Do You Want That Your Partner Should Have Similar Qualities Like Yours?

@AKRao24 (20622)
India
November 13, 2010 7:06am CST
I heard people often saying that life gets easy if partners have similar characters/qualities.They understand each other very easily and they have better compatibility. Now my point is every individual is having two types of qualities or traits one is good one another is bad one! We all know what are bad qualities and though we don't want to tell others about it or we are cautious about these qualities, so that we don't exhibit them as far as possible. But the fact is that we know what we are what are our good and bad qualities. Would you like or appreciate a partner having similar bad qualities like yours together with your good qualities? I mean can you accept the similar weaknesses in your partner as you possess? Please respond! Thanks !
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• Singapore
13 Nov 10
Hmm it'll be good if I can find a partner like that. But now it's hard to find someone like that. In my country or should I say, in every country, almost every girl are already attached and are or were in a relationship. Very few have the qualities that I go for or the same as mine. Well, if I were find someone like that, who knows all my likes and dislikes and also I know hers as well, then the relationship will last very long and I'll be really happy.
@AKRao24 (20622)
• India
15 Nov 10
Yes, dear JudgeIronFist,Who knows if any girl is destined for you with same qualities like yours. I agree with your thoughts.My point is can you really appreciate the bad qualities of yours to be present in your partner! Think Twice before answering! LOL! We know what we are and we really hate some of our bad qualities but we can't help it! Can you really appreciate such qualities in your partner? Thanks for responding!
@NicoZieg (591)
• Denmark
13 Nov 10
I think it's better if my partner is a bit different than me. But we of course need some of the same qualities, but I think difference is best for a relationship, if you want it to last forever.
@AKRao24 (20622)
• India
14 Nov 10
I agree with your views and I feel they are true to certain extent too dear Nico Zeig! Every one would like to have a partner complimenting one's qualities. But my point is can you appreciate if your partner is having similar bad qualities like you? Thanks!
@swtpareek (651)
• United States
13 Nov 10
I think that having similar qualities in two people is near to impossible. And I think specially getting two people with similarities and that too of opposite is gender is very difficult. Understanding comes with trust and giving time to each other in a relation. There are a number of people who have similar tastes but they don't get along well with each other, and I know a lot of people who are completely different than each other and they are quite inseparable. So according to me it doesn't really matter to possess same qualities as other person in a relation. Rather I believe in "Opposite Attract".
@AKRao24 (20622)
• India
14 Nov 10
Hi Dear swtpareek, I agree with your views and appreciate the fact that no individuals can have the similar traits or qualities. and many people with opposite qualities are living happy lives. I think you have missed my point in the discussion I evoked! I am asking can you really appreciate the weak points in your partner if they are very similar to yours! As a human being all f us tend to have some bad qualities, though we may not feel them as so, but socially they can be. Can you appreciate such bad qualities which you have right now in your partner? Think twice what I mean! Thanks for responding!
@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
13 Nov 10
Before, my ideal partner is someone I have similar traits with. I found someone like that but our relationship didn't work out. Right now, I am married with someone who has a lot of opposite traits from me but we are managing to meet in the middle. We have learned to adjust with each other behavior.
@AKRao24 (20622)
• India
14 Nov 10
Finding a partner who is ideal because he is having similar traits is different. My point is can you appreciate the bad qualities him which are very much similar to you! For example I am crazy about my hobbies I know some times I cross all limits for keeping them alive.But some times I think good God my partner is not like that otherwise my family would have gone to Dogs!Please try to get my point! I am happy that having found your second partner with a lot of opposite traits you are spending good time after making some adjustments.Well dear Brew, life is full of adjustments we need to do the adjustments every where to live a peaceful and purposeful life, as we have to listen to the nature and not vice versa. Thanks for responding!
@beeh13u (1040)
• Philippines
13 Nov 10
Yeah. I like partners whom I can relate with. It's easier to connect with them. It's like you're thinking the same thing all the time. But it quite boring. It may be fun at first. I think I'll try the other way around. Opposites attract too right? It's much more challenging. I'll try it and take the risk.
