My Thanksgiving invitation.

@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
United States
November 15, 2010 4:18am CST
I ask my son a couple of weekes ago if they were coming for thanksgiving, they always do. He said they wanted to have it at their new house & i understood that. He said mom u know u about didn't make it last year u were so tired[this is true]. He said we might let u bring one thing. At the time he didn't even know what they were going to have, lol. Last night they were here & my dil ask me if my son had told me what to bring . since he hadn't she told me she wanted me to bring the dressing, green bean casserole, deviled eggs, corn & sweet potatoes. I wanted to ask her what she was fixing but i was a nice mil & didn't say a word.. I'd just as soon have it hear & not have to worry about wagging all that stuff to their house, lol. What about u?
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@marguicha (84001)
• Chile
15 Nov 10
Hi Jo, You are right about thinking of asking your DIL what was she going to cook, besides the turkey . You could still tell het in a soft way why didn{t she make the dressing ao the turkey would all be from her hand. You can tell her that in front of your son, so that she has to show off to him that she can do it . I am afraid that you are a lot nicer than I am. But then, it is different to have daughters than to have sons. Still, I think that it will be better to go there (tell them to bring your pots CLEAN at another time) and just sit and relax for the evening. It kills my back the cleaning up later, when you have the work and nothing to look forward to.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Thanks for responding. My dil doesn't even like dressing. She wouldn't know where to start when it came to making it. I thought i was going to get off light this year but once again i was wrong.
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@marguicha (84001)
• Chile
15 Nov 10
I often have those innocent spells, when my daughters tell my not to worry about something and I trust their word until they end the sentence or the idea. I have come to the conclusion that all that comes along with being a mother. I tell my eldest daughter that I only see her when she comes to cut her veins with my saw and on my best rug . When she is happy, I have to beg her to call.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Nov 10
I don't think my children are as considerate of me as they sound be. Doesn't sound like yours are either.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
15 Nov 10
It's so kind of your son to invite you for thanksgiving day. He wants to save you all the cooking and fatigue for the celebration. So great that your son loves you so much and is cared for you.
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Thanks for responding.I am very blessed to have him. Hope u havwe a nice one.
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@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
15 Nov 10
I don't have kids for now, but in future i hope to have a son, it's not like a daughter won't be good, but boys are different kind of people, in my opinion.
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• United States
15 Nov 10
I think you messed it Suggar. She IS fixing it all and then CARTING it to their house! Why couldn't they just tell her, just come don't bring anything?
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@wolveren (1568)
• Cebu, Philippines
16 Nov 10
Ooohhhh! Deviled eggs, corn & sweet potatoes! Sounds awesome and delicious with the turkey. I love thanksgiving and eating! Way to go antiquelady!
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Nov 10
Thanks for responding, haven't seen u on here in awhile. It's always good to hear from u.OPE U HAVE A GREAT tHANKSGIVING.
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@wolveren (1568)
• Cebu, Philippines
17 Nov 10
Yup, I was really tied up trying to work hard. I could be moving to either canada or wisconsin if everything goes well with this job. Can happen in the next 6 months or a year or two but I don't really know. It all depends on how rich I can make my boss. You have a great Thanksgiving too Antiquelady!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
17 Nov 10
I hope u get the move if that's what u want.I admire anyone who works hard & suceeds in their job. It's a shame more people are not like u. Lazy people are not my cup of tea, lol. GOOD LUCK! Give me an update on u when u can .
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@Hatley (163969)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Nov 10
hi antiquelady the holidays here even though I have b een here now one and a half or more years are so bittersweet. being here and having holiday entertainment days before the actuasl day seem sort of sad then on the holiday day as many of the residents that have family with homes go out to their families, those of us who have no place to go are stuck with the odd food items that do not resemble what our toting all that to her house. I do realize that sometime a married couple have to have hoolidays at their own homes and start building up those wonderful holiday memories. Here we will have roast turkey stuffing and all the rest but its not home and not with my son. sorry to sound dreary here but it u sed to so much fun to make holiday meals. as a resident I have no way to cook anything; I miss that so m uch.
