Why Hiding Faces....Are you Shy or Afraid..

India
November 12, 2010 1:55am CST
Hey Friends I am newbee to Mylot or say other social networking sites like Facebook,Twitter etc. ..while roaming around these sites to find friends I observed that most people have not posted their real photos in their profile. Protecting personal informations from abuse and misuse by not letting it on Net can be understood and justified also but hiding faces is something amused me.At some profiles a male has posted photograph of a female.I feel that in human relationships ones face is the gateway of emotional bonding...be it friendship, other social or business relationship...a human face is necessary to relate with. It makes uneasy to relate with cartoon creatures,rocks & mountains,animals & fountains as human friends.But people out there are doing this so there must be some worthy logic or it is simply because they are shy or afraid of something. Let us share. have cheers my friends.
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18 responses
• India
12 Nov 10
Hello, I always use my real photo. I am not afraid of anything. I want people to accept me as I am. Having said that I need to put forward all the necessary information regarding me. But of course there are few things that I want to be private, but a photo is not one of them. Sometimes, however, I feel funky and I use funny pictures. Funny pictures amuse most of us. Like the penguin you see in my profile, it not only amuses my friends but also gives me a refreshing mood. My own face however, doesn't change my mood significantly. I am not saying that I am extremely ugly, but yet I am quite indifferent to how I look, or how others think I look. Thanks. God bless you.
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• India
15 Nov 10
Hi Biswa I liked your attitude & spirit...a real Bravo.Funny pictures amuse me and also elevates my spirit but when one needs the face of a friend these fotos does not help much . Every thing has to have an appropriate place and time. I am sure any one with such beautiful attitude and spirit must have a great loving face and REFRESHING also. Have cheers 24x7.
• India
15 Nov 10
No, I look scary.
• India
15 Nov 10
Hi Getbi This time I do not agree with you...coz GOD has not crafted any scary face for his lovely and beautiful world.
• United States
12 Nov 10
I have to say when I signed up here I did not bring my own friends and or friends did not bring me here. So virtually I was signing up to a site that I had no knowledge of what to expect. It was quite easy to post a character of some sort so I did just that. Besides years ago my ex-husband posted some pictures of me in my run-way modeling events and I was sued immensley as no one has rights in doing so. So I am oblivious about ever posting my own picture for that reason. So are you going to post one of you or an avatar of some sort?
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• India
15 Nov 10
Hi Hardii Like you Iam also a very hardworkingman and so not getting time for up loading fotos to my lap top & then post it. I have photos in my mobile but I have misplaced the data cable....and hence due to these technical snags my this great job is being delayed.I am sure very shortly I will be able to do that...till then the green man will help me. But as Iam typing this post it came to my mind to post my foto in profile as soon as all my 104 friends are very much there with their lovely real fotos...how will it be...????...tell me. have cheers all around all day.
• United States
15 Nov 10
Oh I see, as for many like me it is a preference and one we all respect. So when you feel ready we look forward to viewing it.
@Bannybanzie (1398)
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
I personally don't use my photos in anything online... as in anything. Even in my Yahoo Messenger where my contacts are people who know me, I still don't use my real photos. I think it's because I'm both shy and afraid. I'm shy that people will see me. Well, I'm not the kind of person who wants exposure in any way. Well, I don't know if understandable but that's me. Afraid because there are lots of bad guys out there who might be using your picture to something illegal. I might just be some kind of a weird thinker but that's what I'm thinking. I think this is an effect of watching those shows and movies where people are so good in faking things... I think I apply them too much in real life. I think it's also just being careful. You don't know what others seeing you might do especially because not only your friends would see you. :
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
13 Nov 10
specially, for girls using theif real pic can be really dangerous. There are many weird thinkers are riaming around just to do dirty things with a girl's picture.
• India
15 Nov 10
Hi Banny Why feeling shy for a face which GOD has created with great passion & love. We all have been created by god with best of his skill, passion and creativity.He has created nothing which is not beautiful.Beauty and the opposite is man made perspective. So we dont have any right to shy away from our faces which is prized creations of GOD. So cheerup, shed off shyness and show ur face with pride. And again misuse of fotos on Net cant be denied and there is little risk involved...I do agree this but when all other personal informations are protected, mere fotos of small sizes, that too of only faces are not vulnerable enough. But it is also a fact that we are equally at risk of being abused and exploitation offline. So I think one should be confident with a little caution and face life as it comes and dont be afraid of trivials. Have a nice day and take care.
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
13 Nov 10
There are many reasons for not using our real faces. Some might be shy, like u said, while some are out to be doing bad stuffs and don't want to be recognised. Other reasons could be that, they are secretly earning online, or they will be logging into their networking sites during office hours, and they don't want to be caught by boss. For other examples, avatar is choosing something that represents us, but it doesn't states that it must be us. So, we choose what we like, and our favourite to show it around.
