Homeless... suddenly

United States
November 18, 2010 1:07pm CST
I just got the word from my mom that I am out. My little sister convinced her to and I'm homeless now. I have no idea where to turn, I've been looking at apartments today, but they are so expensive. One told me I could look tomorrow morning but I have school so that doesn't work for me. What should I do? Where should I turn?
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• United States
18 Nov 10
get yourself to the homeless shelter and ask if you can apply for all the houseing couchers they have. You will get help with your rent when you move out. In ny they have programs where the state pays for your entire rent.
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• United States
19 Nov 10
We have programs like that here too, but when I called today they said it is a long waiting list. But maybe the shelter will have a loop hole to the front for me. I will check it out tomorrow.
• United States
19 Nov 10
I was homeless and got my housing voucher. Homeless gets first pick off the list because they need to have placement over people who have houseing.
• United States
19 Nov 10
That is good to know. I am at a motel 6 for tonight, everything happened so fast it seemed. I was looking for apartments, talking to my mom and at the last minute realized that I need to get a good nights sleep before midterms tomorrow. So, I chose a motel. I wonder if the shelter will let me keep my laptop? If not I do have a place I can keep it.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
18 Nov 10
go to a homeless shelter til you get back on your feet. you may have to take a bit of time off school to find a place to live though or maybe you could get your mom to reconsider.
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• United States
19 Nov 10
I'm so close to schools end. I don't want to take time off. But, I guess I may have too. I'm going to talk to the school social worker tomorrow if she is there.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Jul 11
cher the homeless shelters only take in so m any people at any time and only for one week so then where is dismal grin supposed to go or do? better to find family that will take you in permanently until you can figure out something else.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
Sometimes I feel lucky that here in my country, Philippines, we do not have culture like that from US. Sorry but of course being too close to family has also its cons... Talk to your mum. Tell her your situation and appeal to her to give you a considerable period of time to at least find a new place. I believe she will listen to you. Besides, she is still your Mum despite of the fact that she is letting you go on your own... Just do it and do not hesitate. Goodluck.:)
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• United States
19 Nov 10
Yes, my mom is very aware of my situation, but she is convinced that it is all in my head. She is convinced that she is doing the right thing.
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@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
How unfortunate. I save a lot from my salary because I live my mom though I pay all the food and bills. I just hope some friends can share a roof with you. Wish you all the best!
• United States
19 Nov 10
Thank you for the well wishes. I had to pay for the food in my mom's house while I was staying there and she wanted me to give her 400 dollars for rent. I laughed at her and told her that was a no go. Seriously, who pays 600 dollars (that's combined of food and rent) to sleep on a freaking couch in the main room of the house with no privacy whatsoever? I had my teenage siblings friends walking in on me and gauking and laughing at me for being fat when I was trying to get dressed. And my mom never would do anything about it she laughed at me too... it was horrible in and of it's self, but at least it was a roof over my head while I saved to get a car, saved to get it legal, saved to pay the insurance again... save to spend, save to spend when you get so little money that is the story. The end was in sight I only had a few more things to save for and then I could get out. But it didn't work like that. Now I'm trying to find that place to live.
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
I don't how parents like yours could care less about your welfare especially you're a girl. I am hoping that you'll get one the soonest and figure out a job that could give more than enough so you can also save for your emergency needs. I know you're a student which adds more pain into making a move. My prayers are with you.
• United States
19 Nov 10
Best thing, I think is go to government housing if that's available where you are. I don't know if you are in US.? Go to social services and share this situation with them. Tell your counselor at school. He/she may be able to help you out on this. I'm sure they could. I sure hope everything works for you. Oh yes. A very good place to go would be to a church and ask for help. I know there are cities here who provide free housing and rooms for a limited time. God Bless you. Hang in there
• United States
19 Nov 10
Yes I live in the US. I called the Housing Authority today and they said they were all full up for at least 3 months, but more likely it will be 3 years. I am going to check with the churches and homeless shelters tomorrow to see what is available to me until I can get together more money. I also have my car insurance due next month so a large portion of my money needs to go to that and I hope that I will be able to maybe file taxes based on my school attendance. If I'm lucky they may decide to give away that 2,000 dollars to everyone that attended school this past year again and then I could pay a couple months up front to an apartment until I can get a job and all that jazz. Straighten out my income a bit.
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• United States
19 Nov 10
You find out any government assistant that you can get. The churches should be able to help you with that. Get food stamps, help with electric and water. There are organizations that help with those, and there are also food pantries and clothing pantries. Ask the church to find those for you. You're in my prayers!
@buckiem (129)
23 Nov 10
I feel that you should go to your school social helper, I also feel your mother is not very good no mother should kick their children out, she gave birth to you and all her children none of you asked to be born and she should be looking after you in England social services would be called in and they would put the children in care if she was not prepared to look after them. It's wrong for a mother to act like that. I wish you all the luck in the world for a better future and keep doing your school work that is why I say go to your school for help.
• United States
12 Jul 11
That would be something I could have done if I was under the age of 18. But, since I'm a legal adult I can't. However, I could have sued her for not giving me a 30 day notice of eviction and she knows it.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
19 Nov 10
Wow, sorry that is rough. You could try staying with a relative. Maybe a friend or school acquaintance can help you out. I hope your mom will change her mind.
• United States
23 Nov 10
I'm staying at a motel while I wait the passing of the holidays. Then I'm going to check into a homeless shelter. Hopefully I can find one that specializes in dealing with disabled veterans and it won't be as bad as the regular city shelters.
@Yashasvi (229)
• Nepal
19 Nov 10
You should first know why your mom fired you from home.You should realise them and talk to her about it.She will definitely forgive you and allow you to enter home.
