I am having problems in my love life these days......

India
November 26, 2010 12:40pm CST
These days my girl is not responding to me as I want her to. She says I have changed, but I know that I have the same love for her as I did. But she makes me feel that it is all my fault. I do not know why she acts like this. My lovelife has gone in midst of confusions.
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@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
26 Nov 10
Maybe it is NOT you at all!!! Maybe HER feelings are changing & she's just not brave enough to say that she no longer feels the same for fear of hurting you. Maybe during a time that she isn't blaming you for changing you can have a rational conversation with her & just ask her if her feelings for you have changed. You will need to be prepared that if she's being honest that she might respond that yes her feelings are changing. I know it won't be easy to lose a girlfriend, but it will be better than living a lie!!! Good luck to you no matter what happens!!!!
• India
27 Nov 10
No its not that at all. Because she knows how valuable love is. She knows how deeply she is attached with me. The only fact is that I cannot give her time and so she thinks that I am neglecting her. But nowadays I am somewhat busy with my project work. And also due to my coming exams, I have to postponed my visit to her place. There are some issues to be solved between us, but I think they will be solved for better. Thanks friends for your responses.
@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
27 Nov 10
So, you have changed & you even understand what the problem is. To add insult to injury, you don't love her enough to find time for her in your day. No wonder she is pushing you away...BEFORE SHE GETS HURT WORSE!!!! You've spoiled her rotten & now you want to just stop & be selfish...WTF are you thinking???? Good luck!!!!
• India
28 Nov 10
What good luck? You mean to say I do not love her and want to stop these relationship? You do not know how much we love each other. And she will die rather than going away from me. So better comment before you know things friend. Good luck to you.
13 Dec 10
Well, there it goes. Your unavailability made her feel that way. She's feeling that way because things have changed and it will probably take a while before she can get use to that change. She needs an assurance and the security that you will be there for her, or at least make her feel secure that she is the only one. The question now is how much do you want to save your relationship? If you want to. Make it up to her. Surprise her! of a spontaneous romantic date or get away. Sometimes it just takes a little surprise to light up the fire again. :)
• United States
27 Nov 10
When she says you have changed, have you asked her in what ways?? Maybe there is some truth there that perhaps you can rectify if the love is valued. However, you may find that perhaps the love it self had changed and perhaps nothing you do can change that. I say have a more in-depth discussion with her as to what changes she is speaking of it may clarify a few things. I wish you well with this.
@ladysakurax (1163)
• Canada
26 Nov 10
Everyone changes through time for the better or worse. Me and boyfriend also argued about that. When we dated 8 years ago, we were in highschool and I was a little immature and he considered that as fun. But through the years, I started to think alot such as philosophy, anything about life, my studying. For this reason, I became more mature and a little more serious than before. My boyfriend changed as well. He was more romantic before but now he is less lol. But we have to understand each other. You can't expect a person to remain the same forever. You should ask her what is it that bothers her in you. Maybe you can change again for the better or maybe you just need to reassure her the love you have for her.