jelousy= is a sign of love or of insecurity?

Romania
November 15, 2010 12:10pm CST
do you think jelousy is a sign of insecurity?. while sometimes it could benefit the relationship, exagerating could have the reverse effect. it will make a tensed situation between you and your partner and you might actually get to break up.
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@simonelee (2718)
• China
16 Nov 10
Hello there. I think it depends on how the individual interpret the situation. For me a person will not jealous if he/she doesn't love that person, insecurities also arises depending who's the person is. Extreme jealous often happened if that person is part of your girlfriend or boyfriend past. A feeling of anger thinking about their history. Trust is also an issue here, you trust you partner but you don't trust the person whom you jealous with.
• Romania
16 Nov 10
is weird because if I told my boyfriend that I'm going to meet a friend and he wouldn't have any kind of reaction I would start to get worried and strat to think: hey what the F*** he really doesn't care for me? he doesn't care if I see another man or not...so I think that jelousy in a certain limit could benefit the relationship.thanks for your answer
@simonelee (2718)
• China
17 Nov 10
Maybe deep inside he's interested to know who you going out with but he's only pretending that he's cool with it and nothing to worry about or perhaps he doesn't want to raise an argument?
• Romania
17 Nov 10
yes you're right this posibility exists but I couldn;t stop myself from worrying. I would think that he doesn't care enough for me and what I do
• Portugal
16 Nov 10
jealousy is a sign of love^^ also insecurity bcs this feeling makes part of love. we are always a bit afraid that our lover when we have one what is not my case ahah look to other girls. bcs we always think that maybe what we do isnt enough. is normal that we feel that way. i guess that if you exaggerate sure it can end a relation. no one wants to be with someone that is always not trusting. but i guess that is healthy and needed a bit of jealous in all relations. if there is no jealous there is no love
• Romania
17 Nov 10
I remember that my ex used to say hey you cousin looks good or hey look how hot is your friend. he was joking at first but after he started to exagerate. I was walking on the street with him and we were hjolding hands and a friend of his was with us. a girl ( that look good by the way) passed us by and he said somthing like this :" hey look how good she looks..I would definitely do her...you can imagine how I felt. he used to like making me feel insecure about myself, that he was the opnly one that would look at me and that if we break up I will stay lonely forever. he was afraid that I would try to meet somebody else and this is why he made me feel like sh**.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
I think it depends on the level of jealousy. Say if it lead to paranoia or possessiveness, then the jealousy is no longer normal and yes it is a sign of insecurity. If the jealousy is for a valid reason, I guess that is still normal and part of the spices and showing signs of love.
• Romania
16 Nov 10
yes you're right if your partner gives you reasons to be jelous than is normal. but I was talking about jelousy without any reason. this shows insecurity in my opinion. thanks for your reply. have a nice day
@calpro (933)
• India
15 Nov 10
Could be yes most of the times.There is no definite answer for the feelings that occur to women mostly.Jealousy is one patented for women.So we cannot give any definite answer related to women feelings.They keep changing depending on the person, situation and environment and finally their mood too. Women hearts are as deep as ocean.(A very popular saying in my mother tongue) Cheers to jealousy
• Romania
16 Nov 10
yes you are right.but I see things like this. your jelous over other women because you are not sure of your own qualities, because you aren't sure if you are capable to keep your boyfriend with you and finally because you aren't sure of his feelings for you, because you aren't sure that he won;t betray you and see another women. now I"m not saying that is a bad thing to be jelous. a small amount could benefit the relationship, and show the other person how much you care for him, but if you exagerate and you see everywhere the posibility that he might cheat on you is terribly wrong
@ftrazona (224)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Love - This is the positive side of jealousy. Yes, its nice to know that someone is getting jealous to us or we get jealous to them, that sounds sweet because the reason is that they loves you as they always say. Insecurity - this is the negative side of jealousy. We get jealous because of the feeling o being insecure and left out. We wanted to be always appreciated. We wanted to own what we wanted to have and what we have already. I am a jealous type of person and I am on the negative side. I admit it, my immaturity told me so. hahahaha I wanted to be my dad's princess ever but then his priority now is his new family. I get jealous always, also mom has her new baby on her second hub, I'm afraid that I will be left out. But anyway, I'm 21.. but I still hate the feeling.. LOL!
@DYAMIGA (64)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
jealousy encompass the word. COMPREHENSIVE RANGE OF SOMETHING MORE INTERESTING, from the word interesting one would be insecure when one is not confident with his or herself. so YES, JEALOUSY COULD LEAD TO INSECURITY and the OTHER WAY AROUND
16 Nov 10
Jealousy, at first is sign of love. When a person who loved you, is get jealous then i told that it is a sign of love. But it is limited that how many times you being jealous. Because after some time it turns to insecurities. And is this it going on, then it turns to break up. So, being jealous your partner is good. But it limited for some times.
@pogi253 (1587)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
Jealousy can be a indication of insecurity, it can leave you feeling so many mixed emotions, you’re feeling like you need to know their every move, but you've got to give them some space, total trust, to recognize that they can go away, and know that they won't do anything to hurt your relationship.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
16 Nov 10
I make a jealous boyfriend and i can say it's insecurity and sometimes.. Foolish thoughts, that's all.
@tokwa99 (92)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
jealousy = insecurity or vice-versa, if you're insecured by someone or something, your jelous because you don't have that someone or something.
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
I say INSECURITY. You'll never get jealous if you LOVE the person because you have TRUST in him/her. Love entails trust and trust doesn't make a person jealous.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
15 Nov 10
I could never see jealousy as any kind of sign of love. jealousy is an emotion that is bitter and betrays us our hearts. I would definitely call it a sign of insecurity. Being jealous is not good for our relationships or our souls.