• United States
12 Jul 11
Well, her reasons were not really founded. She thought I was beating up my sister because that is what my sister told her and she refused to allow me back in the home. She threw away all my mail and every gift that I had ever gotten her over the years she had tossed. I have my own place now and I'm very careful that neither she nor my sister knows where I live because I don't feel safe around them anymore.
• India
19 Nov 10
hi dismalgrin, take room on rent from your own mother and tell them to treat you like other person. This way you and your mother live together again and it might be possible that the issue between you and your mother might be solve or your mother understand you and don't tell you to leave home again.
• United States
20 Nov 10
Hello Deewaker, my mom lives in a two bedroom apartment. My 15 year old sister has one room and my brother and other sister share the other. My mom and I were sleeping in the livingroom and yet my mom wanted to charge me 400 dollars rent... plus she wanted me to buy 200 dollars worth of groceries. She was resentful of me whenever I spent any money on myself. I would buy myself separate shampoo and she would yell at me for being compulsive with my spending! It's best this way, I just have to figure out what to do. I wish my mom could be a nicer person... but I know that she just won't.
• India
19 Nov 10
hey, i think you should talk to your mom once again. May be there is your fault and she got angry on it..but after all she is your mother. She couldnt do it and not only no parents can do this. Doesnt matter how much they are upset with you, but still she loves you.So, firstly you should go to her, calm her down and talk with her for taking such a rash decision, and ha , dont forget to say sorry to her, and say that you love her too much. She'll be convinced easily then. All the best !!!
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
19 Nov 10
HI, I am just wondering how can your family member is so cruel to you...make you to be homeless. Is it possible for you to have a good chat with your mother to let you stay till you can get your apartment. No matter what,she is your mother and don't tell me that she does not care of her own children at all. Then she is really a cruel mother if she refused to let you stay in.
• United States
19 Nov 10
In large part it is my sister who has been lying to my mom about me. It's so much stuff built up before I got wind of it that it now means my mom is grasping at straws to prove that I'm a bad person. It's really bad when your mom tells you she doesn't like you because your fat. And yet my mom told me this yesterday.
@trisha27 (3498)
• United States
19 Nov 10
I think that it would just be best to ask your mother, if she could give you some time to go out and look for a place to stay. Let her know that you would need to look into some apartments and stuff and also give her like a time frame. Such as give you a month and not just kick you out right away. Let her know that you are in school and that it is very hard to just go out at any time, just to find a new place to stay. Maybe you should ask her why you are being thrown out if she hadn't explained that yet. Hopefully she can work something out with you and let you at least stay until you find another place. I think she would feel very guilty if she just threw you out on the street right away and you have no place to stay. Good luck in finding a solution to this problem.
• United States
19 Nov 10
I know why I was thrown out. And even if I went back it would just happen again in a week or so. That's the kind of people my sister and my mom are. They look for stuff to set a trap under you and when you get mad act like you are some sort of dangerous person and feel self righteous about it.
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
I pray to God that your mom would change her mind, that she may just be waiting for you to talk to her and settle your differences if there's any. At this time say sorry to your mom even if you think you don't have to, I am a mother and I believe children has special place in their mom's heart. Just try going home and tell her you don't have a place to go and you're sorry. Hope everything will be okey for you.
@hushi22 (4940)
19 Nov 10
what about any friend? for sure your schoolmates and/or friends will help you.
• United States
19 Nov 10
Yes I had hoped that maybe my boyfriend's mom would recognize the seriousness of my situation (I really don't have any other friends) and allow me to stay with them until I get back on my feet. He doesn't make much money himself and has to pool his money with his mom and uncle so they can all live together. She didn't though. She is very old school in her belief that a couple shouldn't live together until marriage. Grrr. Maybe she will let me stay for the weekend at least. That's not living together, that's spending the night! Lol
• Canada
18 Nov 10
I faced a similar situation when I was 18. I wound up leaving home rather than being kicked out, but I had no place to go. I wound up in a shelter, and moved on with my life as best as I could. While I got little help from the shelter I was at, it was an emergency shelter, good for only 3 weeks until I could move on to another shelter. Your situation is a little different though, and if you can, ask your mother to let you stay until you find a place to live. You will obviously need to get a job to be able to pay the rent, but hopefully you can. If not, you should be able to get some sort of welfare, it may not be enough to get a really nice place, but it will help some, just until you can get a job.
• United States
19 Nov 10
I am on a sort of welfare. Disability I developed Borderline Personality Disorder after I got out of the Air Force. It started out while I was in there as Major Depressive Disorder and just got worse over the years since I got out. That is another thing that my mom and I don't see eye to eye on. While I'm trying to rehabilitate myself I recognize my limitations. I also recognize that I lost my disability during my move home and have been without medication for a year. It makes it even harder to try to hold down a job. And boy have I tried. Last year I had a job for less than one day... a few weeks ago I had a job for 2 days. I need my medication which the insurance will not go into effect until December 1st. I can work for 9 months and still receive my check during that time, and I'm going to try that if I can get a job. I hope so. My training is as a medical biller and coder which is a career I chose because it is possible to work it from home, I do a lot better in that type of situation and it makes it possible that may kiss disability goodbye forever if I get that type of work.
18 Nov 10
what a terrible situation! if you lived near me i would put you up for the sake of your schooling! please contact a friend or relative. you need a roof over your head a food to keep you warm. best of luck sweetheart. if you are in England let me know.
• United States
19 Nov 10
Lol, thank you Janus... it sounds like you have a better life over in England. I've thought about moving to England or France. Our healthcare is so bad over here.
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