insecurities, mostly on women? how true?

November 29, 2010 8:33am CST
Survey says women are more insecure than men? how true? Most women, have a few nagging insecurities when it comes to relationship. Based on experience, somehow true. Years ago, I am feeling so insecure that my husband is going to cheat on me with that I can not blame myself for being irrational sometimes! I had a very hard time overcoming the feeling! Do you think it's normal? how would like to share your insecurities, ladies?
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• Philippines
29 Nov 10
Hello kaye, Men and women have their own different insecurities in life.But comparing the two, women are more vocal about feelings. For me its okay to be vocal than keeping it inside but rest assured in accordance with respect. Insecurities do come in when we lack confidence to our self and trust. Trust not just to our self but also to our partners in life. Be optimistic as much as possible. Never inflect doubts on fidelity because its hard to erase that on mind. Its in the concept of what the mind conceive the body can achieve. Negative assumptions will follow it through. No body likes in this kind of situation. No married woman dream on this. Know your insecurities, the how and why and divert it depending on what suits you best for your goodness.
30 Nov 10
Thank you for the positive feedback Sardonyx. I am more optimistic now compared to our first two-three years! I've tried moving on, forget the past and learn from it! I just hope I am totally out of insecurities. =)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
You're welcome kaye. Wow! its nice to hear that from you. Letting go off the past. Forgive and forget everything. Never regret at all.Lessons are already taken. For everything has its reasons. Years have passed. Bury the word insecurities now. hehehe.
@toniganzon (49185)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
My mom was a very insecure woman and would get jealous at other women flocking around my dad. She would nag him and they would have a big fight! I've seen all of it and swore I'd never be a jealous woman. True to my words, I met a man, luckily, who loves me more than anybody in this world and treated me like a queen. He was and i believe is still so deeply in love with me, he never allowed me to think for one moment that he would cheat on me. I never get insecure at all with our relationship. I just told him that if he ever cheats, just once, I would live him together with our son.
30 Nov 10
Hi Toniganzon, I agree that you're lucky to have someone whose making you feel loved and secure. And the fact that you have once witness how your parent's married life is ruin by insecurities, i can say that both factors helped you live your life free from insecurities!
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
men have insecurities like women..they just don't want to talk about it :) its just that women are upfront about their fears, doubts, and self-esteem. you don't need to feel insecure, to begin with stop thinking too much negative. Don't be too suspicious, it will just cause you guys unnecessary arguments and so on.. the best way to deal with it is to TALK to your husband, talking about problems is important when trying to overcome one's insecurities and MOVE FORWARD. believe me, this works for me :)
29 Nov 10
Another factor of releasing insecurity is sincerity, make your woman felt her security in you. Do not flirt when you're with her, make her feel that she's the only girl for you! always compliment her, make her realize that she still has it! Boost that sinking ego...
@natnickeep (2340)
• United States
29 Nov 10
I think media and how women are viewed give us a lot of our insecurities. We feel there is so much to compete with these days with beautiful skinny women all over the tv and magazines. Every where you look. These images just aren't real life. I think remembering that and that no one is perfect will help release a little of our insecurity. I have troubles with this and I am still working on it. I do think it is normal. Why else would so many women feel this way right. It's human nature to compete. And when you feel you don't match up with the competition insecurity is inevitable.
29 Nov 10
I am so happy that I'm not the only one believing that it is indeed a normal feeling! I do not fear those women in tv and magazine, If your man started giving you a reason by cheating in the past, i think it's a big factor to be feeling insecure.
@piya84 (2591)
• India
30 Nov 10
Women do have insecurities and men do have them as well.But in Men in general are less expressive when it comes to their feelings.They bottle up those feeling and pretend to be strong.It opposite for women.We go on every forum on internet,friends family and do blah blah blah! so every one knows about it.
• United States
30 Nov 10
I think it's normal. I have insecurities and trust issues only because it has happened, happened to someone we know, or just through media.
30 Nov 10
hmmph well I know someone who is going through this. In my case, I see it differently.I think I'm not insecure but pretty possessive. I tend to posses someone I love. I think most man think we are insecure when we question them or nag at them but the fact is we are just so in love with them. So, it appears to be insecure. If they would just think and analyze we are not insecure because we know that we are greater to those women that they are trying to hit or those women who are trying to catch their attention :D
@dodo19 (32682)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Nov 10
Personally, I think that both men and women have insecurities. The only difference is that our insecurities are not the same. My husband and I both have insecurities. The only thing is that we feel insecure about different things.
@pogi253 (1587)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
Insecurity in a relationship is a spontaneous issue. There are only some people in the world who fully understand and stay attentive of their own insecurities which they bring into their relationships, however, how their own insecurities straight affect their relationship. Nine times out of ten, insecurities brought into a new relationship were obtained from past relationships, both intimate and non-intimate. No one, male or female should have to change themselves in order to cope with someone else's issues. Relationships, on any level are about cooperation and trust. If insecurity is brought to a relationship from the start, you are never giving that person a chance to prove to you they are not the same as the last. Therefore the insecurity continues and strengthens.
• India
29 Nov 10
I think feeling insecure basically depends only on one factor that is becoming not very conscious about the partner. Sometimes it is seen that men behave in a strange manner as if they are unconscious about their partner's likes and dislikes. Often it is seen that after a long period of relationship the behavior of a men or a women make insecurity alive. But sometimes this is just a normal thing and in reality there is no problem.