I am planning my wedding

November 16, 2010 2:01pm CST
Hi, I'm new to my lot and thought I'd see how friendly the people here are by asking you all a question. I'm currently planning my wedding, and have a few different ideas about the things I want. I though my partner would be the issue, however it turns out my mum wants me to change my ways for the things she wants. How do you politely ask tell controlling parents not to interfere with the things you want for your day? dru
5 responses
@dearlene (78)
• Indonesia
18 Nov 10
Just tell her patiently that you disagree about her idea, and you should have prepare and discus to her what is you idea, I think that can help.
18 Nov 10
Patiently isn't something my mum does well but I'll try it thanks!
@hushi22 (4928)
17 Nov 10
hmmm...that seems a big issue - wedding. try to talk to her and tell her in a subtle how you feel. maybe she would understand.
18 Nov 10
I hope she will... she had her day 25 years ago and chose what her parents wanted mostly. I'm not the church/white wedding type. I hope she gets that!
@buragee (172)
16 Nov 10
If you are independent enough and you can live by yourself then ask your parents about your plans of course. You have a life to live. Tell them that you are matured enough to handle things especially when it comes to family because you are planning a wedding. Hope it helps.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
My friend is also planning her wedding. Her wedding is going to be a few months from now and I am really excited about it. She ask me to make her wedding cake for her. I think that will be our wedding gift and we are pretty sure she's going to like it.
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
16 Nov 10
First of all: Welcome to MyLot! I think your situation is rather delicate (I am also planning my own wedding at the moment, so I know!) but you can do what I did: tell her that you really have very good ideas regarding most things yourself, but that you could really use her help with something small. I asked my Mom to be in charge of invitations, because I really wasn't interested in them anyway, for instance, and she got really into it and does not bug me about other things anymore. Other suggestions could be to ask her to plan the bar, plan bridesmaids gift's or be in charge of the guest book or whatever. Something small, so that she feels she is needed (if you can think of a reason she would be so awesome at it, even better. I told my Mom I wanted her to do the invitations because she is so artistic, for instance, which she was really happy about!) and you are not ignoring her. Otherwise, you need to be firm and honest I guess. But that can be really hard to do with family members, which is why I went for the diversion instead :) Congrats on getting engaged! And enjoy the wedding planning, it should be fun! :)
16 Nov 10
Thanks, that's an excellent idea! Congratulations to you as well.