Suppose you r fall in love at first meet with your friend's girl friend...

@Ritmon (119)
November 17, 2010 10:50pm CST
In our life sometimes we fall in love at first time with someone in a party or any social festival..just at first look.we try to spend more time with her in that party and try to speak with her..the whole party we are suffering with our self confidence...but when the party was over and the girl was not seen in that party,then we find her like a precious thing of our life was lost..but alas,at last we don't see her in that party....but the feelings capture our heart and spread like colors as colors spread in water..after a long time when we r totally lost our self in the feelings of love and suddenly one day we see that particular girl with my nearest friend,in that situation our heart cries but smile comes in our face for friend...the dream,which grows small to big in our mind break at a moment,but we cant do anything because the girl grows her dream with my friend in her mind.....than what should i do????
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@kodukodu84 (1576)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 10
Then I think you are going to have to respect their relationship and move on for yourself. If you can dream of being with someone then surely the girl can dream of being with someone which is your own friends as well. Don't worry, it was just her choice and if she really loves your friend by heart, then what matter is she is happy. Because when we love someone, we always want to see the person happy don't we? Otherwise you can choose to stay away from them and give some space for yourself. Good luck and have a nice day
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@Ritmon (119)
19 Nov 10
I always want to see her happy in any condition...though she is now with my friend but if my love is true my feelings says that one day i can get her...now every night i spend in deep pain and always pray to god that,"please god,do something for me.please try to settle my picture in her heart for lifetime..." can i will be with her in future if my love is true??
@thanks1961 (7046)
• India
18 Nov 10
Hi dear, I believe it may be your own experience and I can feel your pain. If you really love her, just mind that it she is not meant for you or you met here little late. It may be a fact that she is already in an affair with your friend and you need to accept it. You are late, or she is not belong to you or in a simple language, your friend is in love with her or they are loving each other. Here what you can do is that, just convince or make confirm that your friend and the girl are in love or not. If your friend is also having only a friendship and not in an affair, your work will get done easily. As your friend is a know person, you can seriously approach and ask him the fact whether they are in love. If yes, just greet them with best wishes, and not, tell the fact that you like her. If you can able to manage the situation in a matured way, this would be the right approach and if they don’t have an affair each other, tell the fact to the girl. If she is ok with it, go ahead and hope it will work out in this way. If everything goes well, I need chocolates. If not, just imagine that there are still beautiful girls around, you can find a better one. Always be positive and be happy. All is well. Regards, Thank-s
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@Ritmon (119)
18 Nov 10
after that day i was lost my all confidence,dreams,wishes etc..i shared this feeling one of my friend,then he told me that they are a couple,and love both each other...but till now i love her from heart..can i will be with her in future,if my love is true??
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@bunnybon7 (37905)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Nov 10
this is a sad situation and id say you are going to have to love her also as a friend and keep it in mind that she can only ever be a friend as your friend is. but perhaps some day they will split and then you can choose whether to act or not. by that time hopefully you will have met someone that captures your heart away from her
@Ritmon (119)
19 Nov 10
Now i am in a position from where i cant close with the girl to express my feelings..neither i can see my friend in sorrow nor want to see the girl in trouble...my feelings and emotions dumps me all the time ....what can i do in that situation???
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
I think you should stay away for the mean time and get back when you've already accepted that she can't be yours. Don't hurt a friend man, they're hard to find.
@Ritmon (119)
20 Nov 10
I also know a importance of friend...but in that case i can't see my friend unhappy and also can't see tears in girl's eye....what should i do in that situation????
• United States
18 Nov 10
As much as it hurts, if you value your friendship you really should keep the relationship with the girl friendly, only. You may feel that you love this girl, but at the moment, she is taken by another. It would be wrong and even a bit selfish to try and go after her, or do something that might break up your friend's relationship. If your friend really likes her, he should have the chance to be with her, because together they have committed to this relationship. However, if her feelings for you lead her in a different direction and she breaks up with your friend, it's different. You should still be a good friend and comfort him, but when the wounds of separation are no longer so fresh, it wouldn't be a bad idea to try and engage in a relationship with her. At the moment, however, it would not be a good choice to come between them. If you really love her, you will wait until she is not dating someone else. That would be the most respectable thing to do. It may hurt, yes, but it's better to suffer a little jealousy than to break up a relationship and suffer guilt and the pain of selfishly causing someone else heartbreak.
