An engagement ring should cost 3 months salary!

Canada
November 26, 2010 10:08am CST
I do not think this at all! I would hate to be wearing a piece of jewelry that is that expensive, I would always be terrified that I would lose it or ruin it in someway. That is my personal opinion. I have read lots of articles and talked to lots of people who say that proper etiquette is for an engagement ring to cost 3 entire months of earning from work! What are your opinions on this? Would you expect an engagement ring that cost that much money?
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@Masihi (4228)
• Canada
26 Nov 10
Nope, never heard of that before, LOL. In fact, my husband gave me a ring (not quite an engagement ring, but it looks like one, and he bragged about how he got it on sale for 50% off and it only cost him fifty bucks. I admit I was hurt by it, but I got over it.
• Canada
29 Nov 10
I am sorry you were hurt by it. He could have at least kept that part to himself lol men sometimes they just dont get it!
• Portugal
26 Nov 10
ahah not at all kayla^^ how could i even expect that? i wouldnt at all expect that ever. i dont have a bf now but how could i want if i had a bf that he spend so much money in a ring only? he worked for three monthes as a crazy to waste all that in a ring? i wouldnt want that. also i dont think that that is etiquette for me thats a big exaggeration and i wouldnt want that ever^^ i just want a ring that he finds it is special and that he thinks is perfect for me even if is so cheap^^
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• Canada
29 Nov 10
That is how I feel. I wold not want him working for three months for 1 ring! I would rather how something cheap and know we have a good relationship and love each other. I think if he did buy a ring that expensive I would want to take it back...i would be too worried of losing it!
• United States
26 Nov 10
Heck no! The engagement ring itself doesn't really matter much to me.... I just want there to be a great guy giving it to me! I've never been a fan of diamonds or gold... I'd take a plastic 75 cent ring from a vending machine. Well maybe not that extreme cause I do want the ring to last and I'd prefer it didn't turn my finger green. But three months of salary? I don't expect that. I think the quality of the guy is more important than the ring.
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• Canada
29 Nov 10
I dont like gold or diamonds either. I love sterling silver the most...and that is fairly inexpensive! Like you said as long is thier a great guy giving it to you then the cost should`nt matter.
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• United States
29 Nov 10
I like sterling silver too! There's no reason a guy should go broke buying a ring. You want to start your married-life on good financial terms! A great guy is more important than an expensive ring.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
26 Nov 10
I've heard that little bit of 'ettiquette' before too and if must have become extremely outdated over the years. I mean, seriously, THREE MONTHS?? That seems insane to me. Maybe if a person only made $1000 a month - which would still be a mighty fine ring, mind you - but then they wouldn't be able to afford to live let alone go out and buy fancy jewellery. Personally, I could never leave the house wearing a ring that cost my husband three months of his salary. I would be paranoid of something happening to it and I would feel rather silly having a decent car on my ring finger!
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• Canada
29 Nov 10
Yes, I never thought of it like that, but it is like having a car on your ring finger...how could anyone want to have a ring that costs the same as a car. I would be very paranoid and scared of something happening to it!
@Angelwriter (1956)
• United States
26 Nov 10
I've never been married, so no experience with this. But, I think an engagement ring should cost what you can afford. And the price should be the least important thing. If I ever got engaged, I'd hope to get a ring that my finance thought would please me because of something other than the price tag on it. To put some kind of minimum amount on how much you should pay makes it less about what the ring represents and more about being a status symbol. In the great scheme of things, how could it possibly matter whether the ring costs 3 months salary?
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• Canada
29 Nov 10
Very nicely put...it should cost what you can afford and whatever that price is should not matter. That is totally how I look at it.
@maezee (32570)
• United States
26 Nov 10
I have no real opinion on it. I have never been engaged or had a boyfriend or fiance spend three times their monthly salary on a ring. It does seem a little bit over-doing it. I personally heard that people say it's good to spend "two months" (not three)'s salaries on a ring. Even that seems a little extensive. I mean, that must take FOREVER to save up! But some women like that kind of thing - lavish, uber-expensive, etc. I don't know if I would care. Love is love and can't be bought.. And it seems a tad bit overkill if you ask me.
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• Canada
29 Nov 10
Really...hmm I have always read 3 months, but who knows! As you said I think 2 months is an overkill to. But I am not one of those girls that like luxury.
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
4 Dec 12
I also not like expensive ring now Gold cost is hiking daily and you are right engagement ring cost means 3 months salary. I prefer only 3 to 5 gm ring.
