Boyfriend/Girlfriend when is the legal age? Why?

@visavis (5945)
Philippines
November 27, 2010 5:03am CST
We are protected parents. Why? Because we want our children to complete, focus, finish first their study so we are always reminding them to study first before getting boy/girlfriend relationship. Is it rue that such early relationship can result bad/good result? Why? Most of us says I trust to our children that studies is her/his priorities. But still from our side always reminding to them. Do you have a set-up or legal age when our children can go for such relationship? share with us you ideas, opinion and comments or any suggestion you have... see you around
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14 responses
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
I don't really know. I had a relationship at a very young age, probably highschool was the first time i had some one in my life.
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
Ok you have relationship with someone in your early age, did your action or decission know by your parents? If no sorry but I tell you that not you close to your parents might you hide to them what you done... sorry again.. see you around
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
how dare you judge me or my parents. i think you're the typical conservative mylotter that every liberals should start avoiding. my parents understand me and respect more than anything. they were protective with our eldest sister, your attitude same with my parents before. all changed when she couldn't take it and rebelled. she was very honest and disciplined person, until she decided to live her life. unfortunately, you are the kind that should be avoided from now on. is this is the sort of Christian i should be conversing with? i hope you know what to do when you're children gets tired of your being disciplinarian and rebelled.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
For me there is no right age in having boyfriend or girlfriend. But it should really be not that young. But if the person feels that he or she is already responsible for themselves that they can have the discipline that they should have if they enter a relationship then they should try it.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
I just response to your word used "they should try it" meaning trial and error method if not succeed, no need. What is the dis-advantage for such thing? There is no true relationship just only try and try, may be to be good... see you around
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
Thank you for the comment. It doesn't really mean that they SHOULD try it but then if they feel like they want to be together then yes they should try. Well yes I would have to agree that there would a a lot of disadvantages but then in the end they will be the one who will suffer all the consequences. It is really be up to them if they would indulge into prohibited acts. If they think that they are already responsible enough then why not give it a shot right? our feelings and other people as well should not really be played like that. So the trial and error thing is really not applicable in this situation but then it looks like it is the same though. may seem bad to the eyes of other people but then if the two people in the relationship fails. They will all learn from their mistakes. I am sure they are all aware of what will happen with them in the future. Thank you once again for the nice comment.
@calpro (933)
• India
27 Nov 10
Hi, Here in India we have legal age for marriage not for getting into boy friend /girlfriend relation ship, Actually We need to tune their mind on to studies and the benefits of education. If they could understand good education is the only way to succeed in life half of our job is done. In my opinion just controlling them and their activities with strict supervision will not give us results. Explaining them the value of life and education in the right age will give positive results. Happy living Calpro
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
Yes as I know India has legal age of marriage as your culture and tradition. So most of parents their are pushing their children to complete study in order to have a good future... thanks to your views.. se you around
• India
29 Nov 10
I think the so call legal age you refer to is after girls and boys stop at puberty. Girls usually start at 9 and stop at 17. Boys usually start at 11 and stop at 19. However, in some puberty is prolonged until 21. Besides, there is a marked difference between physical and mental maturity. It is not easy to measure the mental maturity of a person. I think the right legal age is the time when girls and boys have attained physical puberty. However, you will have to watch their mental maturity to determine, whether they are mentally prepared and mature enough to enter into a relationship.
29 Nov 10
early relationships dont always result in bad ones, that depends on the people. i agree that we always want our children to finish shool and get settled with a job and there life before they start a relationship but that never happens and we just have to support them
@mbokratu (22)
• Indonesia
28 Nov 10
I have teenager kid too, and i protected her. I always tell her to have relationship after finishing her school because the first duty of her is studying. I'm afraid if she has had relationship with boyfriend, she will not focus on her studies. I am strict mom, right. I do this thing for her future. I think every parents want their children to be successful person in their lives.
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
When they "Graduate College" and start WORKING believe me that having a relationship even at school times is more distracting than inspiring. yeah, it's inspiring at first but when ever problems are set then that's the time problems are distracting everything I know children could hate you on those times you didn't want them to have a gf/bf but they will show gratitude and say than k you to you some day once they understand it.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
For me at the age of 20 because it is after the college days.
@markleob (1904)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
for me that would be 20+. that would be the age when a man has a job. for me a man doesnt have the right to have girlfriend as long as he is still dependent to his parents. he should be independent.
• Malaysia
28 Nov 10
These days, even if parents want to protect their children, there are too many windows to the world they can access outside to potential harmful relationships.Facebook is one and nobody can stop them chatting on the side. Texting on the hand phones is another way out. the best thing to prevent all these unwanted love affairs from affecting our children's studies is religious upbringing and home discipline. Once our children have good values, that will be the best protection against failed love affairs.
@eubilisa (212)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
The right age I guess is 16 if it's just boyfriend-girlfriend but if you will make it a serious one then I guess 20 is the legal age. As you know teenagers now are very much aggresive and they usually bumped in to a situation that they think they can handle but in reality they cannot. I'm not old infact I'm just 24 years old but I noticed that some of my cousins are looking forward to a relationship that they think for a lifetime. One thing I can say always consider the advise of those who are older than you.
@madteaparty (2761)
• Japan
28 Nov 10
I think it's a very bad idea to decide when your kids can have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. If they fall in love, it's something you neither them can avoid, so why would you make them feel bad forbidding them from having a significant other? Depending on the country you live studies have a bigger or smaller importance. For example, in asian countries kids have to study so much until they finish high school that they neglect having a normal social life a lot, and most of them become socially awkward because of that in the future, making also difficult for them to engage in a relationship. If I ever had kids I would like them to study enough to be able to have a good job in the future, but also to have a life, both in equal portions
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
As far as i know, it just happens. Although, yeah, we have to have some age restrictions for it especially if your kid is a girl. There had to be some time restrictions when it comes to dating.
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
27 Nov 10
My church recommends 16, just so that most of the kids are a bit more mature, they also suggest that we encourage our children to double date, so study dates are what works best. You can do your best, and there will still be times that our children will just do whatever they want anyways, it is the way of it, did you always do everything your parents expected you to? Sincerely and With Appreciation.