time before untill yesterday she asked the whole family to come to see that man. The man is tall and a little wealthy, so I became the target which is criticized by the whole family again because they weren't agree with the love and relation between me and my bf, he is not so wealthy and not very tall and satisfy their needs. I hate this kind of comparison, even my younger sister now. The whole family always criticized and stimulated me just because of my sister's flaunting. My mother has made up her mind that if I insist my ideas to be with him, she will not consider that I am her daughter and won't let me in forever. I'm so hurt, mylotters, give me some suggestions about that? I love my bf very much not because of his wealth and he loves me very much as well, we don't want break up and also I don't wanna break my parents' heart.
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5 responses
@fanzejian (372)
• China
12 Nov 10
take is easy ! this is a very good and clever method that maybe make you resolve your problem .that is let the time help you and your bf. why do i want you to choose it ? these are the reasons : 1)whatever your parent tell you ,they also love deeply; 2) if you really love your bf and you feel that your bf also love you deeply ,ok ,now just insist your idea ; 3)you could agree with your parent with facing them ,but you keep being with your bf; when the oppotunity comes ,you will be married .
• China
12 Nov 10
Fanzejian, thanks for your ideas. but the point is I have insisted more than one year, I'm so tired but I don't wanna give up now. However, the stimulation has always pushed me to breaking down. I can't pretend that I don't care about what they say. Now I am fluctuated, I'm going crazy. I can't see when and where is the opportunity.
• China
12 Nov 10
maybe your victory is near you. keep your idea and improve the relationship of you and your family ,of course ,you had better give your bf confidence forever
• China
14 Nov 10
Thank you very much for ur idea. I will praise him and find some other way to solve this.
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
Really? Seems you are desperate indeed. Think about the pros and cons. Married life is different from the romantic love you are in now. Your decision will all matter in this situation. After all it is your life.....
• China
12 Nov 10
yes, I'm really desperate. I know ur idea, that's the reason why I can't make up my mind, to quit or insist. That's the point.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
28 Apr 11
Hi. AnnieHouston Welcome to myLot! C'mon. I mean surely your mom and your family is not going to condone you just because you don't have a boyfriend just like your sister does. That is not right at all! How can they do something like this anyway? You are not your sister, and your taste in a male differs from what your sister may have. Your mom needs to stop with all of this crazy talk here. She should love and accept you both as her daughters equally. Her love for you should not be based on how wealthy your boyfriend is anyway. It is not like she is dating him anyway, you are. I understand that she wants the best for you, but her best may not be your best.
• Botswana
18 Apr 11
Take it easy, just insist, but in a flexible way to ur parents. Time will help u to overcome the tough days.
@mlla24 (841)
• Mexico
12 Nov 10
me too