How to Deal With Selfish People?

I think aside from setting a distance you should limit a contact with the person as much as possible. Chances are, the person will not even realize that you're avoiding him/her. Maybe the least thing we can do is help them realize their behavior.

I hate people like that . They suck hardly . Just ignore them and stay away from them . You don't need people like that ;)

you can try telling the person about how you feel. sometimes people are just not aware.

Yes I agree with all of the above. I have noticed some very selfish people in my own life. I do try and stay away from them. But be there at the same time saying hey look at how you are being. It's a fine line and it seems like you gotta walk right down the middle.

I think selfishness is in the genes. I noticed that at some of my relatives. It would be nice to have some general way to deal with selfish people, but I don't think there is any. On the other hand, in these days of economic crisis, anybody can become selfish because of poverty. So it's better to ignore it or to try to understand the phenomenon.

Who is a selfish people? Who can give an exact definition? Whether it means those people who profits at other people's expense? Sometimes It is difficult to judge a selfish people.

you know what??? i have a very selfish hubby and how i deal with him is to have lots of patience and keep on telling him how i want him to change for a better person for his advantage... and guess what??? over the years, it works... he changes slowly and his selfishness disappear bit by bit... so i totally agree with your point number 3 and 5 that we have to be patient and honest with our feeling to deal with selfish people... take care and have a nice day...

I know of at least one young lady who everyone thought was selfish, when she was just shy and terrified of interacting with people. She was one of the bullied kids in high school. When she got out, she figured the rest of the world would be like the years she had struggled through. She kept to herself so much that people, who knew nothing about her previous life, figured she was selfish and stuck up. Unfortunately, the things she feared would happen did, simply because she had no clue how to interact with people and make friends. Get to know the person you think is selfish first. He/she may well be what you think, but the person could also be frightened of a world they don't understand.

For me I said correct you are there friend I been encounter it before for now not at all because I make separate from them so that there life would be not copied in me. And in the bible bad association spoiled useful habit.

Have you ever heard about the way you treat people is the way you treat yourselves ? If the person is self-fish, naturally the people around him or her will be the same to him or her too. Nothing much you have to upset with this type of people. It is wasting your times too. For me, I just concentrate in my works.

To be honest with you on all the pointers that you have mentioned here that describes me anyway. This is the type of person i am. I am a friendly outgoing person and i try to avoid confrontation at all costs, i hate to fall out with people but when i do i try to distance myself, let them come to me and hopefully they will see where they have gone wrong. Life is too short to fall out but some people just only care about themselves, they are very selfish self centered people. It's like in the past when i have been in a relationship i knew that her parents hated me, they didn't know me but still did not like me at all and they made it so clear and obvious to all. I therefore tried to get on there good side but nothing i did was good enough. I only did this as i am not a nasty guy and i didn't want problems, especially with my girlfriend, but her parents continued the way they were and unfortunately the relationship didn't last. Why are people like this? It really does sicken me that people have to be this way, there is no need for it at all.

I tink that there are a few people that i can call selfish, they are the people that i avoid.The people that i know that are selfish are the ones that are also two faced.In the past i have just put up with these kinds of people, but now that i know what they are like i tend to be as selfish as they are.If you treat people the way they treat you, then they usually learn in the end.

My friends don't change out of the sudden . They are calm and good people who know who they are , and what they wanna be . If someone becomes acting this way I will not mind him/her and will distance myself . I don't want to have something to do with such people , who enjoy and prefer themselves to others. Selfish people are a bit narcissistic and that's one of the things I don't like . It is annoying to everybody to try making yourself the center of the universe.

If you are really a true friend of that person I guess you wouldn't reach up to the point of distancing yourself because of his/her selfishness. That would be really a mean thing for you to do. Why not tell her your view on things, probably he/she has her reasons or probably she was brought up in such a way that being selfish is her ways of coping on things. I remember someone say "you don't have to hate the person. Its what she does is the problem"

All are good suggestions, #5 is the hardest and it depends on the person your going to confront. If it's a family member it probably will be more difficult to tell that person.

I guess you are right, the best thing is really to try to avoid them, but it can be hard to do, I have found, especially if it is someone close to you. I am getting better at this though!

Yes this is the best way to deal with selfish people. Selfish people are a curse on this earth and they should be left lonely and they don't deserve to be treated in a nice manner. There are many instances where the self centered person doesn't realize that people don't like them. So, we should make them realize that they are selfish and they don't deserve to be behaved properly. Many times I have dealt with this sort of persons in my life. They are disastrous. Try and stay away from them.

I tend to keep a particular level of distance from selfish people, not only they are selfish, they can get you into trouble with their attitude too! I try to ignore them as much as i can hoping they leave me alone before i have to tell them the truth :D .