What Would Make Me Delete Friends

@toniganzon (49185)
Philippines
November 21, 2010 5:53am CST
I'm considering of deleting some of my friends here in mylot. I'm sorry if this sounds cruel but I just think that some friends are just flooding my inbox and I'm not liking it. Now here are the following reasons I have in mind for deleting you in my friend's list: 1. Uninteresting discussions just like poll questions which is kind of against the rules here. 2. A yes or no question or any questions that the person wrote just to make money here without any effort at all, this one really ticks me off. 3. Repetitive discussions that was asked a zillion times (this is an exaggeration). 4. A one liner discussion that doesn't even convey any message at all. How can you post such things like this? How do you expect me to respond to something I can't understand? 5. Lastly, discussions posted that are candidates for deletion by mylot moderators, if you know what I mean. From today, I'll take time in reading emails I receive from mylot for discussions started by my friends. Sorry again, but I'm free to make this decision.
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@kevin1877uk (36975)
7 May 16
I've never deleted anyone, never will.
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@toniganzon (49185)
• Philippines
8 May 16
I just went through the people I was following yesterday and saw old names that are no longer here anymore. So I started deleting a couple yesterday and might continue deleting some of them again today.
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@kevin1877uk (36975)
8 May 16
@toniganzon With going through your posts today, I saw many people I've never seen before.
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@toniganzon (49185)
• Philippines
8 May 16
@kevin1877uk Yes and mylot was a lot of fun back then hahahah. Thanks for going over through my old posts. It made me realise how much i have matured.
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@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
21 Nov 10
What is a friend? Do you just delete th,m because they make those type of discussions or, if they are a friend, do you advise them about what they are doing wrong and help them to do things correctly? Of course, you are free to make the decision
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@toniganzon (49185)
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
Don't misunderstood me here, I'm referring to mylot friends who are mostly strangers to me and I don't personally know them. I want friends here who can share knowledge and wisdom to me and not just friends who add me up for the sake of adding me up!
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@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
21 Nov 10
I did not misunderstand. Maybe because I am not a youngster I am aware of the new definition of 'friend'. Personally when I have users on my friend list who are participating in the way that you describe, I send them a PM with advice. It is then up to them what they do. If they continue to do their own thing then it is unlikely that they will ever be a friend as I intend it.
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@Freezole (246)
• Malaysia
21 Nov 10
I don't mind as long you feel okay with that. Hopefully you can consider it deeply. Have a nice days and happy mylotting. Cheers!!
@thesids (22359)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Nov 10
Hi Toni, Yes, I think you are a free bird to take your own decisions. And at times it does become necessary to remove the people from your friends list (you have quoted your reasons) and they are well thought about. I think it is always better to have lesser and fewer people around who really matter. Good Luck, theSids.
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@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
Yup, we certainly have the freedom to make that kind of decision. As for me, I have never deleted any friend here in Mylot. I like to give some people the benefit of the doubt. Maybe some are too busy to post or have not familiarized themselves with the rules yet, hence the violations. Maybe time would come that could keep up. However, I have refused friend requests because I could not see their points going up after a day or two. Meaning, they have registered in Mylot and have forgotten about it. No participation, in other words. Cheers!
@jennbart (1333)
• Philippines
22 Nov 10
Maybe I will be deleting some friends if: A)The person just agrees and agrees like posting (+1). It does not make any sense just posting (+1).I need contribution to the discussion I made. B)The person just lashes out on my discussion attacking me and not really understanding the content of my discussion or not really getting what I mean, yet the person posts like they know it, and still has the gall and the nerve to lash out on me specially on my discussion that I started. C)The person calls me names..( you are so dumb, stup!d) I will not tolerate it. As you said the friends that we have here are still strangers. So, why on earth will they call me that,right? they just do not have any right calling me as such, just because what we think are different from each other, does not mean I am dumb. D) The person's posting does not have any sense at all. Gives me one liner post, and that one liner is nowhere in my discussion.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
22 Nov 10
Those sound like valid reasons to me. I can see how your email can get overloaded because of this. But did you know there's a 'notify me' box you can check for the friends you want notifications from. It's in the friends list under the friend's names.
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
Well, we knows whats best for us right? We all have our own decision to make and we do it not for others but for us, specially on what we think is best for us. After all almost all of your friends (i guess) here in myLot is a stranger to you. We all came from nowhere then we became friends. In reality, we can't be friend with someone that fast. Right? Sometimes it takes a lot of time, of course we all have one reason why. Because we want to know if he's ok and always making sure we're not making mistake i taking this action. So what more in this website, you don't even know these guys you're sharing thoughts with. So it's you're rights to decide for yourself, for what you think is good for you.
• United States
21 Nov 10
i think that you should delete the friends you dont talk to like the ones who dont support you
@Jamie322 (12)
• United States
21 Nov 10
As someone who just joined MyLot yesterday, I hope it's okay for me to chime in here. I've noticed a few people talking about how they've made true friends on here over the years. Personally, that's exactly what I'm hoping for. I don't really know anyone on here yet, but I'd like to end up with at least a handful of people I care about. I've made wonderful friends with people on other sites (but have since lost touch with all but one of them). We shared a lot during that time together and had a lot of laughs. Having friends like that on here would make coming here much more enjoyable, to say the least. That being said, I certainly can't blame you if you don't want to deal with people who only care about making money with random posts that don't mean anything. I'm probably going to be pretty selective with the people I want as friends on here myself.
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
21 Nov 10
As you said on the last part of your post, you are free to make this decision. The points you have mentioned are all good reasons for you to delete them from your list of friends. In my case, I don't really delete friends that I have added or might have added me. I have a lot of them already but, I don't get to interact with all of them. Most of them aren't active anymore while others continue to participate in myLot. Some of them behave the way you stated which is something we can't avoid most of the time in any similar site. Anyway, I just delete the notifications I get through my email about discussions they have posted that doesn't interest me. For those that do, and in case I have something in mind about their topic, I'd respond right away. Sometimes, there would be discussions that are interesting but, I still have to collect my thoughts about it or I am busy with something else.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
21 Nov 10
Hello friend, i never delete my friends, but i got something else, i never check my mails with what discussions they post. I remember avatars and this is how i remind myself who put quality discussions and who doesn't. The mail i made my registration in Mylot with, is one unused mail, i got no other mails there, which are important for me. This is why i don't check that mail often and i don't know what discussions my friends post. But on the other hand, i would never delete a friend, because of posting discussions, because that way i will denny their chance to know what kind of discussions i post. I mean may be for some of my friends, my own discussions are good way to earn some money, why i have to bereave them of earnings? Last time a lot of people, who made their registration soon add me for friend. I can understand that, because they are looking for their way to earn and it's normal. I don't mind this people to be my friends, i'll always let them learn and answer me. But actually i can understand your point of view, because it looks like you take Mylot really serious and you don't want to waste your time, which is normal. I can say that there are a lot of people here with different interests. Sometimes i got nothing to answer and i just don't answer. Sometimes i want to have easy time in Mylot, that's when i answer to people, who just put their discussions and don't have answers. I think that new members of Mylot need help. Sometimes they don't know what to write, sometimes other members don't take them serious, because they are still new and they are looking for way to earn, this is when i can help a little. I don't pretend to be a person with large experience here, but i can say that i got really good time. And write, when i have something to say. None of my discussions are here, because i want earn. Everything, i put here, is because i want to ask for tip, opinion, point of view and so on. Have a great time, friend!