Do you have that feeling sometimes, that you have NO life?

@Suggar (3612)
Bulgaria
November 23, 2010 3:45am CST
Hello friends, lately i'm staying long time in facebook and i'm watching the pictures of my friends there - friends i know personally. This are friends from school, friends from places i've worked before, friends, who i met soon. And when i watch all of their pics i feel little sad. I'm happy that they go on different places, share different pics with them, their family. I'm happy that they make trips and can see so many things, some of them may be i'll never see. They just look like they don't stay on one place and really enjoy life much more. At the same time i got only few pics in facebook. I love making pics of myself and the people i love, i have camera, but we never use it, because we don't go out so often. We never make trips for fun, only if it's needed something to be done, somewhere else and when we start the trip, we are not alone. We always run after schedule of someone else and we can't enjoy so much our driving. This is when i ask myself, before the winter comes, do i have life at all? Now i'm 25 and i need to see so many places, i need to have fun, i don't want to live in a cave, but always there is something which says "no, you can't do it". It will be usually money or the kidney pains of my boyfriend, or that we don't have car and so on. Now i feel like my life has stopped or is paused. So annoying. Have experienced the same? How do you feel living in cave?
7 responses
@chaselee (240)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
Sometimes I feel that way too. I like going on nature trips rather than going to malls. Before I can do it whenever I feel like it. But now just like you I can no longer do it because of my boyfriend. He doesn't like going out much and He'd rather stay at home. If he doesn't want to go on trips then I can't go. Sometimes I wish that we can do it once in a while but so far that never happened and its very frustrating. I know this sounds like its so petty but not being able to do what I love the most makes me lonely. Seeing my friends being able to do what they love makes me feel pity for myself because while they're having the time of their life I'm being miserable at home. That's why sometimes I don't look at my friends pictures to prevent myself from being depressed.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
23 Nov 10
Before i didn't like watching pics at all, but i can see some change now and may be it's because i'm hungry for adventures and some fun. My boyfriend likes walking out, but he is always in pain, because one sickness and this is why we can't go anywhere. He had a month without pains, and we had really good time together, but one month in one year is not enough. I don't blame him, but still ... you know.
@chaselee (240)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
I also love adventures but hes not so there's nothing much I can do about it. He always have negative comments on where I wanted to go. You're still lucky that you can still have a month of fun each year. In my case for four years that we've been together the only time that we had fun was when his mother brought us to their province for a week. Its not even an all out fun because we had other people with us so we can't just do whatever we want.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
23 Nov 10
Why don't you talk with him, that you are still a part of this relationship and he has to respect your wishes sometimes?
@Xansus (950)
• Bulgaria
23 Nov 10
Well maybe its little to early for me but i really watch the pictures of my scholl friends all over the country haveing fun , and i do nothing (well i have my own financial problems) and i want to have girlfriend and go around at some nice places in the mountain , in the to call it Rose Land , and other places too .
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
23 Nov 10
I just want to ask, is there someone, who doesn't have financial problems in the world
@Xansus (950)
• Bulgaria
23 Nov 10
Trust me its hard enough getting money for bread . Its good we have a couple of animals so we get some animal product , but finding job here and now is lower then 1% . Working here and there just to make a living for the next week/day . Our country don't provide us with anything if we don't have jobs .
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
23 Nov 10
Lol, friend, you are from Bulgaria? I know what you mean then. Just checked your profile
@shibham (17025)
• India
24 Nov 10
Hi friend... At first i am so sorry to hear that your boy friend has kidney pain. I wish his quick recovery. Next to your discussion, I don't feel same as you. I am a guy who better like stay in home and prefer a lonely life. I don't know why i am? But never wish to stay in crowd. I travel a lot due to my study and drama, but i don't think that i totally enjoy the tour. Sorry to say but it's truth. Have a nice day and take care.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
24 Nov 10
Thank you Shibham for your response. I was that way before, liked to stay at home with myself only or with the TV or doing something also. But now i don't like it so much. I don't know why, may be because everything what happens with me, happens at home. Cooking, cleaning, working, everything is at home. If i meet someone, it will be because i got guests, not because i go outside. It's kind of boring, if everything is connected with your home. And here i don't have even a TV to see what happens out of my home, so it's really annoying.
@shibham (17025)
• India
24 Nov 10
Actually i am a study oriented person and that's why i like to stay alone. I have my tv and music system too.... without it hard to enjoy a lonely life as well. I understand your condition.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
25 Nov 10
You shouldn't feel like that. You shouldn't let another man-made tool (Facebook) contribute to your feeling of self doubt. I know it is great that some other people are having fun. And that they even have time to post it online. But some of them are just that! Just pictures. Sometimes it doesn't really mean that they are having more fun than you. And I'm sure that whenever you get to go somewhere, or do anything, and you take a lot of pictures, you will know what it feels to be on the other side. Take it easy on yourself.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
25 Nov 10
I don't need big trips, don't need so new places, i don't need so much difference, just little changes with simple things. And i'll do it before i get envious. I'm not that kind of person, usually i keep my positive thinking whatever happens, but if that isolation in my life continue too long, who knows what can be the result at the end? Even i don't know, so i have to save myself of feeling bad feelings for nothing.
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
Before? Yes. Because my ex and I's life revolved only on each other. Nothing fascinating that made everything else monotonous. Then I met my bf who has several activities on his hands because he belonged to a group. As I joined, I was able to enjoy life more as we travel from different islands and provinces. I feel for you when you see old pictures and how you wish things can be the same then. It worsens when you look on their new pictures from Facebook updated almost every month. You could see their smiles and it's so frustrating when you're just there sitting back with your laptop while browsing happy moments of their lives. BTW, my bf and I don't get to take pictures that often. Mostly, we just keep it on our heads. But I will try to buy a new camera because I lost one because our house has been flooded last year. I just love my life now. I maybe very lonely every office hours because I have no friends here to eat and chat with but after that, my life is back.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
24 Nov 10
Yes, it's the same situation with me. People, who i know from real life, go on different places, make photos, if they are smiling all the time, that doesn't make me mad, i just wonder - why i can't afford going somewhere. There is no need to be trip or something special, just going out with friends is something good too.
@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
Exactly the reason why I don't open my facebook anymore. Yes, I'm going through the same thing with you and I'm already 32. The last trip I had was on a very beautiful island with my family and my in-laws. It was fun but it was too short. I wish to travel more but my schedule wouldn't allow me to. I always work even on the weekends and weekends are my busiest. That's why I got hooked to talking to people online because I feel like I don't have a life, doing the same routine everyday of my life.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
24 Nov 10
I stopped opening facebook so much, nothing interesting there.
@lady1993 (20066)
• Philippines
23 Nov 10
I feel the same way too. It's all because of facebook.. My friends always update it and have many pictures almost everyday. They have done lots of things that I haven't yet. It kind of makes me sad too and makes me think that I have "no life". But there are also some days that I think i have a life... Whenever i hang out with my family or friends- although it's not posted in fb, it will always be in my heart.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
23 Nov 10
I don't know if it's because of facebook, but i can see my school mates ... their pics from Greece, England, Spain and everywhere and i say myself ... So great that they were there, but where am i at the moment? I'm locked in my own daily stupid plans... And it's from one year now. So from this one year i have no pics. One day when i got family, kids and i'll miss these days, what will i look at? What will remind me about this days?