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• India
17 Nov 10
Dear Sany Your reasons are completely valid and logical. I wanna share my secret with you that I am the Boss and always remain in fear that my subordinates may not catch me lotting.But I can not live without chatting with my friends online right here on MyLot. Again representig ourselves as avatars appears to be secondary and unreal...look, whome should I relate with a squirrel or smily...there must be a sanitary or cherry or jhon to visualise with...whoes persona identifies with these characters ?? so a human face is the first step of human bonding...a friendship or whatever.Favourits deserve to be shown to friends but as I think, at other sections of profile. What do you say??Fear of getting caught while doing wrong is very humane and understandable.You sid it right. Have a nice day & cheers alalong. cherry
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@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
13 Nov 10
My Avatar is Myself assuming an advanced Yoga Asana (or pose). I've been a Yogi for 40 years, and am proud of my good health, and healthy lifestyle. At age 77 I maintain 400 colonies of honeybees, and this past summer produced 25000 lbs of Honey. Be healthy, and live long with Yoga!
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
13 Nov 10
superb, no wonder why yoga is gegting popular.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Nov 10
hi cherrypundit you want to see my face got to facebook the simple reason my photo is not on my profile is I am not rich and I do'bot have a camera with digital qualities at all. I am elderly and that would probably turn a lot of younger people off as they feel we older people should all die, one young mylotter put this in a discussion but then claimed she was ill and did not know what she was saying. okay. believe that I will sell you the Brooklyn bridge.
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• India
17 Nov 10
Hey Haty I do not intend to ask people to put their fotos in profile I just wanted to disscuss the emotions behind the actions...every body is expected to do what they like to do..there is nothing wrong in it. Some people are lazy...some have have technical problems...some do not like to be there...some are casual about being there...so every one has on reason or other...I respect the decisions of my friends. Elderly people are lighting towers of our societies spreading lights all around them facilitating societis to march ahead...people move along the bright paths but seems not to bother the source of illumination.Thats the way life goes. Have cheers all around all day.
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
Hello cherrypundit, Am a newbie also and often ask my new net friends about terms they're mentioning. Some don't bother to answer, i don't know what they think about and i don't care if they think am stupid. Well, i just want to hear from their own words otherwise its easy to search. For me it is advisable to hide personal information as a precaution. I used cartoon character of myself for amusement not because am shy though am shy in person. But here its totally different. If somebody want to see how i look like then they can ask, or dig a lil bit more on profile for further acquaintances.
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• India
15 Nov 10
Hey Sardix Here Iam to respond you...newbee once ...me too felt like lost but a little patience and percevearence paid off and now I am here...surely not a bigbee but carrying it on.So be patient and confident...try to see disscussions and profile of leads...requesting friendships and so on keep going. Again protecting vital personal informations from Net is important but me thinks profile fotos do not fall in this catagory...and amusements and other such trivials have different sections of profile and certainly not where profile fotos need to be. I hope there is no point in being shy as for your worthy creation the responsibility lies on GOD only.So one should not bear responsibilities of others and feel shy. bye...have a nice day.
@GardenGerty (99159)
• United States
12 Nov 10
This is what you say, but you are still hiding behind the little green man. For some people they have not yet learned how to change their avatar. Others may not have any way of taking a picture of themself. Personally, my avatar is up just for fun. It shows a place I went this summer and it is brightly colored, I like it. I have not been able to get anyone to take a new picture of me that I like yet. I do not like when men use women as their avatar, or vice versa. That confuses me. So, cherrypundit, why are you not putting your real face up? Are you shy, or trying to hide something?
• India
17 Nov 10
Hey Garden Your avatar foto is nice and elevates spirit.I am hiding behind the little green man because I am lazy, suffering from some technical problems too. I have no fotos in my laptop and have misplaced my data cable to down load it from my mobile.I also feel uneasy when people use women as their avatar or vice versa. I promise very soon I will be there till then the little green man will manage. cheers.
@Jiabsa (512)
• India
12 Nov 10
All are not alike. Some people like to show their photos and some people not. There are some wicked people who misuse beautiful photos of face book members. So most of them are afraid to post their own photos online.
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• India
16 Nov 10
Hi Jia The soul of my disscussion is the thought behind this act of concealing behind a cell...not facing society or say not facing people eye to eye...ones face is the most open thing of the personality and hence does not fall in the category of protected information.... There is no denying of misuse of fotos but they are in rarerity...and we just cant stop depositing our savings in banks bcoz once there happend a bank robbery in town...what I mean to say is do things with care and confidance...i.e unwarrented fears should not spoil our identity or say social standings. cheers..
@toniganzon (49868)
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
I like to post myself mostly in social networking sites because I want my friends to see me and recognize me. Sometimes I would post sceneries because they make me feel good and I wanna show something that is beautiful other than myself hahahaha!
