My Thanksgiving invitation.

Hi Jo, You are right about thinking of asking your DIL what was she going to cook, besides the turkey . You could still tell het in a soft way why didn{t she make the dressing ao the turkey would all be from her hand. You can tell her that in front of your son, so that she has to show off to him that she can do it . I am afraid that you are a lot nicer than I am. But then, it is different to have daughters than to have sons. Still, I think that it will be better to go there (tell them to bring your pots CLEAN at another time) and just sit and relax for the evening. It kills my back the cleaning up later, when you have the work and nothing to look forward to.

It's so kind of your son to invite you for thanksgiving day. He wants to save you all the cooking and fatigue for the celebration. So great that your son loves you so much and is cared for you.

hi antiquelady the holidays here even though I have b een here now one and a half or more years are so bittersweet. being here and having holiday entertainment days before the actuasl day seem sort of sad then on the holiday day as many of the residents that have family with homes go out to their families, those of us who have no place to go are stuck with the odd food items that do not resemble what our toting all that to her house. I do realize that sometime a married couple have to have hoolidays at their own homes and start building up those wonderful holiday memories. Here we will have roast turkey stuffing and all the rest but its not home and not with my son. sorry to sound dreary here but it u sed to so much fun to make holiday meals. as a resident I have no way to cook anything; I miss that so m uch.

Ooohhhh! Deviled eggs, corn & sweet potatoes! Sounds awesome and delicious with the turkey. I love thanksgiving and eating! Way to go antiquelady!

One of my daughters did that a few years back! she said we will have Christmas at my house mum so you don't have to worry but 2 days before Christmas she calls to ask me to cook all this dishes she would like to have and also please we need glasses,plates and so on... I just said to her give your friends my address and Christmas is at my place.

LOL...oh Jo! I definitely got a kick out of your discussions. Yes, really, what is left for your daughter in law to cook other than the turkey?? It was nice to be invited over the your son's house. I wish I would get invited someone I get sick of cooking Thanksgiving each year. I guess it wouldn't mind, if I could cook better. I always have a hard time getting everything to the table at one time...well getting it to the table hot!! I am sure you will have a terrific time. Just think, at least if you go over there, you won't have to do the dishes!!!

Hi Jo I think that is awful, you might as well have it at yours I mean like you say what is she going to do it sounds like nothing, they want it at their House but for you to do the Cooking Hugs

Its a nice thing that your son loves you a lot. You are lucky mom. Hope you enjoyed at the most. He is so much concerned about you and last year you could not make it since you were tired. So sweet of your son.

I would have told her I'd bring two of those things. You are way nicer than I would have been. It sounds like all she's making is the main dish, and you get all the side dishes. Which means you have more work.

I have already been invited by one of my colleagues to attend his thanksgiving together with another ten people. The Thanksgiving dinner will be held in his apartment. Now I am thinking of taking some side dishes with me for that special dinner. I am getting excited for it. I wish you in advance a very happy Thanksgiving Day.

It was very nice of your son to want you to come to his home for the holiday so you would not get too tired from all the cooking..It seems to me though that you are still going to be doing most of the cooking and have to transport it to his home..If it was me I would tell him that since I would still be doing most of the cooking that I would rather they would come to my home.. Blessings to you and I hope you have a happy and blessed holiday wherever you spend it..

geesh. he didnt want you so put out. but seems your DIL is really rude to you. seems almost like she expects you to make the whole meal and pack it to her is that just me? i know you love to cook for them but geesh. she could give you a bit of a break since their insisting on their place. wonder if that was her idea to . to have it at their place? lol.

It does sound as though it would more than likely be easier to do it at your house! I imagine that your son doesn’t know how many things you were asked to bring! It was sweet of him to notice that last year the day got you very tired, not many guys would even notice! Maybe you could negotiate just how much to bring with your daughter in law...

You are a demanding mom, but what you did is right. Giving your thoughts and ideas about hosting parties will give you room to talk and understand your son better. He finds it better to party at his house, and I would too. A big house purchase is something significant, as parties usually occur because of it. As a mom, you don't have to worry about cooking nowadays, because you don't have to cook daily for your son. I would recommend that you buy ready made food at the restaurant, as this will lighter your work load. Treat the Thanksgiving invitation as a good sign, as your choice to attend will help your son find common footing with you. Such relationships last a life time, and you have to maintain them.

heck ya if I was fixing it all I would not want to drag it somewheres else! and just what are they fixing? I might not have one as we have limited money for food for 2 weeks

Hi there Antique, Sounds as if things have improved between you and your son? That's good. Last time I talked with you which was a while ago, things were a bit tense if I remember. That's a lot of stuff that you'll be bringing over there! My daughter usually has it at her house but this year my nephew has a new house and his wife really wants it there. I'm not sure what I'll be bringing but our family is a lot like yours when it comes to these things I think. We all bring something. Last year I brought the turkey and mashed potatoes. It all works out and its just fun to get together. Hope you have a great day and enjoy your family!

And one thing turns into four. lol Yeah it's kind of a toss up as to whether I'd rather just do it at my place at that point. But just think, most of the cooking and the clean up is still theirs!

This does sound like an awfully lot, Jo, but it all sounds so good! I feel sorry for you having to do all that cooking and then carrying it over there! I do hope they help you out, though, and that everything turns out all right. I don't know what I'm going to be doing that day. My sister and her husband have really had a rough time here lately. My bil had about six bypasses, I think it was, back in September. We at first thought he was going to have quadruple bypass surgery but they found out he had more blockage than they thought he did. My sister fell and bursted her arm open about two weeks ago. She had to go to the hospital and she got a blood clot in her arm. They had to give her shots in her stomach for it. They're both home and doing better now but like I said, I don't know what we're going to do.

I don't have a particular plan on my mind yet, but hopefully we will go out and have a nice dinner together, just like a family.

lol I was thinking just that, you may as well have it at your house anyways...But thats still a nice gesture from the 2 of them...hey just sit back and relax and let them clean up :)