Not attending company xmas party

@mhypie03 (684)
Philippines
December 2, 2010 1:57am CST
I know every December, companies never fail to hold a party for their employees and that includes good food, extra gifts and prizes (money!) exciting fun and games. I have always looked forward on this especially with close friends in the office. This year, I'm not really into it. I started last July 12th on my new company and is based on one of our clients. I have like 2-4 acquaintances here but overall I am all alone but it does not bother me but it's excruciating when you're totally alone and got nothing to do at all everyday. So I didn't get a chance to make friends to other consultants since I was deployed here all by myself. Good thing I get to celebrate parties from other groups I have joined before, atleast it could make up on my lonely december days. ='(
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12 responses
• United States
2 Dec 10
So sorry to hear this my friend, it surely is. Maybe if you attend for a short time you may be able to discover nice and friendly people. Perhaps not going may give a bit of bad impression, as so many will be in the holiday spirit and wonder why you are not socializing. Maybe try and go in for an hour or so to give your presence as then people later will be a bit more friendlier as they really do not know you. If you do not attend please do not feel blue, try and have a good time with your other groups as well. Good luck and I sure wish you a wonderful holiday season.
• United States
3 Dec 10
Truly sorry to hear this and I hope things turn around sometime soon. I hope you do however have a good time with the groups that you already know and plan to be with for the holidays.
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
I really hope so too. Anyways I'm only 23, I have a long way to go. I wouldn't be missing me much. But of course, if it turns around, the better and happier my memories with them will be. God knows what I need so I have other groups with me to fill-up the lonely days others are quite enjoying.
• India
11 Dec 10
Hello my friend mhypie03 Ji, Please do not feel lonliness as I think it is foundation of many sickness. Feel free to dicuss any topic with people around. My hubby is very fond of mixing with anyone and discussing on all asorte3d topics while we are under transit. When we go for any party he will forget abpoiut me and carry on talking and enjoying dinner forgewtting about me. I think, one gets into depression if one is left alone. So p;lease mix up and enjoy December and above all we are all here to give you company. May God bless You and have a great time.
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@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
14 Dec 10
Yes, very true. The fact that most of my miseries and loneliness in life are kept in my heart and forgets it for the mean time is much harder when you're left alone and they keep flashing back from your memory. Don't worry, I am stronger than I may seem to be because I have a God who helps me to keep going. =)
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• India
17 Dec 10
Hello my friend mhypie03 Ji, So nice of your positive response, what I have observed that you believe in Almighty, whiich will surely guide you and stirr your life in correct direction. But when you are in gathering, and once you understand the very concept , you must try and approach yourself and break the barrier,introduce yourself and pick up string from any corner, if nothing in front of you, you can even diiscuss some of the points we discuss here. This way, yoiur presnce would be felt and you will feel yourself elevated. Then you will feel happy, a new experience. Thanks. May God bless You and have a great time.
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
18 Dec 10
I know. But I find difficulty in doing that because I am the only one in team. Thes rest are solid groups from different teams. I am to be called orphaned because I have no Project Manager or whatsoever. I work on my own so if I were to join them, most of the topics are also about their team mates and other people from the company they've worked before. It's easier to open conversations with other strangers if you know what I mean. =)
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• United States
3 Dec 10
Most of the time I am not working the day they have the holiday party. This year it will be held on a day that I work but , it won't be in the building , it will be at the second in command's house. From the moment I heard that , I thought no thank you. Plus it is pot luck. I could see not only would I feel out of place, I wouldn't find anything to eat. So when my boss tried to change my hours so I woud work an hour later , I told her no , I rather work.
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@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Oh my! Pot luck? Good luck! LOL! Well our company's christmas party (as they call it here) is very much decent with the food. I think! But same with you, I don't want to feel awkward because I will definitely feel out of place instead of having fun and enjoying the night. So I'd rather stay home then. I still have other groups to celebrate the holiday season so I am not missing much. =)
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• United States
4 Dec 10
Exactly , I have a holiday party that will be fun to go to later this month. Thanks for the best response.
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
Well I have a wedding and a christening event to consecutively attend by next week. Let's have a good December though dear friend. You're most welcome with a truthful best answer. =)
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@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Dec 10
hi myhpie03 I am sorry for you as you seem pretty much alone but even if the others are old ladies some of us old ladies can be good fri ends with people of all ages.How can you work at a job if you have no thing to do? I am glad you do get t ol celebrate' other parties with other groups. I bet your old ladies are what thirty years old, thats not old try to make friends with them I am old 84 so 30 is not old.I worked in the library and the Christmad party was always a big thing and we all attended and had so much fun' and we were all ages too.and if you have nothing to do at work ask for something to do as you are there to work surely?