@Hatley (163969)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Nov 10
somehow mylot seems to have chopped off a sentence so the wording is all wrong. should have been those of us who have not place to go are stuck with the odd food items that do not resemble what our families used to prepare. toting all of that to her house sounds like shes given you the whole meal to do except fo the turkey and desserts perhapsl
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Nov 10
Hi Hatley, thanks for responding. I know the holidays must be sad for u & your son. I'm sorry u are stuck there & can't go anywhere. Holidays have gotten sad to me for quite awhile now. My parents were divorced so that was always a hassle at holdays & now they are both deceased so that mjakes holidays sad plus my oldest son is not having anything to do w/me & hasn't for over 2 years so that's sad to me to. If u were close to me u & your son would have somewhere to go. I don't invite as many as i use to but y'all would sure be welcome. I had planned on inviting some friends this year but plans got changed.
@alottodo (3062)
• Australia
17 Nov 10
One of my daughters did that a few years back! she said we will have Christmas at my house mum so you don't have to worry but 2 days before Christmas she calls to ask me to cook all this dishes she would like to have and also please we need glasses,plates and so on... I just said to her give your friends my address and Christmas is at my place.
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
17 Nov 10
LOL, good for u. I wanted to say that to my dil but u can't say things like that to them. I f my son had told me what to bring i would have definitely commented to him. Come to think about it maybe that's why he was outside smoking when i was told, lol. Thanks for responding. Hope y'all have a good Thanksgiving.
@gdesjardin (1938)
• United States
16 Nov 10
LOL...oh Jo! I definitely got a kick out of your discussions. Yes, really, what is left for your daughter in law to cook other than the turkey?? It was nice to be invited over the your son's house. I wish I would get invited someone I get sick of cooking Thanksgiving each year. I guess it wouldn't mind, if I could cook better. I always have a hard time getting everything to the table at one time...well getting it to the table hot!! I am sure you will have a terrific time. Just think, at least if you go over there, you won't have to do the dishes!!!
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Nov 10
HI GERRI, tHANKS FOR RESPONDING. I don't know what she's cooking, i didn't ask, lol. I'd rather have it here than have to wag all that foodover to their house but i will..I am going to ask t.j. to come get me & the food. I don't like to drive at night so hopefully that will help having him pack the food out to his car. Hope y'all have a great thanksgiving. It is hard to get everything done at one time.
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• India
16 Nov 10
Its a nice thing that your son loves you a lot. You are lucky mom. Hope you enjoyed at the most. He is so much concerned about you and last year you could not make it since you were tired. So sweet of your son.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Nov 10
Thanks for responding. I do hope my sons love me because i love them very much. Happy days to u.
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@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
16 Nov 10
It does sound as though it would more than likely be easier to do it at your house! I imagine that your son doesn’t know how many things you were asked to bring! It was sweet of him to notice that last year the day got you very tired, not many guys would even notice! Maybe you could negotiate just how much to bring with your daughter in law...
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Nov 10
Hi Paula, thanks for responding. It was nice of him to notice. He came in & helped me get it all on the table & cooked the rolls for me. I was about pooped out. My dil didn't offer to do a thing, she never does.I'll get it all cooked & be nice.
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• United States
16 Nov 10
It was very nice of your son to want you to come to his home for the holiday so you would not get too tired from all the cooking..It seems to me though that you are still going to be doing most of the cooking and have to transport it to his home..If it was me I would tell him that since I would still be doing most of the cooking that I would rather they would come to my home.. Blessings to you and I hope you have a happy and blessed holiday wherever you spend it..
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Nov 10
Thank u, i hope u have a great holiday to. I'm sure it will all work out fine just thought i was going to be treated this year, lol.Thanks for responding.
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• United States
16 Nov 10
You are a demanding mom, but what you did is right. Giving your thoughts and ideas about hosting parties will give you room to talk and understand your son better. He finds it better to party at his house, and I would too. A big house purchase is something significant, as parties usually occur because of it. As a mom, you don't have to worry about cooking nowadays, because you don't have to cook daily for your son. I would recommend that you buy ready made food at the restaurant, as this will lighter your work load. Treat the Thanksgiving invitation as a good sign, as your choice to attend will help your son find common footing with you. Such relationships last a life time, and you have to maintain them.
