are you willing to sacrifice your love for frienship?

Philippines
November 25, 2010 12:07am CST
i have watched a movie wherein two guys who are bestfriends, unknowingly fell in love with the same girl. The girl, shares a unique relationship with one, they're soulmates, kindred spirits and feel totally relaxed and comfortable with him around while she truly love the other guy, in the real sense of the word love. The guys had been buddies ever since kindergarten and now they're torn between their loves for the girl and their friendship. When something came up where the girl would surely get hurt if she were to continue with her relationship with her love, the guy decided that he would rather let her go to his bestfriend than to anyone else. And the bestfriend in turn, who had been holding back his feelings for the girl, with due respect to his friend, willingly agreed to take the stead of his bestfriend. at that time, the girl is torn between two loves, in varying degrees. If you were one of the guys, are you willing to sacrifice your real love, for friendship? or friendship for your love? i would love to hear your opinion on this. I myself is dubious about my own decision should i ever be in this kind of situation. Friendship is very important to me, as well as my true love. To sacrifice one for another would be the most difficult decision i would ever make in my life. How about you? what would you choose?
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@clarkent (18)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
being in this situation is indeed, harder than we could ever imagine. and as hard as it looks, this question/topic is so overly discussed but still, we can't find the right answer. or is there really a right decision for this situation? letting go of someone you love the most is hard. but it could be right if you're letting go for the sake of your friend's happiness. of course, you wouldnt want to ruin your friendship more than anything else. but what if in the process of giving up for the sake of your friend, you saved your friendship but not yourself? how is this gonna go? are you willing to see your bestfriend in a relationship with the girl you love? isnt giving the girl you love to your bestfriend means also the end of your friendship? you wouldnt bear see them together. it would hurt so much that you will decide to just move on by yourself and leave them alone, not see them. everybody says it's easier to move on if you're not seeing the person otherwise you'll just be hurt over and over. and when you leave them, go to a different place, you will lose not only the girl you love but also you're most treasured best friend. Is that fair? and would they be happy about it? on the other hand, if you give up your friendship and go for the girl, you will hurt your bestfriend. but he can move on right? he can go away. and you and the girl will be happy. it's not always selfish to fight for what you want. In this case, the decision is still in the girl's hands right? giving up doesnt mean your weak, it only means you're strong enought o let go.
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
hello clarkent! i sure love the way you presented your comment. I agree with you that sometimes it's not selfish to fight for what we want. Either way, we will lose something and it's just how we accept things as they are. On the other hand, being away from a friend does not mean that you lose the friendship. Genuine friendship goes beyond distance and time. But as you have put it, it's in the girl's hand to make the decision. If its real friendship you share with your friend, whatever will happen, you would not let it ruin a most treasured friendship. sometimes too, we just have to know what's to prioritize.
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• India
25 Nov 10
I would have sacrificed my love in this situation. I would say it is my weakness rather love. Because she does not love me. So i have to make myself realized that I have a very good friendship with her not a love affair. I should not play with her emotion and as a good friend I should not put her in a confusion situation to think about her life partner. They are loving each other. Why shall I be a barrier between them. In this situation, I am not sacrificing for my friendship rather for myself. Because If i will be crazy about her, then I will not be happy in my life and of course I will miss two friends.
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
hello prasantbhu! i admire your courage for choosing friendship over love. These two are most sought after in this world and very hard to find too, the genuine ones at least. Yes, by sacrificing your love for giving up for the happiness of your friend, you are indeed making a sacrifice. Well, only a few people could ever have the courage to do that, being selfish as human beings are. Friends would love to have you around i think, lol. thanks for sharing.
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@hanni711 (243)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
It's really hard to decide but if the feeling is mutual maybe i should take into consideration of not giving up on love. I will talk to my friend about it and still keep the friendship.
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@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
26 Nov 10
yes i will if it is for my best friend... i value friendship more than relationship as i think true friendship will last forever while relationship might not... also, i can always look for another man in my life... but it is very hard to find true friendship in this life... luckily, i never have to encounter this situation though... take care and have a nice day...
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
That's a very difficult situation. I wouldn't want to loose my bestfriend but it would also be very hard to give up my love on someone. If I'd be in that situation, I'd go crazy for sure. Your bestfriend is someone you know you are sure to be always with you in the end. But the lover is someone you would be risking your heart into even if it is not surely the person you are going to marry in the future. I'd say I will sacrifice my feelings for my love one rather than sacrificing my friendship. I don't want to loose something I know I can keep for eternity for something that just might fade away in time.
@Jiabsa (512)
• India
25 Nov 10
I watched lots of movie like these. I don't think that like these stories would occur in real life. If like an incident happens in one's life, really it is bitter! Sacrificing love affair for one's friend is unbearable. But.once we understood that the girl whom we love have another love affair, why do we want to waste our time by thinking of that girl? Search and find out another girl. There is chance to get a better girl than the former one.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
25 Nov 10
I don't understand why a girl would like one guy and love the other one~? Such a girl is not going to my princess. My friend will be my friend, and her girlfriend will be my friend too. Although i would tell my best pal to be be careful about she cheating on him with someone else, coz you never know why a girl would like two guys at the same time.
@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
i guess mine was not really love, more like a crush thingy. i have this friend who lives with me in a same building. we're close friends, we hang out most of the time after school before.. then there's this guy i sort of admire and i told her about it. then next thing i know they're goin out. the girl got shy or hesitant in telling me about it because she knows that he's my crush but i laugh about it. we remain friends of course..
25 Nov 10
it's hard t0 decide..but i would choose my friend rather than my love..because the friend is always be your friend but the you love now is not yours tomorrow or the next day..