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@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Well I'm not generalizing all old ladies though. LOL! I am guessing most of them are 30's 40's 50's and even 60's? HAHAHA! I know but if I get to work with them then maybe but unfortunately, that couldn't happen. They are either in Sales, Marketing, Accounting and HR dept. I am in the IT dept. No way to get their attention. HEHEHE. And yes, I barely do nothing here. That is a question to me as well. I am a contractor and if I ask the one who hired me who'sa based in Thailand, that can be a different story because the should give me things to do within the scope of work. If there's nothing to do then there is really nothing to do. I am just an extra head count here so most probably that answers the question. =)
@shaggin (38504)
• United States
3 Dec 10
When I worked at a hospital every year around December 6th they would have an annual Christmas party. It was beautiful. They would raffle off 3 gorgeous christmas trees. They would have tons of food buffet style. The hospital is the largest employer in the area so there was so many people in this huge hall and the food never runs out. People would dress in gorgeous dresses and they would have different people perform things such as singing or dancing or ringing bells. It was always a nice thing to go to. I went with my fiancee the three years I went. The first year we had no idea what it was going to be like and we went and people were in ball gowns and my fiancee and I didnt fit in at all. We ate as fast as we could and left.
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@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Oh yeah. Last year when I was with my previous company, I attended their grand xmas party. It was awesome. Food was good, raffle items are lovable and the program is not bad at all. Our team are in jeans while most of the people especially the sophisticated ladies are in their cocktail dresses but we didn't mind at all. We were still welcomed afterall. Now, it's all different. It's weird not to attend one though.
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
yes, every company have their Christmas party, actually we also have it, and i am one of the committee of our party, i think it cold be nice to attend because it will develop our social lifestyle, to distress our self, not just always work,work,work.
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@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
I have tons of scoial life with other groups and from previous work places I've been with that until now I was able to keep a good relationship with most of them. It's just a different story here. I have no other team members with me. I only have one contact person who's actually based in Thailand. Other than that I've got no one even from the consulting firm who's been handling me because they instantly deployed me here. So chance to make friends with anybody and now it's rather awkward to attend the party. I joined one of the clubs, maybe somehow, things could change that will make me stay there longer than I expect.
• India
14 Dec 10
Hello mhypie Friend, I am from india, am retired now after 44 years of teaching in colleges, i am hindu, x'mas is not our festival, but i have so many christan friends in my city, state , even out side india, my friends here send me cake etc, we exchange gifts too, schools, colleges here have the so called XMAS holidays..there is no party in schools and colleges lol Thank you so much for sharing. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. . God bless you. Welcome always.
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
Oh yeah, I live in a Catholic country so it's more understandable everybody's busy during December period. I am not much into partying but I like the thought of having to meet old friends during this season. It fills up the space that have gone by the days. Above all, this post is all about my lonely sentiments I wish in the coming years would change for the better and/or best. =)
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
In my father side they are catholic but on my mother side they are not celebrating christmas because of their religion but my mom join christmas party because of her friends. We also celebrate chistmas on my father side.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
24 Dec 10
I am so sorry you are lonely....I hope that Christmas finds someone you can be with.....I don't want anyone to have to be by themselves! Merry Christmas!
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
I'm doing fine. Don't worry. These are 3 out of 10 bad things that happen to me. But overall life has been good to me.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
8 Dec 10
But maybe this is your chance to gain more friends! If you attended this new company's Christmas party. Everyone will be in a lively spirit, so it would be a great time to meet new people. And maybe you can network for possible opportunities in the future. Goodluck!
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
9 Dec 10
My gut feeling of not being able to enjoy it is so strong I know I would end up really really disappointed. So I just follow my instinct. I did join one of the company's club which is a food club and on the 20th we'll do food tripping. I will take things little by little so just not to overrate my expectations with them.
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
7 Dec 10
I do attend company christmas parties because it's compulsory. Whenever i'm attending one, i will be sure to drag my bf over because i want him to be around. SO far, my bf has been good enough and i really appreciate that. In a way it's a good thing because when i'm in a situation like yours, at least i have my bf for company and he's a good ice breaker whom can help me make more friends during the party too.
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
Oh, that does not sound any good to me, a must attendance on a christmas party like oo-oh no to me! But if your bf is a good conversationalist, there should be no problem at all. I brought my bf with me too last year with my previous company's christmas party and we enjoyed it especially him and the great food there. But right now, I don't think we're allowed to bring an outsider or maybe not. I don't really know and I'm not really interested. LOL!
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@djbtol (5498)
• United States
3 Dec 10
Does your new company have a Christmas party planned? Would you go, or do you think it would be awkward? In time you will once again have a good supply of friends.
@mhypie03 (684)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
Yeah, that's what I am actually mentioning here dear friend christmas party at my new company I have no plans of going to. In time, yes and I am looking forward to it. Thanks!
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
Trying to join other christmas party is a good idea. The more important is you are happy this coming christmas with your family. Im so excited to see my family members from the other side of this country..I never see them for such a long time..