I don't feel like studying recently

China
November 29, 2010 5:36am CST
I do not know why,I only do not want to study.Although I know I must study hard,I can not control my heart.what should I do? Do you have the same feelings as me? Certainly,it is related to a girl who I love.I am very depressed.
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14 responses
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
We all get that. I experienced the same thing back in school days. All you have to do is realize that love life and education shouldn't merged because something like that might happen.
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• China
29 Nov 10
Thank you!I do know what I should do when meeting the things.
@calpro (933)
• India
29 Nov 10
Studies shape your life keep you on top. I know it happens with most of us when it is the issue of girl. But my friend remember one thing. A year lost in your education cannot be brought back. If you are successful in life girls will follow you undoubtedly. Forget the girl and concentrate on what makes you profit. It is your studies. Your parents might be paying you college fees, think about them when you get memories of that girl. Just take white paper draw a line separating the from top to bottom write what are the advantages of studies and and girls opposite to each other. I am sure you will have more advantages with studies. Never neglect your studies friend, nobody will care you if you are not well educated. Good Luck Calpro
• China
29 Nov 10
Thank!Your words have very profound meaning.I like the words "A year lost in your education cannot be brought back."I understand the truth.But do it will difficult.
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@gunagohan (3415)
• India
29 Nov 10
I am simply asking , don't mistake me, what is the major difference with my answer and this answer...I'm just asking....Curious to know !! Please don't mistake me!!
@calpro (933)
• India
29 Nov 10
Hi koAebryant, Nothing is difficult, If you start doing it. Love your studies more than anybody in this world. If you love it does not appear difficult. Good Luck Friend. Wish and pray you come up in life with flying colors. Calpro
• United States
29 Nov 10
Do you have a hobby? A activity you like to do? Take a break and go do it. Then come back and study.
• China
30 Nov 10
Yes,I always do that,but it seems nothing to me.
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• United States
30 Nov 10
Sounds like it is time to get a new hobby.
• United States
29 Nov 10
Okay, I need to smack some sense into. If you don't study, then you won't pass your classes, and if you don't pass your classes, that's bad too. You may love this girl, but if she doesn't love you back, then why obsess over her? This is girl is not worth all of this pain and aggravation. What you need to do is breathe, and once you are done doing that tell yourself that you have to focus on your studies because if you don't then what are you accomplishing. I was in love once too, but I still had to focus on my studies.
• China
29 Nov 10
You are a good girl.You can control yourself,but I can not.I do not think it is worth all of this pain.
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• United States
29 Nov 10
I'm not a good girl, I just do my best to not let things get to me. Like I said, this girl isn't worth the aggravation. You have to focus on the bigger picture and the light at the end of the tunnel because there is a light there, you just aren't seeing it, yet. Life is about loving and losing, and I have done a lot of that, but you just have to keep on going. You have to find the strength to move on. There will be other girls out there. She isn't the only one. You think that she is the only one right now, but she isn't.
@gunagohan (3415)
• India
29 Nov 10
Have this in mind, Career comes first !!!! Girl might come today and go tomorrow...But you have to concentrate on your studies. Your whole family will be proud of you if u study well... I too had the similar experience during my college, but i decided Career as the first goal and i concentrated much on studies, though my full concentration was not given to studies, there was a corner where that girl disturbed me, but see the results, the girl got high scores, though i came up with a decent score and graduated... Make sure, your life is solely dependent on what u do in your college !!! I have some who followed some girls and they struggled much in the end, even though they cleared, they had much problems...
• China
29 Nov 10
Thank you for your good advices.But do it will difficult.
@calpro (933)
• India
29 Nov 10
Hi gunagohan, Well analyzed and well advised. Happy Mylotting Calpro
• Singapore
30 Nov 10
You have to know when to draw a line between relationships and studies. In my school, almost all the people here are dating and none are concentrating in school. As a student, you must prioritize when to do and when not to do. If that girl does not love you or what, so be it. What's most important for you now is to study hard and get into a university. Good luck!
• China
30 Nov 10
Thank you!
@rolash (34)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
Your girlfriend should not be making you choose between her or your life. She should respect and trust you in doing your own things and succeed in your life. Go for your dreams, i mean your future. =)
• China
30 Nov 10
Thank you!I have no girlfriend now.I ever go for some girls.But they all do not like me.
• China
30 Nov 10
Brother, I think everyone has experienced it like u get through. even we know our primary task is study but we still could not control our heart, right?
• China
30 Nov 10
Yes.
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
29 Nov 10
KoAebryant, Yeah, I've never liked to study all that much. But my main motivation is keeping my grades high. I always study the night before, and that's it, because I work better under pressure, with an approaching deadline. When it comes to it, I always see education as the most important thing. I would suggest separating your love life from your education, as you don't want those two things to mix. That can end up really badly. Set some goals for yourself. Try to maintain all 95%'s or something, and try to reach your goal. I always need some kind of motivation to keep me going, so try it out. I even apply these techniques to making money online. I start out by choosing something I would really want, and looking at the price. Then, I set a deadline, and try to meet my goal by that deadline. It works very well. Good luck! Annie
• China
30 Nov 10
Your ways is very good.Let me try.Thank you!
@hushi22 (4940)
29 Nov 10
same here pal. well, please try not to be depressed. take some chocolates and bananas. get back to your goal and priority. im sure that isnt the girl.
• China
30 Nov 10
Thank you!
• India
29 Nov 10
well if you are not able to study because a girl have left you and you are depressed then think this as a good opportunity to study. study anything you like even if it is not in your course because this will divert your attention and you will be normal again....all the best
• China
29 Nov 10
Thank you!I will try.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
1 Dec 10
You may need some time out because you’re feeling down and that may or may not be possible. You must consider the importance of your studies in regards to your future. The girl in question may not be part of your future but your studies and qualifications are! Don’t allow yourself to become a victim by letting one rejection shape your future. Empower yourself by focusing on your studies!
@mustread (225)
• Bulgaria
30 Nov 10
Hm , try to go out with friends . Forget about all your studies for a day or two and just relax . After that you won't have trouble studying I think . At least that's how I deal with my studies - every time I get bored and feel like dropping out of school I go out to a club , relax for 24-48 hours and start to study with a great enthusiasm . Try it too.It might help.
@cecil04 (409)
• South Africa
29 Nov 10
It's a normal thing to not want to study even if you know that this test could decide your whole future. I do this all the time, I find that studying at at knight helps. When it came to my learner test for driving I studied the night before the test and I passed, but I don't recommend it and it was a close call.