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Nov 10
Where in the devil did u get the idea i am demanding??? I haven't demanded anything!! I know all about house purchases also. I bought the one i'm living in & paid for it all by myself so i don't know what that's got to do w/anything either. I don't need your reccomendations on what to do, i'm grown. There is no way i would buy ready made things for our dinner,Another dumb suggestion on your part. If they wanted things like that to eat we would have gone to a restaurant to eat. I have commom footing w/my son already. Did u bump your head this morniong & loose your senses? I have never gotten such a silly response as yours.
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@bunnybon7 (34480)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Nov 10
geesh. he didnt want you so put out. but seems your DIL is really rude to you. seems almost like she expects you to make the whole meal and pack it to her is that just me? i know you love to cook for them but geesh. she could give you a bit of a break since their insisting on their place. wonder if that was her idea to . to have it at their place? lol.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Nov 10
Good morning Bon, i thought i was going to get a break this year but doesn't look like that's happening, lol.MY dil doesn't cook much & i knew if we had dressing i would have to make it but didn't think i'd have to make that much. She is having her sisters i guess is one reason they wanted to have it at their new house but they could have come here if she had just said something. She did tell me she wasn't asking the older sister to bring much because she has 2 small children. . the other sister want do a thing i'm sure. I really thought the list she gave me was a little long especially after my son had said. mom, we might let u bring one thing, lol. Thanks for responding.
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@williamjisir (22909)
• China
15 Nov 10
I have already been invited by one of my colleagues to attend his thanksgiving together with another ten people. The Thanksgiving dinner will be held in his apartment. Now I am thinking of taking some side dishes with me for that special dinner. I am getting excited for it. I wish you in advance a very happy Thanksgiving Day.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Thanks for responding. I should be so lucky, lol. Thought i was going to get off easy this year till i got the list last night. I hope u have a great time.
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@AmbiePam (46909)
• United States
15 Nov 10
I would have told her I'd bring two of those things. You are way nicer than I would have been. It sounds like all she's making is the main dish, and you get all the side dishes. Which means you have more work.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Hi Ambie, u have to be nice when u have a dil. I think it's a little much for her to tell me to bring all thaty but u do what u have to , to keep peace in the family. I thought they might order pizzas, lol.Thanks for responding.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
15 Nov 10
Hi Jo I think that is awful, you might as well have it at yours I mean like you say what is she going to do it sounds like nothing, they want it at their House but for you to do the Cooking Hugs
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Hi Gabs, if i didn't have such a hard time getting around it would be different. I usually do have it here but times change. Dil's change things alot.Hope u have a good night in your nice, warm new place. Thanks for responding.
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@kingparker (9698)
• United States
15 Nov 10
I don't have a particular plan on my mind yet, but hopefully we will go out and have a nice dinner together, just like a family.
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Thanks for responding. I hope y'all have a real nice day.
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@gjax57 (897)
• United States
15 Nov 10
lol I was thinking just that, you may as well have it at your house anyways...But thats still a nice gesture from the 2 of them...hey just sit back and relax and let them clean up :)
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Ok. I'm going to play devil's advocate here a bit. For a girl who isn't much of a cook, I am guessing that she is lightening some of her load onto Antique because she KNOWS that she is a good cook. She still is probably doing the turkey, gravy, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, rolls, drinks and nuts and hopefully dessert?? I agree that they are asking Antique to bring a lot but if you aren't an experienced cook it is really hard to time and prepare all those foods and serve them hot and on time. money might also be a factor? I don't know. In our family there are enough people that not one person gets stuck cooking a lot. We all bring one or two items and have more than enough food.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Thanks for responding Gjax. It will hopefully all work out well. It is going to be alot of trouble for me to wag all that food over there on top of fixing it. I get tired just thinking about it, lol.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Thanks for your response ,Sid. I thought i was going to get out of so much work this year but wrong again, lol.My son said they might let me fix one thing but guess he was wrong to, lol.