@prashu228 (25797)
• India
4 Dec 12
hi, yes the gold cost is increasing day by day. So bad know. previously my mother used to buy the ear rings and chains happily but now she is not buying too much. hope it will come down so that we can buy more and more gold ornaments.
@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
I'm not after something that is visible when it comes to show your love or concern to someone. Like for family, for some reasons, moral support can most of the time be valuable than financial. For me, in a relationship, what is the worth of giving an expensive gift to your love one if the purpose is just to show it off that you are capable of giving such, or just to prove you're the person having the with what you called etiquette? Sincerety and thoughts of giving it is the most important.
• Canada
29 Nov 10
I also dont care about the visual sign of the love and commitment, but the level and love and commitment that is there. The etiquette is not importat to me, but the thoughts behind it.
27 Nov 10
In my opinion it is, well you wouldn't be engaged twice. I mean he needs to prove you his best and save. Now, In your part you have to take care of the things he give you, be sure not to put it anywhere. Engagement ring is a bond that ties both of you.Although for me what is the most important is what lies inside your heart. The decision is all up to you :D
• Canada
29 Nov 10
I do agree that I wouldnt want to be engaged once, I would like it to be a once in a lifetime deal. I think that there are other ways that I would want him to prove his best to me, by providing the things we need, bieng thiere for me when I need him, making me laugh things like that. But as you said and it was very well put *whats the most important is what lies inside your heart*.
@Ruby722 (798)
• China
27 Nov 10
I guess it's not that easy for poor people. a piece of shine ring maybe cost my 5 Months salary even more!
• Canada
29 Nov 10
Wow 5 months... would rather not get a ring at all!
@shaggin (37032)
• United States
27 Nov 10
Wow maybe 3 weeks worth of earnings at the most but not 3 months that is ridiculous. My ex got me my engagement ring and I was happy with it. The diamond wasent to big and it wasent to small. He took his whole paycheck to the mall that day and bought my ring the biggest he could afford. I thought it was nice. Engagement rings are pretty but really why do you need such an expensive ring you know. The expense paid on a ring doesnt mean that the person loves you more it just means they have more money and can afford to spend more money on your ring or they cant afford it and buy it anyway and wind up in debt lol.
• Canada
29 Nov 10
lol I totally agree, the expense dosnt mean they love you any more, just that they have more money to spend! I know that I would not be willing to go into debt for something like a ring!
@MJ7262 (12)
• United States
27 Nov 10
Uh duh clearly not! Considering that most marriages now a days don't last half as long as they used to just get a ring out of the bubble gum machine and be done with it....better yet splurge and get a ring pop color of her choice...at least that ring would serve a purpose.
• Canada
29 Nov 10
It`s so true marriages are not lasting as long as they use do. Thats one reason I dont care to get married. I know I want to be with my husband(common-law only) for ever. Being married isnt going to change the feelings any so why waste the money...we know how we feel.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
27 Nov 10
i have to agree with you. the best way to start a marriage is not to start it in debt. better to save up for a house or something equally as important.
• Canada
29 Nov 10
My husband and I(not really married just common law) thought that exact way. We are not married but we are buying our house. We didnt want to spend all the money rings, and weddings would cost and really wanted our house. So we skipped the the wedding and bought the house :)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
It's very rare for girls to have little interest on the price of a jewelry. My girlfriend wanted bracelets that cost a fortune. When i say fortune i mean my whole salary for a year. Although she loves me so that cancels out. :)
• Canada
29 Nov 10
Wow a bracelet that cost a years salary is crazy! I could never imagine spending that much on a piece of jewelry.
@prashu228 (25797)
• India
4 Dec 12
I an very afraid to wear the costly ornaments, because even though i take extra care something wrong definitely happens. yes the engagement ring costs too much. Any jewellery is always welcome .
@drasnian (548)
22 Jun 11
I agree with you - I'm hopeless for losing things, and I'd be scared to wear it in case I did something to it accidentally. It's a bit of a moot point for me though - my boyfriend and I are students, we HAVE no salaries to speak of. My engagement ring won't be anywhere near the average three month salary and that's fine with me. I just want something simple, to show our commitment.
• China
11 Dec 10
I think i will not wear it,but if my wedding dress is beautiful.You can vist www.dress2sale.com to buy cheap and beautiful wedding dresses to match your jewerly.