To live or not to live with your partner/spouse

Australia
December 2, 2010 4:52pm CST
I have seen alot of relationships that work really well when the 2 people live together & the same when the 2 people live apart. My hubby & I work better when we live apart & drive each other mad when we live together full time. We have ben back living together full time for about the past 2 years & driving each other mad but at the same time, we are proud that we have made it work pretty well. We both admit that we get along heaps better when we live apart & that usually means he's working out at the mines & is only home either for the weekend or a few days every 2 - 4 weeks. What about your relationship? What do you think works best in your relationship?
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9 responses
@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Hi moonchild! my response to you is already written is celine's reply,i had a mistake putting my response under her username,i thought i was the one who is logged in,haha! anyway,nice discussing this topic with you.
• Australia
3 Dec 10
You have really hit on a good point - most of us live apart because we need to due to work commitments...this is the reason my hubby works away from home as he has worked in the coal mines in Central Queensland & plans on going back to work there as there is more money to be made out there...the more money we earn, the more we can save to buy a house or whatever else we want.
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• Philippines
3 Dec 10
True enough moonchild! Even if we dont want to live apart,can't do anything but to accept the consequences of it,anyway, being apart for quite sometime makes the relationship work even better,you tend to be more sweet to your partner! In God's time i know for sure my hubby will stay with us and work no more abroad because we're gonna have our own business,Godwilling!
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• Australia
3 Dec 10
I totally agree & I wish you & your hubby all the best when trying to fulfil your dreams of starting your own business.
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• Philippines
3 Dec 10
I would definitely say live together moonchild! Well,we live apart most of the time but it is because my hubby works in a cruise ship wherein he stays there for about 6 months and stay with us for about 2 months for his vacation. We do not want it that way,to live apart,but what can we do,he needs that job for us to have a better life,the economy in our country is not that good so he needs to work abroad. Our plan is to earn money so in time he will just stay here with us,we still need to earn money to have our own business. We are better living together moonchild because everythings seems to be in harmony when he is here,problems are solved easy when we're together! Well,as the saying says IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO,right?
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Oh my moonchild,it was a wrong send,that response is from my aunt who didnt notice that she is not logged in yet,so she will just copy and paste that response and put under her name ok! im still single,haha! mistakes do happen all the time especially if you use only one computer,haha!
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• Australia
3 Dec 10
That's cool Celine, I will respond to your aunt down below where she has written her next one
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• India
3 Dec 10
When we are apart, we miss each other a lot. And when my loved one is near, I dont give him all happiness what to be given. Why is this so. I have not got an answer to this till now. If I dont see him for sometime, I go mad. I have to atleast speak once a day or will go crazy.
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• Australia
6 Dec 10
We do miss each other if we are not together but we don't have to speak to each other every day although we do & sometimes several times a day depending on how busy we are.
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• United States
3 Dec 10
I've been married for over 17 years and in some ways I can relate to you. There are times when my wife and I drive each other crazy but, we learn to give each other the benefit of the doubt. Love is patient, love is kind, love does not envy - love is not proud. Love behaves, love is not selfish or easily provoked, love is not evil. Love shares truth instead of spreading lies; love bares all, love believes all, love endures all, love has hope for all...love never fail. 1st Cor. 13: 4 - 8 That's the principle we go by, and it works very well..of course it does - Jesus being the center of our relationship is perfect...we are not, but He is...
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• Australia
6 Dec 10
We too try to give each other some space when we are starting to wear a bit thin on each other.
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@monty21 (120)
• India
3 Dec 10
It does not matter you are living or not living with your spouse/partner. Only it does matter that you should have great understanding with your spouse or partner. As a result, there will be no problem in your relationship.
• Australia
3 Dec 10
I totally agree - I just started this discussion to find out what everyone else's points of view are as we are all different.
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@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Yes we are living in good harmony as partner and we've meet all the necessary requirements to a long lasting relationship that we make it well and good. I better live with him and die with him. As a living partner and we make the most out of the years gone through think and thin we now made a strong band relationship and there is no reason to be apart until we reach the end journey.
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• Australia
3 Dec 10
My hubby & I have been through alot of tough times & we have a strong bond but I guess we just function better when we are working/living apart for short stints.
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@toniganzon (48524)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Definitely living together. It would be very difficult for the both of us to stay apart although we live apart every weekend. I go home to my parents' house and he goes to his. I don't feel comfortable in his parents' house and so is he. So every weekend, we're not just together at nighttime but we meet during the day time. My husband and I can't just be a part for too long but I think we can survive if circumstance would call it.
• Australia
3 Dec 10
You guys sound like a sweet couple...don't get me wrong, my hubby & I miss each other when we are apart but we just work better that way.
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@lumenmom (1996)
• United States
2 Dec 10
I have not tried living apart but I think we would get along a lot better if we did. We tend to fight more and get on each other's nerves more now that we are older. We also have so many areas where we are different....I like quiet, he likes noise. I like to sleep in the dark with the TV off and he likes to sleep in the light with the TV on. He also likes to get up around 3am to cook whick wakes me up and makes me cranky. Maybe we will have to try living apart and asee if that works for us!
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• Australia
3 Dec 10
My hubby is like you & I am like your hubby when it comes to sleeping
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• United States
2 Dec 10
It does happen to couples sometimes as it truly is very hard to adapt with different personalities. I can only say that my boyfriend and I made it 5 years two days ago and I can't imagine life without him. I was married once before and let's just say neither one knows where the other is, and I am so happy about that. I am glad that your husband and you recognize the issues that preclude you both from staying together full-time, as it sounds like that at least neither one takes the other for granted and well are trying the best that you can.
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• Australia
2 Dec 10
This is true...I mean we are best friends as well as spouses but we just work better as a team when we are apart
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