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
16 Nov 10
This does sound like an awfully lot, Jo, but it all sounds so good! I feel sorry for you having to do all that cooking and then carrying it over there! I do hope they help you out, though, and that everything turns out all right. I don't know what I'm going to be doing that day. My sister and her husband have really had a rough time here lately. My bil had about six bypasses, I think it was, back in September. We at first thought he was going to have quadruple bypass surgery but they found out he had more blockage than they thought he did. My sister fell and bursted her arm open about two weeks ago. She had to go to the hospital and she got a blood clot in her arm. They had to give her shots in her stomach for it. They're both home and doing better now but like I said, I don't know what we're going to do.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Nov 10
tHANKS FOR RESPONDING, kATHY. sORRY TO HEAT ABOUT YOUR SISTER & BIL'S TROUBLES. I just hope y'all can be together on thanksgiving, that's the main thing. All that good food is a treat but it's not the main thing. I'd be just as happy to bake a ham, have sandwiches & make a good dessert. Do u like to cook, maybe it's your turn, lol.
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
17 Nov 10
No, I don't like to cook, myself. Since I live alone, I don't cook much unless I have to. I mainly get things I can warm up in the microwave. I do like to cook desserts occasionally, though, lol! I don't cook them too often unless it's for potluck at church.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
17 Nov 10
Good morning, i know there are alot of people who don't like to cook. I do & cook for myself all the time. Maybe this year u can cook for your sis & bil since they are not well. Would help u out if i could.
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@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Nov 10
And one thing turns into four. lol Yeah it's kind of a toss up as to whether I'd rather just do it at my place at that point. But just think, most of the cooking and the clean up is still theirs!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Nov 10
Thanks for responding, Dawn. I'd rather do it here but u do what u have to do to keep peace in the family. hEY ALICE, I know what u mean about the cleaning up.
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@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Nov 10
Saw something on Desperate Housewives the other night. Eight hours cooking before, 4 hours cleaning up afterward, just so I can spend 8 minutes eating dinner with my family! Seriously, the nice thing about not hosting it is that you can actually enjoy the company!
@dawnald (84155)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Nov 10
I stole that line. I'd be eating longer than that, though I do eat faster than most people. Because they're yapping and I'm eating. lol
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Hi there Antique, Sounds as if things have improved between you and your son? That's good. Last time I talked with you which was a while ago, things were a bit tense if I remember. That's a lot of stuff that you'll be bringing over there! My daughter usually has it at her house but this year my nephew has a new house and his wife really wants it there. I'm not sure what I'll be bringing but our family is a lot like yours when it comes to these things I think. We all bring something. Last year I brought the turkey and mashed potatoes. It all works out and its just fun to get together. Hope you have a great day and enjoy your family!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Hi Sid, yes, things are o.k. w/me & my youngest but still not hearing from my oldest whish is very sad to me. I usually always have it but things do change, it seems. I had planned to have everybody bring something this year because last year about got the best of me. I hope y'all have a great thanksgiving. Don't eat too much,lol
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Well that's good. I used to have all the holidays here too but not so much anymore. Even though I still cook and bring stuff, one thing that is different is the clean-up and hopefully you'll get to escape that end of it. Between the DIL and her sisters I would hope you'd get to just kick back and enjoy once you are there. I'm sure you've done enough over the years to have earned this. I always enjoy getting together with the family and I hope you do too. Hope your oldest one comes through for you for the holidays. I'm guessing that is the one that I was thinking about here. Happy Holiday, Antique!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Nov 10
I ask my son if he was going to invite his brother but he said no. I wish he would but don't know if he's even come he's acting so strange.Fmilies need to be together all the time. Lat year my oldest had my youngest out on christmas & i sat home by myself all day. That was very hurtful to me. Thanks sid, hope y'all have a great holiday.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
15 Nov 10
heck ya if I was fixing it all I would not want to drag it somewheres else! and just what are they fixing? I might not have one as we have limited money for food for 2 weeks
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
15 Nov 10
Thanks for responding, Joan. I sort of feel the same way about wagging all the food to thewir house but i will. Your family being together is a good thanksgiving no matter what u have. hope u have a nice day.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
16 Nov 10
yup we will hugsssssssssssss