Should i really care?

We should care even if others don't. Those who care are better people and happier people. Anyways, I want to continue to become a more caring person. I think there is a great future for people who care.

Once a group of kids got together to play baseball. They chose up sides and flipped a coin to see who would be up to bat first. The team that lost the coin toss went to their assigned positions out in the field and waited for the ball to be tossed to the first batter. The pitcher refused to toss the ball. The team chose a new pitcher and he, too, refused to throw the ball and so it went until every member of the team had been named pitcher and each of them refused to throw the ball. Since the team wouldn't play, the game was called off and no one got to play. All of the kids were in rotten moods the rest of the day and many friendships were broken. That's how it is in our everyday lives. If somebody isn't the first to throw good feelings out to the other people around them, the game will be called off and only bad feelings will survive. I prefer to be the first to toss out a smile, a helping hand, or a hug to those who need it. Because, I want a world of dear, smiling faces, not frowns of those who refuse to play the game of life.

Hi sap, I don't care for people who don't care about me but personally I am a caring person. Because of this caring attitude in me I've sacrificed much of my life in caring for not only humans but for animals too. I should be happily travelling around the globe if I have not adopted two children who are in their early teens now, caring for 5 dogs and 2 cats. Sometimes I wish I am a different person who don't care about anything at all but I am destined to be who I am.

Saphrina- You're very right, most people simply do not care about anything unless it directly benefits their own life. And a great many who fall into this category will be the first to say that they care about others when questioned. The thing about caring is that with caring comes extreme vulnerability and risk. A lot of people simply are not willing to take this risk. In some cases people can care too much that they risk their own health and well being because they are always taking on another responsibility. In our life we need to find the balance. We need to have our needs met. We need to meet the needs of others, and we need to know when to say no and when to say yes. I wish you all the best. Namaste-Anora

Should you care???? If not you then who???? We all have a choice of how we are going to define ourselves. One can choose to be selfish or selfless. You justify not caring because no one cares for you. Don't you understand?? THat's not how the system works. Everything you do in life will come back to you in time. It might not always be in this lifetime but it will return. People who scratch and claw to get in life almost always find themselves empty. Do you think the givers feel this way??? I will always choose to give, to be selfless, to give my love and kindness UNCONDITIONALLY. I WILL ALWAYS CARE!! If not each of us then WHO????? You know it's funny. The more love and kindness I give unconditionally; the more other great souls are drawn toward me. There are lots and lots of people in this world who do care. You can't let the darkness win. It's lots more fun in the light!! I can see that is where you really belong. Take a day off, rest and think about it.

Caring comes in many ways I think. What matters is how "well" did you care because caring could be even done even when you're angry or not in the mood. It should come from within.

Looks like something or someone has been troubling you. And hence the feeling that you are having right now. It is normal to feel this way. Cheer up, there's a lot more ahead of you. And if it helps you to feel better, think of the people worse off than you. This normally helps me.

As a Zen practitioner, I recognize that I create the way I perceive others. So if I perceive them as uncaring, I am feeling uncaring myself. If I perceive them as caring, then I create a caring world. Other's just reflect back to me the way I am myself. I am not meaning this in a negative way, because if we have a "light" self, then we must have an opposite in the "dark" self. If I can accept others and allow them to be how they are, then because I give that space, life will move on and we will grow in strength. _Derek

saphrina hi yourself I care, I care about you and all mylot friends.' You sound so down and there is lots of use to c are,It is the humane part of us to care, if thats been rubbed out, we are left with no thing and no I do not think its normal to not care. If so then I am very abnormal as I care about my son,my best friend, my tablemates here at gold crest.When you are do wn, Saphrina look up and see the sun, the clouds, the trees and grass, the flowers in bloom, really the world is so wonderful we have to care.It is what makes us a bit above the loser animals but not above our pet dogs and c a ts,they care so much and give us so much.if we all made ourselves more caring what a w onderful world this would be.I think others here do care about me, I have read it, felt it and seen it. cheer up. the world is great really.

There are some people here who care very much, otherwise they wouldn't make such efforts to influence others. For some it is a love thing. For others it has nothing to do with love, but power.

Saphy sweetie - in a group of 100 or more, you might like only four or five. And it is humanly impossible to care for all the 100 at the same level simultaneously. If you can remember that - you would realize that the person for whom you care may have other priorities. It doesnt mean she or he doesnt care for you. It just means that he or she has more pressing things on hand which have to be attended like as of yesterday? :) I for one care for you sweetie, you are the life of myLot.

It depends. Sometimes it is too tiring to care that I actually don't want to get involve anymore. To be honest, I consider myself selfish, but that doesn't mean that I am not sensitive enough to know and feel the feelings of other people. And if I know that it is time to care, I care.

hello saphy! your post makes me wonder why do we really care when we shouldn't care at all? i think it's just common feeling to care to people around you. but i can say,you just feel it deep within you if you really care for them. i just had a thought about this,funny you had asked. i am not in the mood to talk about what had happened to me this day to my sister who is asking me what had happened to me. i mean,why do she care when i don't have care for what is happening to her everyday lives as well? am i bad to have this thought?

you care because you are a human. that's what being a normal person is. :)

So, you are saying it is only worth caring if that care is reciprocated? You scratch my back and I'll be in Scotland before you, as the saying doesn't go. That kind of mutuality sounds rather like an agreement rather than a movement of care. Perhaps, just perhaps the carer gets more or at least as much as those to whom they render care? all the best urban

Hi there it looks you are having a hard day...now I ask you why care? and who cares? if no one cares what happens then? the world would be a chaotic place to live in [ it almost is now] I Am thankful for the people who cares and if we can do our little care every day the world for sure can be made a better place not just for you or me but for every one. I care and always will until my last day!

Interesting topic...I'm reading Dale Carnegie's How to win friends and influence people right now...I was very disappointed to realize the truth of human nature. It seems to me: from reading his book: that no one really cares about anyone but themself and no one is truly your friend-they all want something from you.

Hi there! I used to feel the same, the time when I tried so hard... lol This might sound cheesy, but I always force myself to not think how much do people care about me, but the exact opposite.. of course I also do want attention sometimes, but I think that's it.. I just gotta learn to take it .. sorry if you can't relate to this.. but that's just how I feel Have a nice day Saphrina! ^^

Yes you should care. It is one way of showing appreciation or gratification for the life and opportunity of living given to you. Remember how fortunate you are to live another day and have another chance. Caring is what makes us human, We care be cause we have the capability to feel, to sympathize, to empathize and to love. We might think people don't care for you but they do, they show it in their own way. And even if they don't doesn't mean you should stop caring as well. Because I believe all good things will come back to you eventually.

i don't care much things,but if i care,the reason almost is to kill time!