How do I change Childish so mature?

@gengeni (3308)
Indonesia
November 17, 2010 11:27am CST
Many people say that I am very Childish, ranging from face, body and attitude. instead there are people who have thought I was a child teens, when I was 26 years old. please help me, so I'm more mature and not exactly like a kid again... thanks...
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12 responses
@oligel (130)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
how'd you like telling that you are a childish? is that really you? are you a childish??? ask that to yourself and think if that is really you. At that age you should be matured enough not to act as a child, but sometimes people do become childish because they want attention.
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 10
yes you're right..., I just want to get attention from people around me, I'm not ready to become a woman in charge, I'm too spoiled and always need another person as guardian, but on the other hand ... My life has been too much for it.
@oligel (130)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
why you not ready to be matured??? all people will reach their maturity period even if they don't want it. gengeni, not all the time you have companion or one person to be your guardian, it is better if you begin to think about it. people come and go, your guardian is not permanent to be in your side for lifetime. i have a friend like you, she's now in bermuda triangle, we always telling her that we were not always beside her, that she should learn to act as an adult. hope you give yourself a space to think and reevalute if you need to move on as an adult/matured...
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
Being mature is how you react to what is happening around you. If you can keep your composure and think before you act surely you will be a more matured person. Childish people act with out thinking. Don't complain too much, Work with the hard things in life. Experience makes you mature with an open mind.
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 10
I'm too spoiled and not ready to be solving a problem, I just wanted to escape from it all, but I realized that I should be able to learn to get through it all.
@ankit_620 (496)
• India
17 Nov 10
see maturity is one thing that comes from within, you just feel it yourself, you it in your daily lifestyle, how you handle stuff and your problems. Even your social life changes a lot, you get into a mature company who remind you of your maturity level. You cannot change your face or your body in way to make it mature but yes you can change your attitude. I hope most of the people around you are mature or mature in comparison with so the thing you can do is that forget childish stuff and talks. All you have to do is rise up to their level of thinking instead of saying insensible stuff. With maturity you will see many changes like in your lifestyle,clothing and even you music and movie taste.
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 10
need a total change of my lifestyle, all I have to do start from zero.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
17 Nov 10
Hello friend, i don't think that looking like child is the same like childish. I mean that when i read or hear the word "childish" i understand a person, who act as child. There is nothing wrong with that, you to be with childish understanding for the world, the problem in the childish attitude when people grow up is that they don't want to be responsible, nothing more. Children are something nice - they look so fresh and young, they want to know more about the world, they are smiling more than more of the grown up people, so it's o.k. if you look like a child, for me. It means that your face is soft and you look really good. Here we come to the grown up attitude. Its hard. You need to think as a mature, if you want people to take you as a mature person. For me, people grow up with their problems. It's because of my experience. Good emotions make you believe in your ideals - nothing wrong in that, but life is cruel and nearly everything depends on someone else. Positive attitude is not a patent of the children, so if that's the reason people call you childish - let them do it, there is nothing bad with that. Mature people are people, who fight, who doesn't wait someone else to bring them what they need or what they want. Mature people move on, even if they fall on the ground. Some of them easier, some of them harder, but everyone find his own way. Mature people are ready to make compromise if the goal is good. I'm not sure how that will help you, but i know that's what i think! Have a nice time
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 10
Hi Suggar..., thanks for the support I feel disturbed by the attitude of other people who talk like that about me, but I'm sure ...., if indeed I am still acting childish ... then one day I'll turn into a more mature woman, I could not force myself to have to be mature, but if I try a little.
@chaoz674 (79)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
were in the same dilemma gengeni.. I'm 31 years old already but people do tend to treat me like I'm still a child. It is maybe because how I look and my attitude, but you know what? being treated somewhat like a child has a lot of advantages in life. It's some sort of an edge for us to as if look like you don't know what your doing but in fact its the only way for us to get what we want.. Pretending to be ignorant is the best way to let them do what you want them to do. Yah it's bad but you can't blame me for doing so.. HAHAHAHA!
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@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 10
lol... yea people tend to ignore me in solving a problem, this is an advantage, I do not have to think about some problems that are too mature.
@beeh13u (1038)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
I am childish too. They say that I look mature, but in the inside, I act like a 2 year old kid. I always say NO to them like a toddler. It's funny. I don't know how I can handle grown up situation. I'll just cry. LOL
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@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 10
hahaha... thank god, it turns out I have friends in common with me.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
25 Jan 11
Personally maybe it could be the way you act with certain situations and do you accept criticism from others, etc. or do you still expect everything handed to you without wanting to take time to work for it. Maybe there are situations in your life where people just have seen you act not as mature as you say you are to where they want to question your age and abilities. Maybe it is just time for you to find ways to try and show them how mature you really are instead. When you take time to always get upset about things instead of wanting to try and show them who you really are sometimes makes others question things about you for sure.
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
Hi Gengeni! I was like you 2 years ago! Well, first of all, think of yourself as a mature and fully-grown woman. Imagine yourself like that all the time. ALL THE TIME, you should think that you're one of the mature woman that you admire. Never shout unnecessarily, cry in front of others, or argue like a young girl! Always show you're strong and independent. Also, a mature woman is aware of her responsibilities and commitments. Always, priorities first. If people around you notices you're responsible and mature, they'll respect you. And that's how they'll know you're mature now. It also helps to change your style. Have a makeover. Change your hairstyle and your clothes to what you think mature women will wear.
@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 11
thinking is an activity to process the information stored in the brain. if an adult woman still think like children, meaning she did not have enough information about how to think adult women. so the information / knowledge that must be added. how can through books, magazines, internet, discussion, etc.. besides that, there is also the possibility that he did not realize that he has entered the age of adulthood or are too afraid to face the adult life. if this happens, maybe he needs special help.
• India
17 Nov 10
first ask to yourself? do you think that you are childish? why do you listen to others saying? dont change for others. can they assure that they will accept you as mature after you change? if they say that your childish was good than this, will you be able to change again???? think
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@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 10
Frankly, I never thought that my attitude is childish. But somehow everybody always say I like it, I always try to see again what exactly is wrong in my personal, but I also can not say I've been an mature.
@rifnee (1713)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 11
Although there are a wise man who said that "Being old is for sure, but being a mature is a choice. " Remains difficult, especially if our character was indeed Childish. To be sure an adult is always trying to tackle the problem and will not run away and always to seek a way out of the problem. Similarly, approximately, p
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
You can watch films and tv shows, or search the net to observe how women your age speak, walk, behave, and dress up. Then go to the mirror and compare how you speak and act with those women you've observed. Try to imitate their ways. Do it often. Practice in front of the mirror. It works!
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 10
aha ...., learn to communicate in front of the mirror ...., classical idea ... I'll try it