@AKRao24 (20622)
• India
13 Nov 10
Thanks dear Beeh13u, I agree with you the opposite qualities will be different for a change and for taking a challenge. Don't you think the opposite qualities will compliment with each other too! LOL ! Thanks for responding!
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 10
well if we have much similarity, that would be good. but that does not means that we just like twins in personality. everybody have an iniquity. too many differences could make us strong or in other way could make us weak.it is all depends on someone.
• Pakistan
22 Nov 10
Yes it is true. Life gets easy if partners have similar characters/ qualities. Mutual respect and understanding play basic role in a good partnership. If couple has different qualities they will not agree on a single point, they will disagree with each other and such thing will cause the bad luck for both members of the couple. They should think same, they should like same things, and they should dislike the same ways and same things. Such qualities, characters cause to have a successful partnership life.
15 Nov 10
yes in a way as i would like to be able to talk to my partner so he has to be a good listener which i am
@pokumon (647)
• United States
15 Nov 10
I want a partner who is different from me in a lot of ways. I think it would be too boring to have someone exactly like me. Like get your own opinions already! I must say that I didn't like how my ex-boyfriend would stay mad at me for weeks at a time whereas I always get very angry but it blows over in a matter of minutes or hours. So maybe I'd like someone who never got mad or got mad like me instead. I want someone stronger than me so I can lean on them and count on them. I'd like an optimist not a pessimist like me. I want my foil.
14 Nov 10
i think that life would be that little easier if you shared the same qualities and interets as each-other, then your not doing something you don't want to as you know that your interet are the same so whatever your partner does you would be happy. Im sure that we could always find a weakness but the love and trust that you have would bring you through the weaknesses. I guess i would appreciate my partner (if i had one) for just being them, that is all that really matters to me. I know that they will be being themselves and that is who i would have fell in love with, good qualities or bad, the person is still the same person that you fell in love with.
@academic2 (7010)
• Uganda
14 Nov 10
No, there are no two people that can have similar charatceristics, in marriage, given that we usually marry unrelated people, it would foolhardy of you to even dream of getting some one with similar qualities. What happens in marriage is that the two people tolerate their differences and if the differences are so big, they part ways!
@aeiou78 (3457)
• Malaysia
14 Nov 10
The main issue in your discussion is about whether a couple can work together or not. We can hide our weakness for a while but not for the whole life. A couple can know if they can communicate and work together or not after a period of dating. Qualification wise, normally the husband or the Man should be higher than the Wife or the Lady. This is what I think.
@vangie26 (449)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
It's good to have partner that have the same qualities as we are but come to think of it, what if your negative traits collide, what do you think will happen? I think there will be advantages and disadvantages on this issue. Good if you are both nice, and quiet and all the good and positive traits. But when it comes to negative traits, well, you have to work it out haha or else, a world war in your relationship might happen. It will be depending on how the two will handle the relationship even if they have different traits, so to say, right? have a good day!
@bheauty (46)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
It's not necessarily that you and your partner have same similarities. I guess it'll become quite boring. Partners should be opposite in some way, different in likes and dislikes.
• Philippines
13 Nov 10
Hi Akrao24! I think you post an interesting topic here. Well, there's a saying that opposites attract. But sometimes its human nature that you get along with people whom you have similar qualities and interests. The more you connect with those people the more you tend to spend time with them. Regarding having the same bad qualities, I guess if you have the same bad qualities you don't even consider bad as you yourself are having the same traits. If they do things the way you do, then you dont look at it as bad at all. Partners in crime, if I may say it. I generally believe that although you tend to cling with those with similar qualities but sometimes it will allow you to be kinda interested in those people doing things that you are not really familiar at all. That's when curiousity sets in. That's when you think ok things could be done and be viewed this way. Personally, for me for friends its easy that you mingle with those whose qualities are similar as yours. But I would be interested in spending time with somebody who views the world different as I see it. I hope you find something interesting in what I've just said. Happy mylotting!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
13 Nov 10
It is a nice thing to have similar interests as a partner. for me, it is not a requirement. Having differences keeps you in tune with a partner. if you only shared the same qualities, where would some of the attraction and desire for a partner be?