@Ritmon (119)
19 Nov 10
I dont know that what the girl think about me?? but i love her unconditional from maintain a distance...main problem of that how can i control my feelings,emotions which covered a huge place in my heart..now i am really alone......
@lynnymac (105)
• United States
18 Nov 10
try to remember that your friendship, a long standing friendship with this other man, is a very important relationship and don't let the young lady come between you. i think if you got to know her you might realise she is not the girl for you after all. i think you are lonely and are ready for a relationship. keep your mind and your heart open to other girls at other parties. shortly after i was married, many years ago, i met my husbands friend, who developed a crush on me. i introdused him to my best friend, they fell in love, and have been happily married for 30 years. there is someone out there for you. stay strong, be patient, she is just around the corner.
@Ritmon (119)
19 Nov 10
my friend is a good human being and also a good friend...but the feelings and emotions which grow inside my heart silently,how can i control it?? if a question will open about other girls, i have no interest on other girls,only want her in my life....i am lost without her.....
@hakuyo (201)
18 Nov 10
I think you should not interfere to their relationship because as you said she is your ffreind's girlfriend but if you think that their relationship is not serious then you might as well ask from your friend :) But as i said, i really do think that you should not interfere your friend's relationship. Do you really think that you have fallen in love with that girl or is just because jealousy? You might ask this qustion from you. Well, the decision is up to you whether you are going to be quiet and move on or cause troubles with your friend an break their relationship but it is really unlucky that you are in this situation! So good luck
@Ritmon (119)
19 Nov 10
I have no jealousy on my friend, i see her hapy at any cost...but the feelings which grow every moment in my heart how can i control it?? i dont want that my friend get hurt...only god can do something for me if my love is true....i love her from a true heart....
• India
18 Nov 10
falling in love is a natural feeling it happens all of sudden but if its our friends girl friend we should not continue it we should stop it immediately as we should respect our friendship we shouldn't cheat the trust that is laid on us always.
@Ritmon (119)
19 Nov 10
I think you are right, but after covering few months with her feelings how can i control my heart,feelings,expressions ??though i dont want that my friend get hurt at any reason...now i am in trouble.. please suggest me how can it solved...
18 Nov 10
Ya I agree on u but it seem that many things that could be consider before you get in love at the first meet.Cause you don't know her / him at all you 1st consider what kind person that if she/he is good or bad
@Ritmon (119)
19 Nov 10
You are right but i think anyone cant controll his heart when someone's face is capture his mind at first look,at that moment he neither want to know about her nor mind that who is she... do you know how can we control our self that time??
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
18 Nov 10
Be a friend to the girl. There's no law against that and in doing so, you'll form a friendship which is very important in beginning a relationship. Who knows, she may not be the type of person your mind is telling you she is. She may not be interested in your friend in that way but is merely just friends. Perhaps, she is interested in your friend, continue to be a friend to her and see how it develops and act accordingly. Always be a gentleman. Always be a gentleman.
@Ritmon (119)
18 Nov 10
how can i spend whole night in the balcony of my room,i cant tell in words...all of my confidence, leave me alone...can i get her in future if i am a true lover????
@fl0rencia (416)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
If that's the case, you better cut and remove all that feelings you're having for her. I know it's not easy to do, but you have to. Try to put your attention somewhere else or meet somebody else. It's also important to seek help with other friends so they could help you out. You have to let go because if you pursued this, you will surely lose a friend or lose them both.
@toniganzon (53565)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
That's the worst thing that could ever happen to you, falling in love with your friend's girl. It is very difficult to handle it but you have to accept that if she is your friend's girl she could never be yours unless she's interested in you. And if she is interested in you, would you risk losing your friend because of a girl that you're not even sure is the right one for you? If you can risk the friendship and if you think she's the right one for you, tell her how you feel. If you're strong enough to do that, then go for it. But if you don't have the courage to face the consequences of that action, I only got one thing to say and that is FORGET HER!