if your lover had a decease that made him not work would you work alone?^^

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Portugal
November 25, 2010 12:46pm CST
hi guys imagine that your lover had a decease that made him not work. would you work alone? about me yes i wouldnt mind to work alone bcs how could i make him work if he couldnt? i wouldnt want to make him feel bad and i would work for the both of us. what about you guys? what would you do? would you work alone or would leave him or what would you do? please share Cat
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@Xansus (950)
• Bulgaria
25 Nov 10
Well i'll work as long as i can ;) I dont feel like my lover to work for me , i dont want to become parasite :(( It will not cool ;( Lets hope thigs like that never happen , i will never stop my lover if she want to work , but lets hope i can make enough anyway :)
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• Portugal
25 Nov 10
i dont mean you become a parasite. i mean if your lover have a sickness that makes him stay at home if you would work for the both of you. sure if you were sick and couldnt work your lover would have to work alone right?^^ is sweet that you will try to earn enough for the both of you but is cool if your lover can work too so both can save more money for your future together^^
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@Xansus (950)
• Bulgaria
25 Nov 10
Well i just say if i'm the one with the decease :( (knocking on wood) And ye the more money - the better i gues ;P
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• Portugal
25 Nov 10
you are so silly ahah if you had a decease you would work? are you out of your mind? you really are very crazy ahah you shouldnt really do that. if you were sick what i wish that doesnt happen you should stop working^^ anyway for now do you work or are you studying?^^ anyway if you work here in mylot it helps a bit ahah
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@thanks1961 (7046)
• India
25 Nov 10
HI, Working both at home means double the income at home. If both are able to work and situation is positive, go for it. When you feel that you earned enough and having adequate money in possession, and feel one persons income is sufficient to live, then you can think of a break, otherwise, get into work and make the life more better. THis is what I do if it is my choice. Thank-s
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• Portugal
25 Nov 10
yes but i mean if your lover had a decease and couldnt work. if you would work for you and for her. sure if both are healthy and ok both should work but i mean if one of them have a decease and cant work thats what i meant. anyway sure you are right that if both are healthy both should work bcs that can bring more money at home. but if one is sick doesnt make sense that has to work even is sick.
• India
26 Nov 10
Hi, Yes, I left the point. Yes, it is understood that we need to do work and not only just work, hard work we need to do. In such case we have the double responsibility like ourself and keep the other one also happy and maintain all at our best. I hope it is the way we need to go forward. Thank-s
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• Portugal
26 Nov 10
yes im happy that you would work for both^^ thats good that you would work in making her happy^^ im happy that you are a sweet guy that would care for your gf that couldnt work. im happy that you work much and are a responsible guy^^ im happy that you work much and are responsible. but soon you will retire right? or you will work many years yet?
@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Love is pure, love is kind, love is not selfish at all. I don't mind working and providing for my family if my husband is enable to do so. In fact it is happening to me now because he's still studying. I don't mind paying for the bills, etc. I've been doing this for a long time and didn't care at all. We are planning to move to another country when he graduates in 2011 and we only had a few months left. We are happy and we don't blame each other for our incapacities.
• Portugal
26 Nov 10
thats very cute that you are paying for the bills alone bcs he is still studying^^ thats all ok bcs you know that he loves you and he is studying so then he can find a job too and help you too^^ im happy that you will go live to other country maybe one where you can have better oportunities to have a better life right?^^ what country are you thinking of?^^ im very happy for you really
• China
26 Nov 10
If my lover has a disease, I will work alone and support him. And I hope if the disease is on me, he will make the same choice. This will be a true love.
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• Portugal
26 Nov 10
yes sure im very happy that you will support him and work for the both of you^^ and sure im sure that he would do the same for you^^ but lets wish that nothing bad ever happen^^ anyway im sure that that is a true love for sure^^ that you care for your love and work alone for the both of you to be happy. besides i guess that if we are working to make him happy we can do that^^
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Disease you mean? ;) If ever my lover had to be that unfortunate to have a disease, I would work on my own. But you see, even if he has a disease, there are many ways that he could be helpful. Like doing some online jobs.
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• Portugal
26 Nov 10
yes im happy that you would work on your own to help him^^ thats very sweet of you^^ yes you are right there are some online jobs that he could do to help you sure like work here^^ anyway nothing will happen to him but im very happy that if it did you would work for the both of you to survive. thats very brave of you really^^ i like the way you are^^
• Mexico
25 Nov 10
Hi sweet love forever: I think it's a very difficult situation but at the same time I know that we have to face it and leave my lover alone is not an option. If she is not working it's simply because she can't so I can't judge her because of that and finally love can help us to go on after situations like these. Thanks for starting this very interesting discussion. Have a nice day. ALVARO
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• Portugal
25 Nov 10
im happy that you would help your gf to surpass this^^ and that you would work for both. you are a sweet guy and very understanding^^ about me i agree with you i dont think that sick people should work at all. i guess that just healthy people should work bcs they dont have any prob. even healthy would be cool if we wouldnt have to work to survive and just live happy always.