• India
15 Nov 10
Hi Toni I also feel the same way you do..occassional posting or sharing of sceneries or other funny fotos are fine but having profile picture that way does not appears appropriate....in my view. have a nice day.
• United States
13 Nov 10
I really just do not like putting a picture of me out there. And apparently you don't either! I usually don't like people seeing the person behind all this talking, and there's really no use to it. I guess people can see the face of the person writing this stuff down, but what do they get out of it? A laugh? A smile? A thought? It's really not worth it. I don't find a valid point in putting it up. And it's not a required thing either. I guess you could put it up to complete your profile, but it's definitely up to you. And no you don't need a human face to relate with. I can relate with plenty of individuals online and still feel a connection even though we haven't seen each other's faces.
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• Malaysia
12 Nov 10
I agree, here i want to touch on those using their own photo , why show only half or the hair cover the face....its like being mysterious but also want to go ahead. For me i dont use my photo because i really havent decided the best photo that i can use
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• Canada
12 Nov 10
Some people do not have digital cameras, and so do not have a picture of themselves on the computer. Others do not have a personal computer and chat on mylot from the library -- where they cannot save pictures of themselves.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
13 Nov 10
A very good discussion, got a thumb up from me. Well, when I started my social networking life, then I alao used to think the same and used my real picture but one I was thinking about and I thought that if we can't use our name as username why using the real picture. I started looking for one of the avtars and started using the same avtar which im using ryte now. That time, a thought came to my mind that I have started a new life with a new face as well as new name. It was like having new birth. Besides, we do not choose our friends on basis of their looks but the thinking matters the most. So, if someone likes my thinking via my posts then s/he will definitely can be my friend. When they wud ask for my real face I can show them that too, isn't it?
• India
17 Nov 10
Hi Sanu Very well said my dear friend...so crisp and precise.I think we are still living our online traditions of yester years. The intention behind asking for user names by sites was to protect the users identity..coz in case of any misuse or abuse the entire system was not technically developed enough to catch hold of the culprit.So a sense of fear was there arising out of inability to trace culprits but today the secenario is totally changed.Now a days the net survelliance is developed & advanced enough to protect users...and nab abusers globallay.Tracing abusers is easier like any thing. So in my opinion now we "the all net users" may sprout out of our fear ridden shell and may behave a little more confident, mature and responsible.Just as instance, in our off-line life many a times we fall prey to injustices & abuse and then our social system comes forward to help us so in that way too our online existance can survive. thanks and lots of cheers.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
17 Nov 10
Thanks for the pencil. I really appreciate that. Sorry about any typo and grammer mistake as i m using cellphone to do mylot these days and it is difficult to check. Anyways, very well said that these days, we are more secured compared to 10 years ago and we can choose our friends wisely. Still, there is a fear for the girs to use their pics as avtar, ofcourse they can use their photoes in their albums from where they can share with their friends(which I think they are doing right now). Don't you that adding a little caution is better rather allowing sum pervert hacker to misuse you, isn't it?
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
That's just it really. The internet gives people the second chance of being who they want to be or show who they really are as they know themselves, the way that they can never do in real life. Why would you want to be yourself when you can be your favorite superhero online? The virtual world is the virtual world, and we can be our virtual selves. You're right that most people dont post a lot of information online or even photos because of privacy. That is how I feel as well. I dont post anything more than the basics that people would recognize me as me(in networking sites). But in other sites, I have my online name. The personality and thoughts would still be me but the name and photo is just different. In the internet world, Im known as bjcyrix with the squirrel photos as a 'face'. Ive gotten quite comfortable with that and I see it as my "other life". I also make it a point not to have any connections of my internet identity to my real life identity. I guess Im just paranoid when it comes to my privacy. Who wouldnt be if you hear news of hacked accounts and stolen/exploited photos or whatnot. No place is safe so we just all have to be careful.
@yugasini (12816)
• Anantapur, India
13 Nov 10
hi cherrypundit, when i am young i shy to show my face to others,but because of inferirioty complext only, i am not that much attractive in personality and in coversation,so before going visit new person,i am having some hesitation,but now i am ready to talk with any body,but still i have not put my own photo o the net,if my lot isists then i will put my own photo in the avatar,have a nice day
• United States
13 Nov 10
I know what you mean. When I see a friend request on Facebook and I think its somebody I went to high school with but its their kids picture I don't know what to think. I think that some people don't want their face on their because they don't want to people to see how they've aged or they just don't like their own photo. I have mine on there but not on myLot.
@bheauty (46)
• Philippines
13 Nov 10
Hiding faces online and even offline depend on someone's personality. Yeah. maybe he's/she's shy or afraid but I guess there's one thing beyond it.