When you get hurt do you take revenge?

@mayrah (1037)
Philippines
November 14, 2010 10:55am CST
When we get hurt it really upset us. And sometimes it takes along time before we can forgive and forget, depending on the intensity and depth of pain it inflicted us. Most of us I think, have been hurt before. Well there's a benefit we can get from being hurt and that is, it makes us stronger. Personally I have been hurt many times, and I know taking revenge is not the right option to do because it will be harder for us to forget and to accept if if we take revenge, for me the right thing to do is to just let our wounds heal by time and once we get over it we can easily forgive the person. Well of course at first we think about fighting back and do take an action of revenge but after realizing that it's better to just leave it that way and try to divert our feelings into something else, it would help us move on in a healthy way. How about you? Do you take revenge when you get hurt? Why and how?
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@hanni711 (243)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
I think it's a natural reaction for us as humans to think of revenge when somebody hurt us. I also felt that way before especially when the one who hurt us is close to our heart. But as I mature, I come to realize that it's not right to take revenge because in return we'll not benefit from it and it will cause us more pain.We must learn to forgive and forget for this is the will of GOD and HE said "vengeance is MINE."
@buragee (173)
15 Nov 10
Well, that "revenge " thingy when I get upset is only in my mind. I do not do actions like hitting someone something like that because you are pissed off. I just let go of it. Its just a feeling, you don't need it in your daily life. You're just making your life miserable because of that "revenge". Well, some people that ranges 16-20 yrs old. That's their answer in their problem prolly.
15 Nov 10
No i don't cause what is the sense of revenge if you hurting other that make you and will you upset so dont get revenge ok
@dosemeup (30)
• Netherlands
15 Nov 10
The necessity of revenge kind of depends on what the reasons for the betrayal were to begin with. In the case where the person did something to me intentionally and has no remorse whatsoever, I admit that I will probably program some revenge plan.
• India
15 Nov 10
It is common nature of every human being to take revenge whenever we get hurt but we have to keep our calm. we should not treat the person who hurted us as our enemy we should take it easy and behave in a humble way and should treat him with much more affection as before then that person will realise his blunder and he will change his behaviour. We should be broadminded not a narrow minded then only we can achieve development
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
15 Nov 10
We are attacked by so many emotions when we are hurt. Anger is a dominant emotion at this time. Taking revenge doesn't take away the hurt and pain we feel. We may think that taking revenge will make us feel better, but it won't. if anything, it will cause more hurt to follow.
@saming (6)
• China
15 Nov 10
I think it depend on different situation. If the guy who is really bad, you have to take revenge. he do not want to hurt you usually, but this happend. In this situation , I think u should forgive him, althouh u will never be his friends any more.
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
It depends on teh context and the situation. I mean, of course, I'll be hurt and will sprout every curse that I have in my vocabulary. However, I might e a little forgiving if the hurt comes with a realization or a truth that can be learned. This truth and realization might just be a good lesson in life that I have to learn the hard way. But if it is really unforgivable, I can come up with plans, but I don't believe in following it up since I believe in karma.
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
15 Nov 10
No, I won't do that as it's pointless and stupid. By taking revenge on the one who hurts me, there will be another person to take revenge in me because I hurt him. It's a cycle, at the end of the day, I'm still the one suffering because of his mistakes. I will just let it go and move on in life. Let the past belong to the past, even if we bring it out to the present, it does not help matters at all.
@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
You're right, being hurt strengthen us as humans, and it also add up to our learning experiences. Taking revenge is always out of my list. I know it happened for a reason, and I believe I'm not in the right position to revenge. Besides we got hurt of what someone did to us, if we reciprocate the way they did to us, nothing make us different with them. What I know I can do is just to avoid it to happen again and let Him up there be the one to judge. But about forgiveness, it is also easy to give out, but never forgetful of what has been done. And I think, never I could be the same person again for that someone who hurt me.
• India
15 Nov 10
Well... My answer would be "YES". We all like to take revenge when we get hurt, but that's another matter that we take or not after thining of result. We all got some instinct like animals and when we are more sensitive and we have more brain then animals and it's must that we think of revange when some body hurt us like animals do.. Thanks...
• United States
15 Nov 10
Oh yes. It always crosses my mind what I could do to get even, but I go by the Good Word 'vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord'. I know because I have seen Him take care of things in a much better way than I could. I just leave it to Him and pray sincerely for the person who's caused whatever.
• United States
15 Nov 10
No, I dare not take revenge, as I try to suppress any anger that builds up within me. I've had many experiences where revenge was taken, but to my surprise I got penalized. Revenge will only worsen the scene and much evil can be said about the way you acted. In certain situations, members may find what they saw you do as disgusting, and treat you like an outcast. Friendships and partnerships last long only because these people know how to endure pains inflicted by themselves on each other. Its a bad behavior to take revenge, and only god has the right to take revenge.
• Singapore
15 Nov 10
If that person has really upset me very much, I'll make that person suffer a more painful consequence 10 times worst than what that person made me suffered. For a reason, I'm not someone who forgets bad things.
@hushi22 (4941)
15 Nov 10
hmmm...i normally dont as long as they wont get on my nerves as in mess up with my family esp my mom. i believe the best revenge is to be beautiful and successful.
• United States
14 Nov 10
When I get hurt, I think about taking revenge, but I never do it. I don't take revenge because I could probably get into a lot of trouble or it might not be worth it.
@ankit_620 (496)
• India
14 Nov 10
yes i do take revenge when someone hurts me intentionally. First of all i want to tell you that the road to revenge is a tenous one.It can be supremely satisfying in low doses, but it's enough to cross over into excess that could come to bite you.So i would recommend that we should keep our coo,but still get revenge. Here it is firstly, Bide your time.Learn what you can about your mark,especially regarding their likes/dislikes, social networks or other points of vulnerability.There are plenty of universally accepted revenge ploys, but the more personal,the better. I run my idea by a very close friend.If i am getting a revenge on sonebody,i am almost certainly emotionally invested in the situation.This can lead to hasty judgement and poor decisions.I make sure that i am not hurting others or taking my revenge too far.And yes i do keep myself anonymous until the end.
@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
14 Nov 10
Well the best way i see to explain myself is to say that i take revenge by doing nothing. To me it shows the other person that they are not really important in ones life if you get what i mean. So just forget and even if it is hard to forget just pretend like you just forgot that it ever happened. That is how i am.
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
You can't just move on without giving that hurtful situation a closure. It'll forever haunt you, you know that. The only healthy way to move on is having that closure. It's not necessarily revenge. It could be a conversation or something..
@dodo19 (32571)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
14 Nov 10
When I am hurt, I try not to take revenge. I might do something about it, but I would probably talk about it as opposed to take revenge or hurt the other person as he/she did to me. It's something that I don't really want to do.