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@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
Did you mean "decide", friend? Because if we say decease it prefer to stop breath. Much better we can say "stop" not "decease" it is your means... Well, if she/he decide to stop working. I have nothing to do but encourage her to find a good jobs which is make her comfortable enough. But is she still decide not to work. I will accept the responsibility of working alone because it's not bad in my part...I'm a man and this is a duty of a man to work for the family
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• Portugal
27 Nov 10
i meant if has a dicease sorry i wrote wrong^^ i meant if your gf was sick and couldnt work if you would go and work alone. not that she would refuse to work. i understand that you are a guy and you want to support your family but is ok that we girls also help guys to support a family. is not only the guy's duty but the girl's too^^
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
I see. I though it as "decide" because "decease" as far as I know means of die or stop breathing. Yup! It's not only an obligation of a guy. Because all of have equal opportunity in life. That is a good idea because it will embolden the relationship between both partner...
• Portugal
28 Nov 10
yes sorry it was my mistake^^ i wrote the word wrong. anyway im happy that you say that is good for a girl and for a guy that both work to help family^^ i also agree with that. that way if both contribute is much better. also will be less arguements if is both working than if is only one. unless one of them is so rich that the other doesnt need to work at all ahah^^
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
I will surely work double time to be able to support him with his needs especially with his medications and therapies. I will not leave him of course, love for me can do everything just to make the one she loves live long.
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• Portugal
27 Nov 10
im very happy that you would help him and would work double just for him and his needs^^ you are very sweet and i really wish that you can be happy^^ you deserve that bcs you love your bf really. i would like to be friends with you in reality really gaiza you really seem a good person^^ so im happy that we are friends here and that you always answer my discussions and always answer in sweet ways^^
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
Now im so overwhelmed and flattered by what you said. You deserve to be answered in a nice and sweet way, that's what i always thing when responding to your discussions. Because i really can see that you too are a nice person and that you can be a true friend somehow. With the video you made for your sick friend and the hardships you have done to help your mom, i believe you are a nice person too. Hope we could really be friends in real life. I always tell my bf about you and how sweet you truly are.
• India
27 Nov 10
well I would never allow my girlfriend to work because if she starts working then who will spend the money I have earned and if she would have been working I would have told her to leave the job if she cannot manage it but ya if she wants to then I can't force her but I would surely take care of her.....
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• Portugal
27 Nov 10
i see you prefer to work alone and that your gf doesnt work^^ but sure if she wants to you will let her^^ im happy that you respect your gf^^ you know that we girls like guys that respect us ^^ is good to know that you want to take care of her and that you wouldnt mind that she used your money to buy things for her^^ you are a very sweet guy
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Yes i will work for him why not because it is for us. And i know that he was in not good condition and he need my help. Everything for him i'll do lot for him that is how i gonna express myself. If i feel i really love a man then it will be forever but if i feel i hate him then it will be forever too. I am good to be true to love but bad when it comes to hate...
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• Portugal
26 Nov 10
im happy that you would do everything for him and would help him^^ im very happy that you would do all you could to show him your feelings^^ i can see that you are a good person that when love a guy love him really and would do everything to make him happy^^ thats great of you really. im happy for your sweet answer. about hate dont hate no one^^
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Yes, I will. If I love him that much, I guess I would want to continue living with him especially if I am married to him. Speaking of relationship, it requires you to be a helping hand and no matter what happens, you must not neglect him because you have to work for him. It would test how much you care and love your partner after all!
• Portugal
26 Nov 10
yes i agree with you^^ im very happy that you would do that for him. and you are right that would test how much you love him^^ and im happy that you would do that for your bf im sure that he would also act the same way bcs he also likes you for sure^^ and sure it would be a test that you would pass. i see that you really love your bf^^
@switlyf (650)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
its ok for me to be the bread winner for the right reasons. if the situation is like that, working alone wont matter. happy mylotting!
• Portugal
26 Nov 10
yes i understand^^ sure if your gf was sick is normal that you would work alone to help her^^ thats very sweet of you to do that for her. i guess that everyone should act the same way bcs we all have problems and would like to be helped right? ^^ you are a sweet guy helping your gf if she ever got sick^^ i admire you and thanks so much for your sweet answer ^^
@pupupd (1521)
• India
18 Mar 11
Of course, I will work alone. I am already working and I don't mind working my entire life until retirement. In fact, I want to work for my entire life as I want to keep myself busy in something.Even if my partner is working, I will be going to work and take it very seriously. Nowadays girls are very career oriented, they all want to work, earn their own money and be independent. So why not me??
@vicereine (458)
• United States
28 Nov 10
Of course I would I mean if he loved you he would do the same. I always believe to treat people as you would want to be treated and I would want someone to do it for me. Especially since he got sick I would not be upset with him and would do my best to take care of both of us while he is not well.